If divorce wasn't an option…

posted 3 years ago in Beehive
  • poll: if divorce wasn't an option would you still go through with it?
    Yes : (95 votes)
    63 %
    No : (11 votes)
    7 %
    What a stupid test/question : (44 votes)
    29 %
    Other (please explain) : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    5015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I would never have gotten married if I actually considered divorce a real option. 

    Post # 3
    Member
    1254 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    cpick:  Well we both went into our marriage saying divorce was not an option (essentially this meant saying that we will not break our vows to one another.) This was DH’s second marriage, he entered it very seriously and thought hard about what it was he wanted out of a relationship and in a partner.

    Post # 4
    Member
    7888 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Stupid question. Divorce is a (last resort) option and I’m not going to waste time considering a (for me) hypothetical society where it’s not.

    I married because I love him and I was (and am) confident it would last. But I can’t see the future and in the extremely unlikely event that he cheats or turns abusive, I’m outta here.

    Post # 5
    Member
    9560 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’ve seen some pretty awful marriages. If divorce wasn’t an option (aka were forced to share a house and finances and decisions with your spouse forever, no matter what) I’d probably never marry anyone. Crazy shit happens. I can’t fathom my husband beating me or a hypothetical future kid, but if he did, I would need the option to be able to leave.

    Post # 6
    Member
    760 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse

    as a 2nd time bride, I went in to my first marriage with the idea that divorce was not an option.  And it wasn’t until I put more value into the well being of my children and my own sanity that I decided I needed to explore that last resort.

    It wasn’t a decision I made lightly but no one should be in a bad relationship and you need to value yourself above a piece of paper and broken commitment.

    No one gets married planning on a divorce but sometimes you have to make tough choices for the betterment of everyone.

    Post # 7
    Member
    3082 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

    No. But if divorce wasn’t an option I wouldn’t marry anyone since you never know what can happen. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    1267 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    cpick:  I picked stupid, because if divorce wasn’t an option I wouldn’t marry ANYONE. Obv I don’t plan on divorcing FI but still…..

    Post # 9
    Member
    2102 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Murder would still be an option though right?

    Post # 11
    Member
    256 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    JenGirl: Amen, sister!

    Post # 12
    Member
    538 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014 - Columbia, SC

    cpick:  Yes, but I wish I had thought about it before I got married the first time. I will keep it in mind for when my kids get married.

    Post # 13
    Member
    7084 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    If divorce wasn’t an option I never would have married anyone. Shit happens.

    Post # 14
    Member
    2466 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Of course- to us divorce isn’t an option.  I think considering it as a valid option isn’t taking marriage too seriously.  We all love talking about sparkles, and dresses, and flowers on here, but at the end of the day it really is about making a LIFETIME commitment to your partner.  

    Post # 15
    Member
    8476 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I guess I never really saw divorce as an option, which is why I was so hesitant to get married in the first place.  Once I met my husband, I knew we would be together, so not having the option of divorce wasn’t really an issue.  Death is the only out for me lol.

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