Post # 1
I have been seeing a lot of threads lately about affairs, cheating, infidelity, etc. I am a believer in the phrase “If he cheats with you, he will cheat on you.” Basically saying that if you were the “other woman” in an affair of a man’s, if you enter into a relationship with him, he will cheat on you later.
Just curious what others think! Take the poll!
Post # 3
I’m sure there are exceptions to this rule, but in my experience someone who cheats once is a serial cheater and people just believe that they’ll be the exception that makes them stop.
Post # 4
How you get them… is how you lose them, right Tori Spelling?
Post # 5
@beeintraining: I agree. Some people get into relationships that started out as a cheating situation, and actually end up happily together without any future instances of infidelity.
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I think it’s true in most cases. I know of one exception but I think it’s because wife #2 knew what she was getting into and keeps better tabs on her husband than wife #1 did.
Post # 7
No, I don’t believe “once a cheater, always a cheater.” People cheat in some relationships but not others. It’s not really that simple as the phrase makes it out to be.
But I do believe if he cheated on you once, he will most likely cheat on you again.
I cheated on my HS/early college BF, does that mean I’m going to cheat in every single relationship? Give me a break.
Post # 8
@beachbride1216: I would hate to be in a relationship where I had to consciously “keep tabs” on my SO to make sure he was acting faithfully. Sounds like a lot of work lol.
Post # 9
@highschoolhoneys: I picked the last option.
While as a general rule, I do believe that most cheaters will cheat again. However, I think there is a small, small percentage that is compelled by love to do something as horrible as cheating on someone and ends up perfectly happy with the person they cheated with because it was “meant to be” or whatever. But again, i think we are talking like 1% here…if that.
Post # 10
I believe there are always circumstances surrounding cheating. You cannot make such a broad statement. Every situation is different. There are serial cheaters, and there are people who cheat because of a moment of weakness, depression, a tough time, a terrible relationship that is so hard to break off you give up, etc.
Also if my fiance cheated on me I’d forgive him. He loves me and I love him. It would take a lot to believe that was different. It would hurt terribly but I’m so confident in our relationship and love that it wouldn’t end it. I realize this is an unpopular position.
Post # 11
Not neccessarily. Most people cheat when they are unhappy in the current relationship. So yes if the relationship is not a good one, or needs arent being met. So many things can take place with this issue. Some poeple are just bad heartless people and this is just the way they are.
If you have your concerns or suspcisions, ask him. But from someone that was cheated on for years, you know when it is happening!
Post # 12
@kes18: I also agree with you! It might have more to do with the relationship BETWEEN two people, rather than the personality of ONE of the partners.
Post # 13
Everytime I’ve seen it happen.. the girl who “steals” the guy always gets cheated on.
I’m sure there are rare cases where it may work out, but I wouldn’t count on it.
Post # 14
Some people consider faithfulness a major priority and will fight hard for it even when it’s most difficult.
Not these guys.
And life never stays on easy street forever. When the going gets tough, and it will, their true colors will come back out. If the person already knew the guy was a cheater though (or even had the affair with him!) she dug her own grave, they both deserve each crappy other.
Post # 15
My poll is more directed to people who have a known history of cheating. Not necessarily someone cheating on their SO for the first time.
Post # 16
My ex unbeknownst to me, cheated on his ex with me. He couldn’t break up with her he said because he felt bad. I had no idea until she had myspaced me.
The reason we broke up was because he was cheating on me with another girl..who he ended up dating for almost 2 years and then cheating on her.