- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
Let me start by saying I am the first in my family to have an actual wedding in over 26 years, same on my FI’s side. We both had these fantastical idea’s of what we wanted our wedding to be like. Not only that, my FI’s parents, have SOOO many regrets about their extremely low key wedding, and admit they had no clue what they were doing. We wanted to have a “REAL” wedding, not just go to the courthouse like everyone else we know. We are also the first of our friends to get married…so no one had any advice to give us.
We intentionally gave ourselves an 18 month engagement so we could save properly for the big day. Our parents even agreed to split it with us (yay!), but more on that later…
We are now feeling the regret for having a 30,000 wedding…this is inclusive of everything including a 6 day honeymoon, flights, etc.
Now that time has gone by, I realize that the only thing that makes a wedding “real” are two people getting married. Do I love my venue? Of course, it’s amazing. The food will be amazing, the lighting, the dress, etc.
Now I am extremely emotional about how much money we are spending. Last night my FI, without realizing it, said “Do you just want to lose the $2500 deposit and get married in the back yard?”. I broke down in tears crying, because had I known that you can have an amazing back yard wedding, I WOULD have. I would have totally had a $10,000 wedding in my backyard! My FI parents and my parents were totally on board when we signed our venue contract. So far, my parents are the only ones who have given us the money…my FI’s parents keep giving excuses but promise they’ll have it before the wedding. Now I am asking myself “WHY do I put some much faith into other people?!” It is soo stressful to worry about what if they don’t give us the money that we agreed upon.
Someday’s I just want to say to hell with it and lose the money, get on a plane somewhere and get married.
Am I the only one who ever feels like this? I remember reading that most bride’s who have big weddings (we’re only inviting 100 people btw) usually regret it and wish they had saved the money and done a DW.
I feel SO stupid that I am feeling this way. Ughh any advice?