If it was possible, would you do it?

posted 4 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: would you change your path if you could?
    no! FI is worth anything I went through! : (120 votes)
    87 %
    yes! I would do anything to erase that horrible time! : (18 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
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    2402 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    No. Every past relationship I have had has tought me something.

    Post # 4
    Member
    7527 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    No. Everything happens for a reason.

    Post # 5
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    1418 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Honestly, I don’t really have anything too horribly horrific in my past, never dated anybody who wasn’t just mildly inappropriate, only had one heartbreak and now looking back it wasn’t even that bad and it was with somebody I had NO intention of staying with forever, it just stung that he broke up with me when I was planning to break up with him, haha. I’ve been very lucky in life in general and never have had anything important go too far out of my way **knockonwood** 

    Post # 6
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    15049 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I am stronger because of my struggles, so I wouldn’t change a thing, not even the dating of an asshat. 

    Post # 7
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    4529 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    No…especially because I know that dickbag is *still* beating himself up.

    Post # 8
    Member
    8017 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    No. We learn from our mistakes and try to improve. If life was peachy all the time, we’d all end up being spoiled brats.

    Post # 9
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    4499 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Honestly, I think if the answer is yes then maybe that person shouldn’t be your FI to begin with. If my FI told me he would do it all differently knowing that the outcome would be not knowing me then I would have some serious doubts about our relationship.

    Post # 10
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    345 posts
    Helper bee

    My answer is “yes”, and here’s why. I have children. If I could have done ANYTHING to prevent them from growing up in a divorced home, I would.

    I have NO desire to EVER reconcile with my ex! NOT AT ALL! However, I am bitter about the decisions HE made to live selfishly, and would LOVE to spare that pain from my children.

    Post # 11
    Member
    5068 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    No. Everything happens for a reason. Everything we go through is a lesson learnt. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    1354 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    No. If I didn’t date my ex, I wouldn’t have been friends with the people I am now and so I wouldn’t have met FI.

    It was worth it.

    Post # 13
    Member
    474 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    No, the relationships have made me the person I am

    Post # 14
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    9150 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    @figgnewton:  Exactly.  I wouldn’t appreciate my current FI if I hadn’t dated a few A-holes and douch bags along the way.  Even with as bad as my divorce was it was a lesson I needed to learn about trusting other people and deciding what is most important in relationships and life.

    Post # 15
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    8475 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Yes. I’d erase quite a few relationships if I could. 

    Post # 16
    Member
    825 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @Little_Hedgy:  nope! I learned a lot about myself and what I wanted. And I do believe that had anything happened differently, I might not be with FI now. I’d do it again 3 times over if I knew I’d be as happy as I am now. 

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