Post # 1
I’m feeling really bad. FI’s family does not have a lot of money. But, they just told us that they are going to pay for our flowers and do the rehearsal dinner. There is no telling them no, even though we’re both established in our careers and my family is helping out a bit. (We tried)
I’m curious about what other families are doing. Is this the norm?
Post # 3
FI’s parents are paying for our open bar (which is definitely going to cost a pretty penny), have helped buy jars they find here and there for decor, and are paying for the rehearsal.
Post # 4
I’m 40 years old and have 4 older brothers. “Back in the day,” it was typical for the bride’s parents to pay for the wedding with the exception of the bride’s bouquet, the groom’s tux and the rehearsal dinner – those were the groom’s family’s responsibility.
Things have changed – I think now it’s more whatever each family can contribute, that’s what they contribute.
This is my second wedding so we are paying for everything. FI’s mother did give us $1,500 to put toward the venue and she’s also paying for the rehearsal dinner.
Post # 5
Fiance family has offered to pay for the rehearsal dinner, that’s it. They said it’s “traditional” for the groom’s family to do it.
Family can decide to contribute as much or as little as they want, depending on their financial sitution or their willingness to contribute. There’s no right or wrong answer.
Post # 6
FI’s parents are divorced. Future Father-In-Law is paying for the rehearsal dinner and the flowers. I felt bad about it as well. We are settling for a restaurant where Future Brother-In-Law works (we’re getting a 50% discount because he’s an employee, yay) for the rehearsal dinner. I am staying with the original florist who I LOVE even though she’s a little pricey. I did cut down what I ordered on the flowers a lot and Fiance and I paid the original deposit.
Future Mother-In-Law said that she would help in some way but she hasn’t yet. I’m personally not holding my breath and it doesn’t really bother me a lot.
Post # 7
Father-In-Law paid for our rehearsal dinner and our officiant, which I believe are the “traditional” things to do.
Basically, my mom bitched and bitched and then stomped her feet and whined and then bitched some more before he did.
Post # 8
My FI’s family is paying for the rehearsal dinner and they gave us a monetary contribution of a set amount for us to spend as we see fit.
Post # 9
They are paying for Rehearsal Dinner only.
Post # 10
They paid for the Rehearsal Dinner only.
They are firm believers that the brides family was supposed to pay for the wedding, and the grooms family pays for the Rehearsal Dinner, regardless of financial ability…
Post # 11
FI’s parents gave us 3K to spend towards alcohol and rehearsal dinner.
Post # 12
My FIL’s are covering the rehearsal dinner and flowers. This is what they did for my Future Brother-In-Law and his wife when they were married a few years ago so it’s also what they’re doing for us.
Post # 13
@MapleBecky:since you’re feeling bad about taking their money, how about having a low key rd? you could just do pizza or bbq in someone’s backyard.
Post # 14
@MapleBecky: Like kitzy said, do low-key. We went to an Irish pub and ate burgers. lol
Post # 15
My Fiance paid for half of my dress (behind my back, without asking). They paid for the flowers, part of them were artifical and part real. Also, part of my shoes, They are paying for the Rehearsal Dinner. But this is also their only son and I’m deemed the daughter they never had. So we are very blessed and thankful.
Post # 16
@AnnieAAA: yep we are in the same situation