- 8 years ago
So I was kinda cheesed a little at work yesterday, not hugely… more kind of irked.
We found out that my boyfriend’s uncle passed away over the long weekend, and so I inquired about whether I could go with him to the funeral this week. I went up to my boss and asked what the policy was on such circumstances (explained what happened, etc.) and he was like “now because it’s just your boyfriend’s uncle… no. But if it were your husband’s uncle, then that’s a different story.” I was like ‘what if we’re common law, because we are…?”
So we checked this book and read up on it, turns out because it’s not his immediate family, it doesn’t matter if we’re married or not..I can’t go. I understand and all, just kinda bummed I can’t be there for him, but boyfriend understands.
But the thing that bugged me a little, was the husband comment. Granted, he didn’t know for sure and had to check the book, but still!
I’m starting to not enjoy using the word ‘boyfriend’ to describe what he is to me, because I feel like it’s not taken as seriously as ‘spouse’ or ‘husband’. I even said to my guy when I got home, I was like ‘it’s just a title, it doesn’t mean that I’m any less serious about you’ and got a little flustered. He just said ‘it’s ok babe’ and rubbed my back haha.
I understand it IS different, don’t get me wrong. Standing up and exchanging vows, being legally binded forever is different in the eyes of others. The problem I’m having I guess is I don’t like the feeling that our relationship is seemingly thought of as “less than” married couples, when I’m still totally committed to my guy. We’re husband and wife in spirit, we live together, we’re there for the hard times and the good times. All that’s left for us to do is exchange the vows.
Anyway. I know this is a silly rant, I just needed to vent. Have you guys experienced this before? Do you guys have any suggestions as to what I could call my guy other than ‘boyfriend’, to help get rid of this silly feeling? lol would be much appreciated.
Thanks for reading ladies!!