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Breath!!
The week before the wedding was the most stressful for me.
I don't have any advice, just try to breath and maybe down a couple glasses of wine!
Whoa whoa - that's a lot of craziness. I'd just go ahead and IGNORE it. Seriously, it's your mom's responsibility to figure out her transportation (you have enough going on!) and eh, what can anybody do about flakey friends? Not much. Just push it all out of your brain and think of how soon it'll all be over! We have like, four DAYS. Don't let them mess up your good mood :) And good luck!!!
I know! I need to let it go.... but dang!! I've got so much going on... why is everybody I know acting like a lunatic all of the sudden? Is it a full moon?
This isn't fun anymore. :(
I'd say that you need to get yourself a legal pad, notebook, a napkin, SOMETHING to write a list down on. Start writing down the things you can control and then the things you can't. The things you can't, you need to let them go or delegate them if someone else can handle it. The things you can, you need to organize them and then start working them through. I know this is stressful for you, but organization is the arch nemesis of stress so let 'em duke it out while you sit back and take a breath. :) Hope this helps. Best of luck!
-Bella
@Laylabelle....it will be OK. From what I have seen...the last week is the roughest. You will be sipping champagne and dancing with your new hubby before you know it.
@minne - the weather forecast on the 7th here keeps flipping back and forth from sun to rain, sun to rain.. right now it's at sun. I hope you're having more stable weather there.
Full moon WAS yesterday. Soooo...
You can do this. Just a little more of a push, and you'll be there. Sheesh! It's like talking each other through childbirth, isn't it? It's not the fun part, but do know what IS the fun part? Walking down that aisle and right into the proverbial arms of your husband! That is the most fun part ever!
You can do it. You are basically already there. You will be, look and feel great! And Mr. Broken Fingers...well...he won't.
Actually, it is a full moon! It will all work out and be fine! Tell your Mom to figure out her own transportation and NOT from your house. It will get better:-))
Hang in there girl! Is there any way you can take a "mental health" day??
@Jelly bean - Ha! That made me laugh out loud! Screw Mr. Broken Fingers.
Ya'll are right! Just a few more days, and I only have to make it two more hours at work and then work tomorrow - then I'm off for seven days! Woot!
I can do this... I can do this... I CAN do this... I can do this?
@ Laylabelle Oh doesn't that driv eyou crazy?! I hate when the forecast just can't decide what it thinks will happen. Ours has been stable - it's apparently going to warm up a LOT during Friday & Saturday here, and our high on Sat is 60! For Minnesota, in November, this is a small miracle, haha. I hadn't at all though we'd get tolerable weather for the wedding, so it's a nice surprise. I'll be crossing my fingers that the sun holds out for you down there!
Okay.
I just went into the bathroom at work, and someone had laid a VERY stinky one right before i went in. Now, I know we all have them and can't help it, etc.... but it was BAD. And I feel like the smell is ON ME. In my mouth, in my hair.... IN ME.
Gaaaaaaaaaaaah!!
Yet ANOTHER reason to be OH so happy that you only have one more day to be there and then...not for awhile. Yay!!
Oh my goodness girl! You've got your hands full.
Here's what you should do:
Just breathe and get your stuff done. Things are going to go wrong and people are going to throw REALLY LAST MINUTE things at you. All you can do is take them one at a time.
One of my BM's cancelled 3 weeks before the wedding, decided she was coming 2 weeks before and the week of cancelled again. All of our candles were melted the day of the wedding and so we had to buy all new ones the morning of and have our planner set them up. Oh and our menu was wrong the day of the wedding.
Just smile, honey. Don't stress too much because really, the only important thing is that you are getting married to the love of your life. You have him, the place and yourself all set up to go. Everything else can go by the wayside, but you'll still have each other.
I hope an encouraging word will help to get you through your day.
Good luck and congratulations!
Yes, just breathe - only don't breathe in the bathroom at work, apparently. :-)
(Hope that made you laugh a little).
Today really sucks. It keeps getting worse and worse.
This nutso chick kept brake checking me on the way home, but since I was nowhere near riding her butt, I never had to slam on my brakes. But she was throwing her hand up and everything. Sigh.
And THEN - one of my BM's texts me and says she's sorry she can't come to the wedding. Why? Because she had to take her vacation no later than October 1st. WHY am I just now hearing this??? FIVE days before the wedding? That she's in?!?!
I give.
I want to cancel the whole thing. I'm serious, I'm not kidding, I'm crying and I totally mean it. I'm done.
@layla omg girl! I wish my arms were long enough to reach to atl and give you a hug! Take a break for a couple hours and take a nice long bath and drink some warm coffee or tea or cocoa and if you can't relax, count backwards from 1000. You'll make it through!!!!!
So sorry you had such a bad day! You need a really stiff drink and to see your FI and just chill. It WILL get better. I want a drink just reading about your day:-) Is it 5 o'clock yet? Maybe I'll have one for you.
(((HUGS)))
Oh, I'm SO sorry. That's nuts about your BM canceling - she should have told you a lot sooner! October 1st was over a month ago! Just look at it this way - your immediate family will be there, and it's all about you and your FI and the commitment you two are making to each other. I know it's easier said than done, but try to focus on the two of you so you have happy memories instead of stressed-out memories. Ignore wedding crap tonight (if it were me, I'd be having a big glass of red wine right now) and hopefully you'll get some sleep and wake up and tomorrow will be a better day. And if it's not, we'll be here for you to vent to. :-)
Layla, I am feeling for you so much right now. It's a lot at once, huh? I wish that we could all be there to help you through this, because you know we all would. This is definitely not a great day, but you're almost there and we're all here rooting for you. I'm sure that in the end, everything will be as it should.
Like peyton said, tomorrow will be better, and if it's not, you know where to find us.
Ya'll are the bestest.
Seriously.
My WB friends are nicer to me than my local friends! I'm so thankful for this website.
deep down you know you will regret cancelling you worked so hard to have the wedding of your dreams. Dont let anyone distroy that or take your joy of marrying Mr. right away from you Huggs.
Um, can you take a sick day or something?
I'd get outta work as quick as possible if I were you :)
@ Daydream - Oh, I'm so trying to!! I want to leave so badly, but there is too much to do. I do have the next seven days off tho, woohoo!!!
A group of coworkers surprised me with a couple hundred dollars this morning, as their gift. I cried my eyes out, it was so sweet. :)
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A flippin' miracle!!!
STRESS OVERLOAD!!!
First, a vendor I NEVER signed a contract with suddenly emails me and is trying to hold me to their contract - um, what?!?! I never signed it! Then they start sending me the emails we exchanged, and I finally shut them up by sending them one showing that I DID tell them I wasn't signing and they couldn't hold me to it, but only after I pulled the "I work for attorney's card"!!
My mom calls and says I need to start thinking about who she can ride to the wedding with. Not from her house, from my house. She wants to leave her car at my house, since it's closer to the venue. She's never even been to the venue. And I am not responsible for finding her a ride!! Why can't she drive herself?!? And I don't want her at my house after the wedding!! Grrrr...
Two friends suddenly can't make it to the wedding... And my sister STILL hasn't confirmed if she is coming. Make it three friends. Damn.
Another friend that I was VERY close to emailed me today. I say 'was close to' because when invites were going out, I sent her an email at work, at her personal email, and via facebook, plus posted my request on her wall, and sent her a text (not all at once, just after I kept not hearing from her). She totally ignored me. Today, a few days before the wedding, she emails me and says sorry - she's been without a phone and really stressed. What? But she's still been on facebook, because she keeps updating status messages. She's been one of my best friends for almost 20 years. She said they were broke. I saw on her and her FI's facebook pages that they're planning a ski trip in November. Gaaaaaaaaah!!!!!!!!!!!!!
This guy at work just comes up and starts barking orders at me to copy things for him. Yep, I have a vagina - it must be MY JOB to copy things, Mr. Broken Fingers.
A friend offered to make a poster for us (our venue is a theater) and after ignoring us for two weeks, finally sent the proof last night. We didn't like it, so asked for changes but were told that it would be friday night before we could get it back! The wedding is Saturday!! So this morning, I contact our invitation designer and asked her to start designing something. THEN - the guy emails and says, okay, here it is! But when we told him we'd already asked her to do it, he got upset and said he worked on it all night. Then why did you tell us Friday night at the earliest?? Dang buddy, your procrastinatioin and lack of communication are not my problem. You had great intentions, and we appreciate it, but come on. Be reasonable.
Okay.
Serenity Now.