Post # 1
My Maid/Matron of Honor has complaind and said negative things about so many things I want for my wedding I am about to explode!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
She complained that the dress shop was too far from her house
she complaind about having to alter the dress
she complained about the gifts I wanted to get the Bridesmaid or Best Man
and now she is complaining about what I want for the bacholorette party.
Anyone else have this prob, please tell me how to deal with this so I don’t drive myself nuts inside thinking about it.
Post # 3
That’s not right of her. Are you very close to her? Well, I guess you are if you chose her as your Maid/Matron of Honor.
Post # 4
HAHAHA, it’s not funny at all but when I read your title I seriously thought to myself “I don’t remember writing this post…”
Mine is the EXACT same. Every.sing.thing. she needs to complain.
She complained when I had a little invitation addressing party (which a few good friends CHOSE to come, she did not have to; I bought nice pizza, wine and cupcakes for the laides)
She complains about the alterations (she’s under 5 feet. Anything would have to get altered)
She complains that she didn’t take work off the Friday before the wedding when the rest of the bridesmaids are driving up to the location (about 4 hours away)
She complained/disappeared/didn’t really help plan my bachelorette party
She complained when she was asked by my bridesmaids (who actually DID plan the party) to give a toast at the bachelorette party
She complains about the cost (I’m paying part of all the girls’ dresses so they only owe $100, can wear any black shoes, I’m gifting them necklace, hair and makeup)
There’s no point to go on. Bottom line is for some people it’s just in their nature. I didn’t expect it, but now I know what kind of a person she really is.
Post # 5
I definitely did NOT expectit from her. We have been friends for 20 something years and I have been trying to think of the root of her evil and I think she is jealous that I am getting married first.
I got engaged last July 4th and she was like..yay…
She just got engaged this april, so I thought ok now she will be into it…nope still the same.
Do these people not realize how their acting and how it affects us, the bride, the one who really matters in this scenario?
I feel like I can’t wait to do it to her but when it comes down to it I’m nothing like that and I will actually be into it because I know how she is going to feel when its her time and I don’t think anyone ( me or her or any Bride) needs to feel crappy by her Maid/Matron of Honor.
Post # 6
I moved from Florida to Kauai.. So I have none of these problems, but at the same time. I don’t have anyone really helping me, I don’t get a bridal shower or bachelorette party. No one to help me with wedding dresses. But one of my friends I have known since I was 4.. well first she got offended because she assumed she was going to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. I told her it was my cousin. I have my cousin (MOH) and two close friends as Bridesmaid or Best Man… The Maid/Matron of Honor and other Bridesmaid or Best Man are a little helpful when they can be… it’s hard being this far. But the one girl doesn’t even like to hear about anything I have to say. It kinda sucks. Sorry you girls have to deal with MOH-zilla(s)
Post # 7
@amberdawn1064: Weird…same date and same problems! My Maid/Matron of Honor (older sister) has been the lone source of any stress in the planning.
She will ONLY wear a long dress because she has “cankles” (her words not mine!) and refuses to wear anything that will show her ankles.
So my Bridesmaid or Best Man are kind enough to not care and everyone is wearing a long navy dress from DB of their choosing. Shoes: ONLY navy shoes will look good with a navy dress. Really? I am pretty sure silver would have looked good too (the original decision before she flipped out about it). AND all the dresses are long – I doubt the shoes will even be seen!
Her son is the ring bearer and she has decided he will be wearing tails for the wedding, despite the fact Fiance and his Groomsmen are wearing the tuxes that are a shiny lapel away from being a business suit.
Oh and she and my mom live in TX (I live in MT) and Future Mother-In-Law is throwing me a shower next weekend here. Maid/Matron of Honor is not only not coming but is pissed my mom is driving up because she will miss my nephew’s (ring bearer) first day of pre-school. Ummm…okay.
Post # 8
@STBSchmidt: I’m sorry but I just had to have a “WTF For real” moment about her anger that your mom is missing the first day of pre-school. Really? I mean. Just. REALLY??? Pre-school? Sorry. That sounds freakin’ nutty.
My Maid/Matron of Honor is amazing BUT one of my BMs fits this bill. She STILL hasn’t gone to try on the dress that me, my Maid/Matron of Honor and my other Bridesmaid or Best Man already picked out because she couldn’t come…twice. And she’s like “I hope it looks good on me so we don’t have to look more!” I was like “This is the dress. Order it once you get fitted.” Lol.
Post # 9
@AmeliaBedelia: Ya I know. We have some competitive issues. She’s 7.5 years older and has been “engaged” for the past 4 years but isn’t planning to get married anytime soon. And she thinks our mom “likes me more”. I think it’s silly but Fiance doesn’t think she is totally off base. Whatever he is definitely the favorite in his family so what does he know!
Post # 10
I love my Maid/Matron of Honor. No complaints from her…yet!
Post # 11
@STBSchmidt: Hahaha. Even if you are (which, sounds justifiable, lol) your shower definitely trumps pre-school. I doubt my parents will be there for our kids’ first day of pre-school?? Lol. How silly. If you’re the favorite, it’s because you aren’t trying to demand crazy things. 😉
Post # 12
@amberdawn1064: I think she is focused on whats happening to her and not on her prior commitment to you as Maid/Matron of Honor
Post # 13
@STBSchmidt:Wow, I laughed out loud when I read your Maid/Matron of Honor issues I cant believe the nerver and selfishness of some people.
Though I am happy to find others to vent to and shar in the misery. I am going to talk to another Bridesmaid or Best Man who is as close to me as my Maid/Matron of Honor and see if she can talk to her for me a buffer the situation because I think I will get into a big fight with Maid/Matron of Honor if I attempt a talk about my feelings.
Well Ladies we have eachother thats for sure!!