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1. "It's YOUR day". I don't subscribe to this mentality. If it really was my day, none of you would be here.
2. "Why no garter toss/bouquet toss/introductions/etc". Why does it matter? Shut up.
3. "Am I invited?". Um, it's a month away. Did you get an invitation in the mail? Or did you buy one? If not, you're probably not invited.
4. "Are you excited?" I always say "no" and give them a dumbass look. What a mean bride I am! They get so uncomfortable and say "oh well I guess that was a dumb question"
I'll be honest, as of late I'm been in such a nasty mood there's nothing people can say to to me that doesn't irritate me somehow! I can't wait to get my life back to normal.
What bothers YOU lately?
LOLOL - I'm with you on the "ARE YOU EXCITED" question.... that one kills me EVERY time.
I'm going crazy with the family shower that's being thrown for me next week - no matter how many times I tell them I don't want to be involved with any planning or decision making - I feel like I'm being asked something EVERY day. I feel so ungrateful to get aggravated - but I.DON'T.WANT.TO.THINK.ABOUT.IT.
"Wow, a New Year's Eve wedding? That's . . . different."
@oracle: Omg my gosh. I didn't want a bridal shower and my FMIL called me every other day, LITERALLY, asking if I'd changed my mind. I felt so bad always saying "no". But finally I put my foot down and she backed off. Showers are stressful.
@Lindsay12.31.2010: Wow Lindsay, a new years eve wedding? That's.......AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
better?
The "It's YOUR day" KILLLLLLLS ME every freaking time I hear it!!! If its really my freaking day then why does everyone else have opinions and ideas on what I have to do!
"am I invited?" UGHH! Drives me crazy! Seriously? Who thinks that is an ok question to ask. If you have to ask, I don't want to talk to you!
1. "You should..." If I wanted your advise, I would have asked. Thanks anyways. You had your wedding, now it's our turn.
2. Also, I am pregnant (wedding has been planned for a year, pregnancy was not planned) obviously it has been an adjustment, but whatever we are happy. If I hear one more time: "What are you going to do with your dress" I may hurt them. I am going to wear it and I am going to glow! Now get out of my face!
"2012? You have SOOO much time!" or "2012? Why are you waiting so long?"
I realize that its a long time...I don't need you to tell me. Also, its none of your damn bussiness why we are waiting till 2012!
1. "What's your colors/theme?" (Why? Are you going to go and buy a dress that looks exactly like the bridal party? I get asked this at least twice a week.)
2. "How much do you have done?" (Are you going to help me book things if I tell you what I don't have done?)
I know we've got a little bit of time to plan, but ALREADY people with their nagging questions drives me NUTS!
@VirginiaMarie:you SO made the right decision. My mom was fretting about me not having a shower - saying you HAVE to have a shower. Then she wanted my sister (who wasn't speaking to me at the time) to throw it. MOM - what part of NO do you not understand?!?! Then, sister came around and it gave them something to work on - so I said -ok, great. I get a call anytime anything happens (if there are no RSVP calls, if there are RSVP calls, if she went to the store to find something).... seriously people?!
.......did you lose any weight yet?....
why thank you...I didn't already know that time is ticking by quickly.... Its like, yeah I know that I am bigger than I want to be, and I am trying hard to change that....BUT I don't need anyone reminding me! Will I only make a beautiful bride if I am skinny? WTF
I like the "what is your theme" question, personally. I give them the blank look with "Wedding" and "Love" as my answers ;)
@VirginiaMarie: 1. "It's YOUR day". I don't subscribe to this mentality. If it really was my day, none of you would be here.
I HATE HATE HATE when people say that! I agree with you 100000%! If it was MY day I wouldn't be paying for it, stressing about it, and basically putting on a party for 100+ people! If it was my day, people wouldn't be creating unnecessary drama.
The "It's YOUR day" drove me nuts too...especially when my mom said it to me. That meant that she didn't approve of whatever I had decided on. It was awesome to hear.
LOL @ 3. "Am I invited?". Um, it's a month away. Did you get an invitation in the mail? Or did you buy one? If not, you're probably not invited.
Rock on girls. Let it out! these are all great/horribly annoying!
I'm SO in the minority here - I don't think I've been told the "It's your day" line.... Y.E.T. ;)
"September 11th"
"oh......................... that's an interesting date............"
"Do I need to give you the speech too or can you just get over it? It's a Saturday in September."
2. Ditto on the "Are you excited????" What do you think?!
@oracle: Oh my gosh! you are SO lucky! I hear it a few times a week at least!
"are you going to lose weight before the wedding" -- I was thinking of starving myself. Nothing says "I love you honey", like collpasing from the side effects of an eating disorder at the altar. Oh, and thanks for pointing out that you think I'm fat. (as an aside, I'm 5'5 and weigh 140 lbs and wear a size 10... it's not like I'm horrifically obese)
"Why are you getting married on Halloween?? That terrible" -- Because we are devil worshippers. We'll also be having a goat sacrifice and some choreographed dancing to chants to Beelezebub at the reception, hope you can make it.
"why are you having a black cake? Who has a black cake? black cakes are gross and signify death you know? " --- Because we want it to blend in to the night like a ninja so you people won't be able to find it and have any of it's deliciousness. That way there's more for us. MUAHHAHAHAHAHA.
"Why can't I wear a costume????" -- Because I am a bridezilla and I don't want your outfit to be cooler than mine. And if you have a costume, it could be. Oh, and your gargoyle wings can injure someone during dinner. Wear black and orange semi formal clothes and deal with it.
"You are ruining Halloween for my kids" -- Then your special snowflake is probably not a very bright kid because when I was his age, I would have been psyched to spend Halloween in my costume in a castle with all the candy I could possibly eat. But if your kid would rather walk around the mall...hey not my problem.
"Can you move the location to a closer place" -- for who? Oh, okay. Let me see if they can pick up the castle, and move it to your town and rebuild it there , in your yard, in time for my wedding. Oh wait. Then everyone else would have a far drive. Shoot. Now what. Maybe we can have them move it back and then have another wedding? Or maybe you can just either decide to drive the hour or decide to just not go.
"Why aren't you playing dance music????waaaahhhhh" -- Because dance music makes me want to cut my own ears off and my stb husband is in a death metal band. Do you think we have ever done the macarena? No. There will be no Electric Sliding or Mambo # 5ing (or any other # mambo) at my wedding. And Mustang Sally and Bad, Bad Leroy Brown have also been put on a NOT INVITED list. You can dance to Thriller. Get over it. It's a better song anyway. Just be glad I am choosing the music. If stb husband picked, you'd probably be rocking to Cannibal Corpse all night. Thank me later.
There's probably more but this is all I can think of right now...
Why isn't ________________ invited? (Many reasons: 1. We're paying for this thing and it's expensive, 2. I haven't seen ______________ since I was five, and 3. Invitations cost $5 each and I don't like ________________ THAT much!
Seriously people, stop complaining that you can't bring some random hook up buddy or that our 4th uncle 13 times removed who we've never met and don't even recognize their name isn't invited.
3. "Am I invited?". Um, it's a month away. Did you get an invitation in the mail? Or did you buy one? If not, you're probably not invited.
Because I read that post on friends selling your invites like reunion tickets...this just cracks me up!
@TowerofTerror: OMG...your post has me crying in laughter! Esp the black cake comment..."Because we want it to blend in to the night like a ninja" Hahahaha...
OMG I LOOOOVE the "Oh so you must be like dieting crazy now right?" totally agree @msjudder! some people have NO tack or manners!
I had someone ask if they were going to be a BRIDESMAID!! What do you say to that! Uhhh... the wedding is in 3 months... um no. sorry.
Also the assumption of a plus 1! "Oh maybe I'll bring random girl you've never met to your wedding" You're single, you know everyone, you're not getting a plus one. done.
Whew... I feel better. THANKS!
Ok mine is
"Is it still happening?"
We had a 3 year engagement. I have a lot of friends that are single or got married within 6 months after their engagament so no one really understood the 3 year timeline...nor did they manage to have a polite reaction to it obviously!
@Habibah14: We have 2 girls in our department who are getting married in early 2011. I swear, my department finds an excuse to buy a cake and have a celebration every 2 weeks. When these two girls decline, someone always says, "oh yes...the BRIDES can't have any. They don't want to gain weight and not fit in their dresses..." I always get offended for them.
The only people I have heard "it's your day" from are vendors. It annoys me to no end! It ISN'T my day.
First of all, the day is for both of us. Second of all I WANT to spend it with my entire family and close friends, and I WANT them to have an amazing time, I have planned everything keeping in mind our guests and how I want them to enjoy the entire wedding.
MY day will come when we're on the honeymoon and don't have to think about anything wedding, work, or school related, and the only thing my fiance and I will have on our minds is having an amazing time with eachother on our honeymoon.
/endrant.
"So..what are you going to wear" Umm....a dress, white in color, ever heard of it? It's called a BRIDAL GOWN. I literally say "a white dress" and people nod "oh yes, yes, that's a good plan" Gee thanks.
@2peasinapod SERIOUSLY. I can freakin have cake if I want to! I feel like I get "the look" like should you REALLY be eating that??? I'm not fat but I sure am not skinny... and this usually comes from someone who shouldn't be calling the kettle black as they wolf down their 3rd piece haha
@pinkpinstripes! hahahahaha yeah, good plan.
I agree on "it's YOUR day." Makes me crazy.
I think I said this on another post but I can't stand when someone calls their wedding day (or anyone else's) "The Big Day." I'm not sure why, but it bugs me.
I get a lot of "Oh. That's....... different" from older women when they find out about certain details of my wedding. Like my brooch bouquet, my hot pink shoes, or the bridesmaids wearing whatever they want. I want to shake them and tell them that not only is NOT different, but it's pretty much TOO common nowadays (although I'm doing it anyway).
And anytime someone says "Oh, you have to ___________," I want to smack them. I get that all the time.
"What do you mean you're not doing a garter and bouquet toss? You HAVE to."
"You're not having a first dance? But you HAVE to."
I get it from my mom too. "You have to put 'No Jacket Required' on the invitation or people might be overdressed." Really? Tough titty. It's an outdoor garden wedding in May, people can wear whatever they want. The cool thing about jackets - you can take them off.
And my FFIL: "You have to have a shuttle to bring people to and from the hotel and venue." Oh, really? I'd like that too. Are you going to pay for it, because we can't.
Sigh.
People who abide by "tradition" drive me batty too! "But it's TRADITION to _______". Don't get me started on "traditions" that "have to be followed". Wow, I'm kind of an irritable Bridezilla today but I'm sick and tired of people told what I need to do.
I sooo love this thread. This is the best therapy EVER! :)
Here's one I forgot about:
"You're not having bridesmaids? But how will you get married??" (honestly people... am I marrying my maids!.....)
"Are you nervous/excited"? No. I'm stressed out and hate talking about my wedding day. If I don't bring it up every time I see you, you don't need to either.
::phew!::
I get this alot from FI's family... *in a panicked voice* "Well, if it's not at a hotel, where are we going to stay??"
First of all, it's over a year a way, calm down. 2nd, like I've told you six times in a row, we're getting a hotel block at the hotel RIGHT NEXT to the venue. 3rd, don't worry, our venue is right in downtown Boston, there a tons of hotels in the area at different price points and for the 500TH TIME, YES all this information will be in the invitations.
I know they just want to get things in order and know what's going on, etc etc, but seriously, don't pounce on me at a family event and act like the world is ending bc our wedding is not at a hotel. IT WILL BE OK.
I also hate “it’s YOUR day” – no, it’s OUR day and our families day. MY day doesn’t generally involve ME spending 20k of MY money to host a party for others to enjoy. (I mean, of course I will enjoy it, but it’s not MINE, it’s everyones!).
Ugh, also hate “aren’t you excited” – I’ve gotten this several times from a specific soon to be family member when she found out I:
A) Didn’t cry when FH proposed
B) Didn’t scream when FH proposed
C) Didn’t cry when I went bought my dress
D) Didn’t scream in happiness when I bought my dress
I’m just not that kind of girl – neither is my mom. Doesn’t mean we’re not excited!
Also HATE people continually asking me if I’m super stressed out yet – or worse yet, laughing and telling me how stressed out I am. I’m really not. I know I’m a month away, I know I have stuff to do, honestly people, I’m just not that stressed about it. It’s all going to be ok. We have the necessities done, the rest is gravy. Maybe tomorrow I will be stressed out, but I haven’t been yet, and when I am, I doubt I will want to waste time discussing it with you! Rawr!
"are you changing your name"
long story short, i have a common 3 letter korean last name (with a korean first name to boot)... FI has a 12 letter very polish name.
yes i am taking his name, but im so sick of going through the same story of if i'm going to hyphenate, or if im going to get an english first name, etc.etc.etc.
@ILuvDance17: No kidding! I get "oh wow, and you're already beginning to plan?" I mean...yes. Yes, I am beginning to plan, and it's no business of yours why I'm waiting until the end of next year. Would you like to help me pay my tuition and/or hurry my coursework along so I can graduate faster? Would you like to chip in for wedding expenses? No? Then please stop giving me a hard time about waiting so we can save and start our lives on the right foot!
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