Post # 1
If I hear one more single/unmarried moron say something like “If I had $25,000 I’d buy a new house…car…etc” one more time….I think I will scream!
First of all, just because I’m planing a wedding and you read on yahoo news that the average wedding cost is $25,000 does not mean you know anything about our budget.
2. Just because I’m spending $XXXXX does not mean that all that money is wasted. i will have keep sakes, fun, family etc all of those things that are priceless to ME and my fiance at the end of the day.
3. I do not expect anything from any of our guests nor am throwing a party to get gifts. That being said, its no secret that most people give a gift of cash when they attend a wedding, and for the shower we will be getting numerous things that I would other wise buy myself (aka spend money on). So even though over the past 9 months I have handed vendors checks for large sums of money does not mean I have lost that money, I will essentually get some of that back.
4. Its not like we got engaged and $XXXXX landed in my lap. We are saving this money. If you want to by a new house or car you too can tighten your purse strings and save up for it over a period of time, dumb dumb.
Ughh. I’ve just heard this multiple times, and its so annoying. I don’t ask you what you do with your money let alone judge you for it. So why, just because I’m planning a wedding, do people thing it is okay to just talk about what I should do with my money.
One person even had an argument along the lines of “If my parents were handing me $20,000 I’d put a down pament on a house, why would anyone spend that kind of money on a silly party” WHAAAAAT? My parents are giving me a small fraction of what you are assuming. And if I were not having this “silly party” they wouldn’t just be writting checks. Its because I’m having a wedding, and they really want to help that they are covering some of the cost
I just wish people would keep their ill informed opinions to themselves.
Post # 3
We got the “you should buy a house” thing ALL THE TIME during my engagement. Hello, I owned a house, he owned a house, the LAST thing we needed was ANOTHER HOUSE!
By the way – married people said that kind of stuff to us as well.
Post # 4
Yeah….I hear you.
There is always somebody that just HAS to tell me their point of view.
I just nod…and smile.
Post # 5
Nothing irritates me more than when people start making assumptions like that. It’s your wedding, people only have to decide if they are coming or not (assuming they are invited). Everything else is not for them to worry about!
Post # 6
I was so pissed when FI told his friend (now ex friend) that he was planning on asking me to marry him all his friend said was ‘don’t waste all your money on the wedding’. First off, no congrats, secondly I don’t find having a nice wedding to be ‘wasting money’. He told FI to spend money on the honeymoon, not the wedding. And he’s married!
Post # 7
If we lived in a part of the country where $25000 could even startto get you into a house, perhaps we would have heard that. But with down payments starting at $100,000 for a 2-bedroom fixer-upper, I say have the damn party! 😉
Post # 8
@ShutterbugCait: I’m married, too (had a beautiful pretty fancy wedding) and I, too, agree to spend more money on the honeymoon. That’s one thing i’d change if I went back!
Post # 9
Completely understand, my mom gasps everytime I tell her the cost of something, or that the average wedding is upwards of 20,000. She is a fan of small, low cost, quick weddings…so I think this is where that is coming from. Oh well, if you can afford it, make yourself happy, and don’t let anyone else tell you what they would do with your money.
Post # 10
I hear you!! It’s so annoying. Yes, I’m planning a wedding and no what we spend on it is NOT YOUR BUSINESS. Sheesh people. It’s like people’s common decency gets chucked out the window lol. I dunno why weddings make people so nosey. It’s nobody’s business but yours, your fiances, and y’all’s parents/whoever is contributing to the budget. So annoying
Post # 11
I was about the last person to get married so I got that from a lot of married people (hmmmm…I remember your wedding and you didn’t think it was a waste of money then…) sorry if yours wedding sucked but mine was great!
We also owned 2 houses. If we could have sold one, I would have blown even more money
When someone on here asks if it was worth it, it definitely was! They should go over budget, it was so worth it:)
Post # 12
Tell them “that’s nice, but I don’t tell you how to spend your money.”
Post # 13
Yeah I got so tired of hearing people say to put it towards a house.. It’s like um hello what girl doesn’t want a wedding!?
Post # 14
@crayfish: I want a nice honeymoon and we will have one but I want my dream wedding too. I just found it rude it was the only thing he said to FI regarding getting married. Their entire wedding cost about $500 and they had a Honeymoon Fund registry so I guess they had different priorities. We go on vacations often, we don’t get married often.
Post # 15
Preach it! People in real life don’t have any idea how much we spent on our wedding but even with their estimates they always give us a hard time.
I see it this way…you spend your money how you want and I’ll do the same. I wanted a big lavish wedding and I got one and YOU didn’t have to contribrute one cent. Isn’t that awesome?
Post # 16
@Joyful80 Thats what I do, just nod and smile. Thank God for weddingbee, I can let it all out without yelling at anyone to ‘mind your business’.
@SuperDuperBrit thats what I think buggs me the most, if we were talking about my buying anything other than a wedding dress or photographer etc they would keep their comments to themselves. But once you say the word wedding people just loose their decency decency.
@Rubbs not only do we want to have a wedding with our families there, but we have a plan short term and long term plan. We have a written budget on paper (excel) showing what we earn, what we can and do spend and currently there is a column for wedding funds. After the wedding that column will change to the next thing we plan to save for.
That being said, its like people have this negitive atitude about weddings for, what seems to me, no good reason. Spending money on a wedding is not the end of all spending in our lives. We will be saving and spending money for the rest of our lives. Why not start off with a bang and spend on something fun while we can?