If giving up a few things meant you could have an earlier wedding

posted 2 years ago in Beehive
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I wouldn’t. As far as I’m concerned, the wedding is just a party and I want it to be as fantastic and fun as possible. If we just wanted to get married, we’d go to the courthouse. Not in any rush.

Post # 3
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Newbee

Tanleggedjuliet I think about this all the time! My wedding is August 2015, so we will have been engaged 18 months which isn’t out of the ordinary. Though if I could go back I would have just decided to have a small and intimate wedding or maybe gone the destination wedding route so we could be married sooner. We have booked a banquet hall now but basically our timeline was more dictated by the availability of the halls in our area which were all booked until Summer 2015

So I would give up the whole banquet hall and the big wedding in favor for intimate and small #’s

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I am possibly giving up an amazing caterer, outdoor ceremony,  and spring color scheme to move our date up 5 months. I am so excited but stressed about pulling all this together in just 4 months. We still will have good food. The ceremony will be beautiful. And no one will know any different.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Tanleggedjuliet:  Yes, I would and kind of did. We orignially planned on waiting just over 2 years (engaged Nov. 2012, thought we’d have a Dec. 2014 wedding) for financial reasons. After a lot of deliberation and discussion DH and I decided we didn’t (and I really didn’t want to) wait that long-so we changed our date a year ahead of time and got married on NYE 2013. My parents did pay for the wedding, which was amazing, but I followed a strict budget and kept costs down since the date moved. I love what our wedding was-it was simple, intimate, and perfect. Would make that choice over again every time!

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 5 months ago by  KatiePi.
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Tanleggedjuliet:  I wanted to elope or have a destination wedding. FI wasn’t so keen on the idea since we’re the first children and grandchildren to get married on both of our sides and our older family members would be really upset. So, ~23 month engagement and 175 person wedding it is! 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Tanleggedjuliet:  It’s definitely an experience. And our families are happy about it. I was willing to compromise as long as we went on a really cool honeymoon no matter what. The saying that “the wedding is for the family, the marriage is for the couple” – or something? – applies to us.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I sometimes think that a desitination wedding would be wonderful- just close family, maybe a few friends, and a beautiful location to celebrate in. Now that I’m planning my wedding, I can see why this is a popular choice, especially for couples who are having a second marriage, vow renewal, or something like that. Wedding planning can be very stressful, a huge financial responsibility, and can create drama for some families (especially if drama is already there).

 

Despite the enticing simplicity of a smaller, more intimate wedding, that’s not the route my fiance and I are choosing. We’re young (21 and 22), and it’s the first wedding in both of our families for a long time. I’m really just enjoying the process and I wouldn’t want to rush it. Being engaged is tons of fun, and a stage in life I definitely don’t want to be over too quickly.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I kind of did this. I originally planned to get married in the spring of 2015. When I told people this date, their jaws would drop. We were engaged in the summer of 2012, so it would have almost been a three year engagement. I needed to save up because we had to pay for it o our own. I had some cool ideas at first. I looked into getting married on a yacht! It would have cost me at least another $3-4K, just for the venue. I also looked into getting married on a cruise, but I would have likely had to pay for some people to come and it would have been even smaller than the wedding I will be having.

Plus, cruises tend to go somewhere . I did not want to have my honeymoon with everyone I invited… So, the best option was to scrap those ideas and look for an affordable venue. I will have a 50 people or less wedding close enough for most people to attend. We will have an outdoor ceremony and an inside reception. There will be some liquor paid for, a nice plated dinner, etc. I also was able to do personal touches. I made the invitations myself, there will be faux flowers, my dress was only $230 (it is so perfect for me) and no DJ. By doing this, I was able to move the wedding up to August of this year!!! It was well worth it. Both my FI and I think that it would have been too long to wait pratically another year to get married,  just to have it at a different location. The only ESSENTIAL things are the wedding officiant, myself, and my FI. Anything else could have been altered. If all else failed, we could have eloped and had an amazing wedding in Japan, just the two of us. This way, we get to have the best of both, and still get to be on a boat for our honeymoon!

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