(Closed) If I gave a STD do I have to invite them?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Etiquette wise, it is rude to not invite her.  However, if your lack of fondness for her is something that’s mutual, I’m sure she won’t miss your invitation.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

Yes. But I’m assuming you still have at least 7 months before you have to send out invitations, so I wouldn’t worry about it just yet 🙂 Closer to the date if it’s clear your friendship is definitely over I think my answer could well change.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

yes

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Yes

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I just noticed that you aren’t getting married until next May, why did you send the STD’s so soon and even if you needed to for some guests, why send STD’s to local people that you work with?

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

Yes. You sent her a STD so she will be expecting an invite. My wedding is also May of next year and I sent mine out first week of August, but only to the ones traveling very far to make it. I didn’t send any to the local folks because they don’t require as much advance planning as those who will be traveling. If the feeling of fondness is mutual, I’m sure she wouldn’t miss your invite. I would send hers at the very last minute.

Lastly, I swear, some people…asking for an STD?! Geez….rolls eyes… I’ll give you an STD, but it’s not what you’re thinking of…LOL!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Yes!!  It is a total etiquette faux pas to not send invites.  I accidentally forgot to send invitations 2 of hubby’s family friends who had received the STDs.  I moved apts in between sending out the STDs and invites and it just got overlooked.  And to this day, that is one of my few regrets over the planning process and I still feel so embarased over the whole thing!  As baldor1 suggested, though, you can wait to send out her invite later and she may get the hint.  

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