If it was mostly PC, would you choose your first child's gender?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: What gender embryos would you choose?
    All boys : (9 votes)
    10 %
    A mix, but possibly more boys : (11 votes)
    13 %
    An even mix : (24 votes)
    28 %
    A mix, but possibly more girls : (13 votes)
    15 %
    All girls : (5 votes)
    6 %
    Ahhh having that choice would drive me crazy : (18 votes)
    21 %
    Other (please elaborate!) : (4 votes)
    5 %
    I like polls : (3 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    1207 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    @ladyamalthea:  I think I’d pick one of each and call it a day! 2 kids is our max, so that would be perfect.

    Post # 4
    825 posts
    Busy bee

    I think I’d pick one of each. I want all boys, but FI assures me that they’re just as hard to raise as girls. But yes, I would ‘pick’.

    Post # 5
    7281 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    Well, we already have a son and I still wouldn’t choose, so I don’t think I would choose for a first child either. There are upsides and down sides to both, so I’m of the mind to be happy with whatever happens. As long as any LOs are healthy, that’s enough for me.

    Post # 6
    1022 posts
    Bumble bee

    If I had the choice I would go with boys, just because I want a boy first.

    Post # 7
    1302 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    If I could choose, I would go with a boy. I wouldn’t want to risk having mulitples though!

    Post # 8
    10454 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    @ladyamalthea:  Do you mean gender, or their sex?  Some parents try to force a gender.

    I don’t want kids, and even if I did, I don’t know if I would even have a preference.

    Post # 9
    122 posts
    Blushing bee

    Honestly, I feel like I’d rather choose the gender of my last child than my first, if I were to choose genders at all. If you chose your first child’s gender, for example, you could choose a boy and then have all boys after that by coincidence… I’d rather see what happens for the first one or two, and then choose the opposite gender for my last child if I wanted to round things out.

    Post # 10
    4513 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We are considering doing embryo selection, not for gender purposes but because I have a serious congenitive disease and a 50% chance of passing it on. This would allow us to choose the embryos that do not have the disease and only implant those. If we do it then it would be easy to choose the gender since we’re going through the process anyway, but we aren’t going to. We would just pick a mix.

    If we don’t go this route and just take our chances with passing on the condition then I am really hoping its a girl. I think that being a girl with this disease is much easier than being a boy with it, so for their sake I would hope it would turn out that way.

    Post # 11
    753 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I really strongly want a girl. I know that whenever I get pregnant that I’m going to love any baby I have, but I can’t help but really really want a girl. I don’t mind also having a boy, but I wouldn’t want all boys. I want at least one girl. So, I would pick one of each sex. But if I could only pick for one I would pick just a girl. 

    Post # 12
    8510 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Since you asked about it for your first child(ren), I would put an equal mix in there.  If I already had girls or boys I would put the opposite so I could have one of each gender.  Because in the end, I’d like one of each but don’t care what order they come in.

    Post # 13
    2372 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

    Ok if this was like, just a bunch of embryos thrown in and thats about it, then I would ask for a mix!! We don’t want to know the gender of our kids until they pop out (we like to keep it interesting! haha) so I would be happy with either.

    If we’re getting really specific….

    I would be torn between wanting TWIN boys (I have awesome names picked out), (but then I would want a biological girl second) and one boy and one girl, twins.  I sort of like the idea of one pregnancy (two kids, replicating myself and my husband) and then adopting further, but I do want one boy and one girl myself.

    I will probably end up with three girls or something. That’s life!!!!

    Post # 14
    7997 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    If I could choose I am not sure I would.

    Girls and boys both have pros and cons. Like neither gender is perfect… you’ll have different issues with each. I don’t really have a strong preference. I also like the idea of being surprised.

    Post # 15
    6697 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I voted other since I would choose not to make that choice. I’d give instructions that the most important thing was the viability of the embryos and all other things being equal, I would absolutely not want to know.

    I did not care whether I had a boy or a girl as long as the baby was healthy. But beyond that, I can’t imagine a child finding out one day that the parents had a preference.  I think that sends an unhealthy message to the child as well as to any other children you may have down the road.  How would it feel to the second child or chiildren to know that the parents wanted boys (or girls) first?

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