Post # 1
I have asked you guys similar things before but I just can’t decide. I am having guests sit at their tables during the ceremony so then don’t have to wait in the cold during the rearrangement of the room. We have having a lunchtime wedding with no dancing and a full 3 course dinner/lunch.
Should I do all the photos first so the guests aren’t waiting? My MoB thinks we should have a gap and do most of the photos after the ceremony but I guess I just feel bad making people wait for us.
But if I have a gap there’s probably not much point in serving food during as a huge meal is on its way. I would not have the gap more than an hour.
Then there’s the fact I have no idea when the best time for photos is if I didn’t worry about anything else.
Here are my two options (times are VERY rough just to give you an idea)
1) 10:00 first look and photos
2) 10 first look
We have use of the venue between 10-4. But guests aren’t allowed inside until 11. But most photos will be outside anyway.
Post # 2
We’ll be doing our first look followed by our photos with one another, bridal party, and families. We both have large families, and I didn’t want it to interfere with missing cocktail hour. Also, because the wedding is on an evening in February, it gets dark early on.
Personally, I like the idea of doing them all at once so that they’re over with and I can enjoy the wedding and the guests.
Post # 3
If there is no dancing how about doing photos after the reception then you get to enjoy your whole day
Post # 4
Future_Mrs_C25978: I thought about that but people think it’s a bad idea. That we should get them out of the way before we get too tired. Which I guess I agree with. Plus knowing my luck I’ll drop food on my dress!
OMGMrsW2B: good to know I’m not the only one. Thanks for that!
Post # 5
I voted #2 but only because that way you have photos from when you are actually married as well as the first look. You could still do like bridal party shots before the ceremony but I think the only regret I would have with option #1 is that the photos were before you were officially married. Plus, people expect there to be a gap and to have to wait for the bride and groom.
Post # 6
OMGMrsW2B: Exactly… I could have written your post except our wedding is in January.
gamerlover: We’re doing first look, then all photos. There will be some right after the ceremony of the grandparents who can’t make it to the picture site. But I’d like to have all other pictures done so we can get to the reception sooner. We’re not getting married until 6:45, so time is of the essence.
Post # 7
gamerlover: We did first look and bridal party/family photos before the ceremony. After the ceremony, we did some photos quickly just of the two of us because I wanted some where we were actually married and to capture the emotion immediately post-ceremony. Only took maybe 20 minutes, and then we still got to enjoy our cocktail hour.
Post # 8
gamerlover: If you have the one hour gap between the ceremony and the lunch, but aren’t planning on serving food during that time, what will your guests be doing? Just sitting at their tables waiting for an hour? I’m okay with the gap, but I think you should treat it as a cocktail hour with appetizers and bar.
Post # 9
Doing photos before the wedding was probably the best decision I made, and most of my friends who have had weddings have done the same thing and would agree with me. Before the wedding, you are fresh. There are opportunities to update your makeup. Your hair is still looking amazing, and you are still feeling wide awake and ready. Weddings are emotional, no mater if you have a first look or not. You can tell the difference between my pre-ceremony photos and post ceremony photos because I look a lot more like Rudolph after the ceremony because I was rubbing my nose every five seconds because I was happy crying the entire time. I also enjoyed more time with my guests after the ceremony, which you can’t do if you are taking photos.
Post # 10
Jen041815: I probably would serve food, but I’d feel like it was a waste especially considering it’s only lunch time and a large meal was coming up.I guess too much food is better than not enough.
kb7: maybe doing that is a better idea!
Dogsbody92: that is exactly what I’m worried about! But does it really matter if I’m technically married or not in the family photos? I would like a few couples portraits after the ceremony though at some point.
winterwoodlandbride15: yeah that’s exactly right!
Misswhowedding: that’s good to know thank you! Did you tell family members personally or give then an insert in the invitation saying to come earlier?
Post # 11
gamerlover: Our entire family for pictures included a grand total of 9 people, and all of them but technically our parents where in our wedding party. It was DH’s parents, my parents, my brother (groomman) DH’s Sister (bridesmaid), DH’s BIL (groomsman), and niece and nephew (FG and RB). I did include an insert for all wedding party with the inforamtion for the entire day including the time pictures started.
I think it depends what your family is that you want to include in your pictures and if they have any extra rolls for your wedding as to how you tell them about picutres.
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
Oops! I voted for the wrong one! Do the photos then the 12:00 ceremony followed by lunch.
Post # 13
Misswhowedding: thanks for that. None are in the wedding party my brothers would not be interested or happy to be and Fiance is not close with his siblings (meaning he doesn’t often get along with them). I think inserts are the best option at least for his family.