Post # 1
If it was possible would you do it?
If you could go back in time and not date that totall asshole. You know the one, they made you question your own sanity. If you could completely rewrite that part of history would you? Even if it meant your path didn’t cross your now FIs?
I’ll give my answer after some feed back 🙂
Post # 3
No. Every past relationship I have had has tought me something.
Post # 4
No. Everything happens for a reason.
Post # 5
Honestly, I don’t really have anything too horribly horrific in my past, never dated anybody who wasn’t just mildly inappropriate, only had one heartbreak and now looking back it wasn’t even that bad and it was with somebody I had NO intention of staying with forever, it just stung that he broke up with me when I was planning to break up with him, haha. I’ve been very lucky in life in general and never have had anything important go too far out of my way **knockonwood**
Post # 6
I am stronger because of my struggles, so I wouldn’t change a thing, not even the dating of an asshat.
Post # 7
No…especially because I know that dickbag is *still* beating himself up.
Post # 8
No. We learn from our mistakes and try to improve. If life was peachy all the time, we’d all end up being spoiled brats.
Post # 9
Honestly, I think if the answer is yes then maybe that person shouldn’t be your FI to begin with. If my FI told me he would do it all differently knowing that the outcome would be not knowing me then I would have some serious doubts about our relationship.
Post # 10
My answer is “yes”, and here’s why. I have children. If I could have done ANYTHING to prevent them from growing up in a divorced home, I would.
I have NO desire to EVER reconcile with my ex! NOT AT ALL! However, I am bitter about the decisions HE made to live selfishly, and would LOVE to spare that pain from my children.
Post # 11
No. Everything happens for a reason. Everything we go through is a lesson learnt.
Post # 12
No. If I didn’t date my ex, I wouldn’t have been friends with the people I am now and so I wouldn’t have met FI.
It was worth it.
Post # 13
No, the relationships have made me the person I am
Post # 14
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@figgnewton: Exactly. I wouldn’t appreciate my current FI if I hadn’t dated a few A-holes and douch bags along the way. Even with as bad as my divorce was it was a lesson I needed to learn about trusting other people and deciding what is most important in relationships and life.
Post # 15
Yes. I’d erase quite a few relationships if I could.
Post # 16
@Little_Hedgy: nope! I learned a lot about myself and what I wanted. And I do believe that had anything happened differently, I might not be with FI now. I’d do it again 3 times over if I knew I’d be as happy as I am now.