If I buy the BM dresses, should I get them a gift?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

I’m not well versed in wedding etiquette, but we also bought our bridal party’s dresses/rentals and our gifts to them were small: ~$15 each for a Woot T-shirt. Everyone in the BP is a bit of a nerd in their own way so each got a shirt that reflected something about their personality or interests: love of coffee, Dr. Who, Star Wars, things like that.

I wanted to call their dress/tux their present and leave it at that, but I chickened out because I was unsure, like you. Heh.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’d also like to hear some opinions on this, as I’m in a similar position.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

  mdcmod:  Normally I’d say absolutely to still getting them a gift but considering you are paying for their lodging as well that sort of puts you in a different ball game. I’d probably still get them gifts but something small (read: inexpensive) and sentimental.  Personalized necklaces off Etsy or something like that.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

The dresses, even if they can be worn again, are props for your wedding. While it’s nice of you to pay for their dresses, you should get them something personal, even if it’s something small…especially since they are paying for 3 nights of hotel. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee

You are paying for dresses and rooms, that is plenty! Things are not traditional, or i guess less traditional and we can get away with that. And in some instances, thank goodness. But i think you have been mor then generous! 

 

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I am not getting my bridesmaids a gift. We payed for thier dresses ($150 each), shoes ($59 each), and I am paying for thier hair and makeup to be done the day of the wedding ($145 for both).

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i think dresses and the rooms is plenty of a gift

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Oh wait, I just re-read that you are paying for their rooms as well. In which case- maybe a card if you don’t do gifts?

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I am going through the same thing.  Correct me if I am wrong but I feel like giving bridesmaids gift is something that has seem to become popular in the past few years.  I am paying for my bridesmaids dresses which range between $150-$200 per dress and am paying for their hair as well.  Which ends up being $220-$270 per girl.  Just seems rather much on the wallet to further invest in gifts..  :-/

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’d do something sentimental and inexpensive.  Do you have a picture of you with each girl?  I’d put that in a pretty frame and write a note about how much the girl’s friendship means to you….

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Originally we were looking at J Crew dresses and would contribute $100 becuase I felt they were too expensive.  Found dresses off the rack (at an interior design store of all places!) for $89 so just covered the cost of the dress.  It is a destination wedding and we have a house rented for the bridal party (but will also be used as the location for the day after brunch) and paying for hair.  They still have to take time off work and fly down, plus they have been my friends for years.  I am still getting them a gift.

I found some pretty compact mirrors on Etsy and was going to get Sephora gift cards.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

You definitely don’t have to, but something might be nice to recognize the time they spend, the money to travel, and most important their importance to your life.  This could even just be a thoughtful thankyou card.  

I love the picture idea.  For my honorary bridal party who don’t have attire or hotel expenses I’m getting them candy that is signature to the area the wedding is hosted, plus I’ll be writing each one a personalized thank you note.  

I think overall, just the formal thank you is want you should do and anything else is up to you.  

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