Post # 1
If someone asks you to be their Maid of Honor or Best Man and you accept, does that mean that you should ask them to be part of your wedding party when you get married? (The two weddings are a matter of a couple months apart). If you don’t ask them to be in your wedding party, is it downright rude, or is it “your day” so you get to do whatever you want? Not sure if there was some sort of unwritten reciprocity that applied here.
Post # 3
Of course not! If you are questioning having them in your party then that means that you have other people in mind who you are closer with, I would not let their decision influence yours.
Post # 4
nope not an obligation!!! your bridal party should be folks you want, not something you are doing to fufill an obligation to someone else 🙂
have who you want! 🙂
Post # 5
I don’t think there’s an unwritten rule of reciprocity, however it’s a nice gesture. Presumably, since you’re good enough friends to be invited into her bridal party, you should be good enough friends to invite her into yours, unless you have lots of close friends and family members that just have to come first!
I ended up in a situation where my FI was best man at another wedding, and I was invited to be a bridesmaid too. That groom is going to be best man at our wedding, so the only one left out is that bride. Of course I felt it appropriate to extend an invitation for her to be my bridesmaid too.
Even if there isn’t room for another bridesmaid in your wedding, there are other “positions” like singer, reader, usher, guest book attendant, etc that would serve as an honorable alternative.
Post # 6
NO. One of my girls is getting married this coming Feb. and I am not in her wedding. I don’t feel hurt or anything like that. I am just happy for her and look forward to sharing in her special day with the rest of her friends and family.
Post # 7
You don’t need to reciprocate. If your choices of wedding party members might not be clear to your friend why they’re closer to you than she is (non-family members, someone she doesn’t know), you may want to discuss it just to avoid hurt feelings.
Post # 8
Sorry but I’m going to disagree here. I do think I would feel hurt. I was best man at my friends wedding and when my wedding came around my groom didn’t want my friend on the court but I couldn’t leave him out completely, I would’ve felt utterly rude. At the very least, if you chose not to invite her, you should explain to her that its nothing personal but rather the result of a small party or lots of family or something like that.
Post # 9
i think its polite, but not a requirement