(Closed) If I am inviting one co-worker, do I have to invite all? (small-ish office)

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I invite all co-workers in a small office to my wedding?
    Yes, of course. It would be rude to invite one, but not the rest. : (17 votes)
    30 %
    Yes, but it would not be a huge deal if you don't. : (7 votes)
    12 %
    No, it's not a big deal. : (33 votes)
    58 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    4525 posts
    Honey bee

    I definitely think you should invite them all. It seems pretty unlikely that they’ll come, but you should invite them all if you’re going to invite one. 

    Post # 4
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    9147 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    The genral rule of thumb with co-workers is that if you spend non working hours with them on a regular basis then the rest should be invited since you are inviting one of them.  The only way I would say not to invite the rest would be if the office is aware that you share a substantially closer relationship/friendship with the coworker you already plan to invite.

    Post # 5
    Member
    507 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Invite who you care to be there and can afford to host.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1231 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I say yes.  My wedding was only initmate family but I invited the co-workers (all) to the reception.  I didn’t really want all to come but it is very rude not to.  The only I didn’t invite were the doctors (like they would have come anyway).

    Post # 7
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    1231 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I forgot to say I worked in a small office also.

    Post # 8
    Member
    1692 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Hmmm I’m inviting a few from the office, but there are like 60 ppl in it. One person actually invited themselves, and I didn’t know what to do. What I ended up doing was mentioning there wasn’t a lot of room, and then after inviting close friends at work I askedthem to try and keep it hush hush so as not to hurt others’ feelings. They all understood and are ok with not discussing it  at work.

    Post # 9
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    1400 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Only give a STD to those you intend to invite and actually want there. If you were inviting half of the small office, I’d say it bordered on rude, but one is no big deal. Just explain to this one coworker that others aren’t invited and you don’t want them to feel badly, so could he/she please keep it on the DL.

    Post # 10
    Member
    650 posts
    Busy bee

    TO me its not a big deal if I am only close to one co worker then I’m not going to invite all just because we work together

    Post # 12
    Member
    152 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I’m only inviting one person from my office, because she’s a friend who I’ve known for years… even before I got the job.  I don’t think you should feel obligated to invite people from your office unless they’re people who you regularly spend time with outside of working hours.

    Post # 13
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    7879 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think it’s fine to invite only one. If you invite 7 and don’t invite 1, that’s rude. Even inviting 4 and not inviting 4 is difficult. But if you invite 1 and don’t invite 7, that’s no problem. Because no one is singled out for exclusion. No one can say “why didn’t I get an invite?”, because most people didn’t.

    EDIT: Just saw you’re inviting your boss too, but I also think inviting 2 out of 9 is ok for the same reason.

    Post # 14
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    1871 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    No way would I invite everyone to my wedding that I work with. I just find that ridiculous. Weddings are personal. If you are not a good friend of mine or at least someone I would consider a FRIEND at my work and have hung out with outside of the work place, then they wouldn’t get an invite. I work with like 30 people, only one person will be invited to my wedding when that time comes. There will be past employees invited who are no longer working with us at the location I work at, but as far as current coworkers, just one. 

    Post # 15
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    1082 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I said no, I think if you get in the habit of inviting certain people because you invited one person, your guest list will spiral out of control. Only invite people who you feel support your relationship with your FI.

    Post # 16
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    149 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I said no too, even tho my company is big my team is actually small but of the small team I only invited the people Im close to. I think people understand and don’t take it personally afterall weddings are expensive!

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