Post # 1
DO they HAVE to have matching accessories?
My girls all have spiced wine colored silk taffeta dresses from J. Crew, but each got to choose her own cut/shape.
As part of their gift, I want to give them all accessories to wear on the day of. Im going to be purchasing sets of gold bangles for them all to wear, but also wanted to get gold earrings. I originally thought maybe all would be matching, but would it be so terrible if I chose earrings based on waht I thought they’d like? They’d be all mismatched except for shoes and bangles….but is that so terrible?
One of my girls doesn’t have pierced ears, so she’ll be the only one in a necklace.
I keep thinking these are the minute details that no one will care about or notice.
Post # 3
I think it would be really sweet to get hem meaningful pieces to match their personalities, and I’m sure they’d appreciate getting jewelry they’d like to wear again.
Post # 4
My ladies will be in mismatched dresses (same manufacturer, same fabric, different designs), but I bought them matching shoes. I’m not picky about the jewelry – I never notice Bridesmaid or Best Man jewelry – so they can wear what they like accessory-wise. I’ve just asked them to keep it somewhat understated.
Post # 5
I agree with PP, get them things that are more them than matchy-matchy. I’m sure that they’ll wear them even more knowing that you picked it out just for them and it will fit their personality and style more.
Post # 6
I definitely agree. And they all have the same pair of shoes, I don’t think the accessories will be a huge deal if htey aren’t matched…I’ll just make sure I’ve gotten them all something lovely and gold. They’ll have the bangles to match each other, after all!
Post # 7
Same shoes, one unifying peice like the bangels, then different earings for everyone! I love it! One other thought is to get the maid w/o peierced ears some clip on earings instead of a necklace so she is on par with the others giftwise & accesory wise. My ladies will also be dressed in mismatched dresses. I am really starting to not like the word mismatched bc they do match just not in a matchy matchy way!! I am going for the monochrome effect with 3 girls in 2 designers & 3 similar colors. It sounds dangerous but it looks so good! I will have to post a picture one of these days.
Post # 8
I am in the camp that day of accessories are not a gift for the BMs. They are to fufill your vision, which isn’t much of a thank you.
But going for something you think they will like is always better then something for the sake of the uniform.
Post # 9
Maybe it’s just me but it would always stand out to me if one had a necklace and no one else die, especially if any of the dresses are strapless. Why not get her clip on earrings? There are some nice ones out there that don’t require her ears to be pierced.
Post # 10
@andielovesj: the accessories are only part of their gift, if that makes it seem like more of a generous ‘thank you’.
@slicey19: hers happens to be the only strapless one, which i think would actually be conducive to wearing a necklace. Plus, she doesn’t even like earrings. If my goal is to get them something they’d wear again, my thought is: why get her clip on earrings that she’d clearly never wear again?
Post # 11
They can have mismatched jewelry, that’s fine! Though, I voted that you just need a cocktail. 🙂
Post # 12
I love mismatched looks on bridesmaids, personally. Mine are all having different style dresses, but same color and fabric and they are all floor length. I’m letting them wear their own small stud earrings and their own silver/grey open toed pumps. I think it’s fine if they have different earrings!
Post # 13
They can have matching or mismatched jewelry. Your guests will barely notice, TBH. If you give them matching jewelry as a ‘gift’ you should add something else, since the jewelry really is just a prop for the photos.
Post # 14
@futuremrsfitz18: it’s only part of their gift. I’m also giving them a handmade scarf from Etsy, a bottle of wine, some nail polish, and sole mates. Add in the bangles and earrings, and I hope that’s a good gift…
Post # 15
@MrsDrRose612: Fantastic gift! My rule of thumb is always to shop for bridesmaids like its their birthday, and it sounds like you did just that.