If it wasn't for the wedding…

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Pinkmoon:  I write thank you notes for every gift received, even if I’ve already thanked the person. My parents beat it into my head growing up.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i write thank yous for gifts what ever the reason the gift is. trying to teach kids to write thank yous whenever they get a gift from someone..

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Pinkmoon:  I was brought up to write thank you notes for every gift. I still do it all the time.

I do however also send a note even to someone I thanked in person. Sometimes there’s a lot more than you want to say, but don’t want to say it in front of others.

eg. “Thanks for the beautiful blouse. It’s my favorite shade of pink. You know me so well.”

You can’t exactly say that in front of another guest who gave you something in a different pink that you don’t like.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I don’t write thank you notes for EVERYTHING because I feel like I’d have to quit my job to find the time haha.

But I do write them often and not just for gifts… for small acts of kindness that I feel deserve a shout out, for example. But I’m the same as you, if it was a birthday and I felt I was able to give thanks in an appropriate way and the gift giver felt appreciated than I would leave it at that. Sometimes if it’s a less formal situation (and I already thanked them in person) I’ll send a thank you email – bad I know, but it’s better than nothing.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I don’t write thank you’s for other gifts, but I call people if they give a gift without opening it in person

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I prefer to thank people in person, or at least give them a call if they’re not there when I open the present. It feels a bit more personal that way. I was raised to be polite and say thank you but not to write thank you notes for every present – it feels much more formal than I’m used to. I don’t think I’ve ever had someone write me a thank you note either, and I have never minded or thought them ungrateful. Maybe it’s just not customary in Ireland, at least not in the areas or the class levels that Im used to. 

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Pinkmoon:  Yes.  Not to many people give me gifts on Xmas though, at least not anymore. Parents and in-laws and that’s pretty much it.  My siblings and I never exchange gifts anymore, we just pool our money to buy our parents something great.

 

Post # 12
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1103 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I have yet to write a single TY note, I always call people instead!  That way I get to chat with them, unless they gave me a gift in person, in which I just talk to them then.  I’d always much rather get a call from someone than a card.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

I am embarassed to admit I very rarely write thank you notes.  I’ve intended to–I already have a great collection of thank you cards that I am now using–but in the digital age, I’ve never had anyone’s addresses (lame excuse, because if I really wanted it, I could find it).

But having started the process, I really enjoy it. I have everyone’s address now, and it’s something I plan to keep up.

I never send Christmas Cards either, and that’s also something I’ll be doing this year.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@Pinkmoon:  I always write thank you notes and if the gift is substantial, I also include a bottle of wine.

Post # 15
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11469 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@Pinkmoon:  I write thank you cards for every occasion and gift. That is just how I was raised.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Pinkmoon:  I so wish I was better about this. I do tend to call or e-mail my thanks when I’ve received a gift instead of sending a formal thank you note and I always get anxious that everyone thinks I’m totally inappropriate.

@MrsPanda99:  A bottle of wine — that’s awesome! Wish I was your friend.

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