(Closed) If I don’t do Save the Dates…

posted 8 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

are you spreading the info by word of mouth? i knew i didn’t have to worry about it b/c my mom and mil told everyone they knew that i was getting married and when.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We did email STDs (also lots of OOT guests). Then we sent invites about 10 weeks in advance. I do think the early STDs—we sent ours six months beforehand—are important for OOT folks, not just from a planning perspective, but from a money/vacation time perspective—a lot of people changed their vacation plans for the year to make a vacation out of the wedding trip vs. whatever else they might have planned, so for that it was important for them to know well in advance. Probably depends on your guests, though.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree with artbee. As long as the OOT guests are hearing this well in advance from family and friends you should be okay. I didn’t do STDs and 75% of my guest list is OOT as well, but we gave them the heads up once we picked a date.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We spread the word early on so the most important people would know when it is, and we’re planning on sending our invitations about 3ish months ahead of time (with the RSVP date being 6 weeks before).  I find STDs are pretty uncommon in Canada.  The only wedding where I’ve received one was where the bride is American and a lot of their guests are coming from out of the country.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

If you have facebook, create your wedding as an event & send it to them thru facebook. That’s helped a  ton.

Otherwise, maybe send an email to everyone just saying hi, you’re engaged & getting married at such & such time/place & an invite is to follow.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

If you’re concerned about this, I’m wondering why you don’t plan on doing save-the-dates – they can be really easy and simple. But to answer your question, I think that 3 months out is about as early as you want to send invites. Otherwise, people are thinking that it’s so far off that they’ll forget about it or forget to RSVP – then you’ll have a different problem.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

If you’re concerned about it, I think you should just go ahead and send them.  We had the same situation–about 90% out of town, holiday weekend–and we invited about 200 people.  So I sent save the dates.  They cost me less than $100 and took me about 15 minutes to create.  I highly recommend them.  If you send invites too early, people don’t think they need to take any action on them and they’ll forget and need a reminder, so you end up putting effort into that anyway.  With save the dates, they get the information about when and where, so they literally “save the date” and then they get the invite closer when they need to be reserving flights and hotels.  As a bride and as a guest, I’ve found them really useful.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

STDs are anywhere from 8-4 months in advance, usually. But some people send them out a year before the date! It depends when your wedding is, too; if it’s on a holiday/long-weekend, send them out earlier (6-8 mo); if it’s on a regular day, 4-6 mo should do. Invitations follow the same rules, except the times are usually 8-4 weeks.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I got postcard save-the-dates from Vistaprint. If you only need 35, sign up for their emails and they’ll send you coupons all the time for 50 free postcards. You’ll probably get them for like $6 in shipping, add in stamps and you could probably do it for $10.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Our wedding is about 70% out-of-towners but we decided not to do STDs because there are only about 85 invited guests and they pretty much all know when the wedding is. I think it’s a nice excuse to reach out with a personal phone call or email to the random cousin or old friend who might not know, but for smaller weddings they don’t seem necessary. (Seems like even a few years ago, hardly anyone sent STDs and we all survived and found our way to each other’s weddings anyway.)

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I didn’t do a save-the-date. We planned our whole wedding in 3 months so there was no way we could do that. I just called/emailed the people, or have my parents call/email the people, and spread by words of mouth. No one was unable to make it for that reason. 

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