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So I know I should be super happy just that I'm pregnant and I really am excited at the thought of the LO I've so badly wanted for so long now. However, lately I've been pretty depressed... I really feel like my body is just BARELY equipped for this if at all. The worst of it is the migraines. I am usually on heavy doses of some pretty serious drugs for my chronic migraines - it's the only way I stay comfortable. I also have anxiety disorder and I'm off all the medication for that, too. Drinking actually helped cope with that and now I can't do that anymore. I've worked so hard to stay off medications for this pregnancy, and in spite of my best efforts a debilitating migraine hits and bam I'm in the ER in so much pain I cant even open one of my eyes. The bills are insane and we're going broke trying to afford them. They have given me some medications that aren't usually prescribed to pregnant women for the headaches, but they aren't as strong as what I normally take, dont always work, and I feel awful when I have to take them - not to mention they dont give them to me until I land in the ER. And this is at ONLY 9 WEEKS! I feel like if I were to lose this baby or something were born wrong with it my body just is just too messed up to have a child. It's so depressing to think, because I really want children (plural) but can't do anything about the migraines... I'm just so sad and wondering how on earth I'm going to make it the next 7 months :(

Anyone else really struggling with the lack of modern medicine/being pregnant in general? I see all the migraine sufferers working of Tylenol and caffeine and never in a million years would that even TOUCH one of mine. I feel like I'm all alone not being able to do without medicine :(

I would talk to your dr about alternative treatments, acupuncture might help- I'm not sure about that while pregnant, but he might have other ideas too. Yoga might help as well. A lot of people in my family have terrible migraines, my sister especially and she had them during her first trimester and then 0 the rest of her 1st pregnancy and I don't remember her having any during her 2nd pregnancy. I feel so bad that you are having to go through all of this pain. I had a problem with a medication I had to take that caused my to miscarry, then I had to have my ovaries removed to prevent more health problems for myself. It's terrible when medication that you need won't allow you to have babies. For me I have had to accept that I won't be able to have my own child and thankfully my FI is very open to adoption. I just hope you can find a way through this so that you can have the family that you are hoping for.

@78h2o: I was hoping I'd get lucky and not have them during pregnancy either, but unfortunately I lost out on that. I really hope you don't end up having them! I wonder if my OBGYN has anyone that specializes in that... it's worth looking into, thanks!

@mrs_pugetsound: A cold compress does offer some relief, but the migraines are so stubborn - it's like treating a symptom instead of curing the disease if that makes any sense? They migraine continues to get worse even with a cold compress. Even if it comforts me enough to fall asleep in a dark room, I wake up a few hours later in an even more ridiculous amount of pain :(

@abbyful:  Sorry to hear you have this too - your symptoms sound familiar. I find that my migraines are primarily triggered by hormonal changes, so while I do watch my diet for triggers, that's not usually the main cause.

For everyone who suggested acupuncture, my husband keeps trying to push me in that direction bc our insurance would cover a few visits, but I'm TERRIFIED of needles, even itty bitty ones. I'm also a little skeptical of it. I've tried massage theropy, herbal remedies, nada. I even had surgery on my sinuses in case that was causing it. The medication I used to be on was Fioricet with Codeine, and I would take 2 per day as preventative. My doctor was very concerned having me on such a high dose, but we had just tried EVERYTHING else. I tried Treximet, Imitrex, and so many others I can't remember the name of... nothing works.

Thank you all for your sympathy and suggestions. It's all anyone can ask in this situation. I have a Dr. apt. on the 6th so hopefully they will have some more suggestions of something different I might try. The last thing they gave me was Vicodin, but since it's not geared for migraines it doesn't work that well... we'll see. Wish me luck!

Biofeedback training FTW!!! Check it out!!

Maybe start focusing on alternatives that don't involve medicines at all?? Mindful based stress reduction? Seriously the stuff works. I work in a health clinic where we see a ton of patients with chronic pain. MBSR and biofeedback training work!!!!!

I have always had bad migraines and I found out that mine were always tension related. I have to have someone massage my neck and shoulders and sometimes it help to massage the temples and the head. My DH had to give me a lot of these massages when I was pregnant because I couldn't take anything. You could see if a massage from your SO works. Play some relaxing music and maybe have him use a laender lotion to help you relax. Your headaches may not be from tension but it might help a little. If not, at least you would get a nice massage out of the deal.

Thanks to everyone who has been commenting-sorry I haven't been updating! I finally saw another (better) doctor and they prescribed regular fioricet which has been getting the job done! I'm so happy to have found a workable solution and things have been smooth these past couple of weeks. It's amazing to not be bleeding, in pain, or stressing constantly! Fingers crossed it stays thi way for the next 6.5 months!

I hope it works for as long as you need it to! I'm glad they found something that is helping you.