Post # 1
We’re offering several dessert options:
1) my mom and her fiance are making us a small wedding cake
2) my bridesmaids and FH female relatives (I have very few in town) and some family friends are making various cookies, cakes, pies and cupcakes
3) FH and I will be making liquid nitrogen ice cream with the help of some college friends (*&#^ YEA!)
I’m afraid people will see all the options and be like “ooo i want a little of everything!” and take a little of everything and wind up being too full to finish everything and the guests at the end won’t get anything.
Is that a significant enough risk that it might be a good idea to put a sign on the dessert table saying something like “Please consider there may be many guests behind you when making your selections.” (that doesn’t sound very polite but i’m sure i…we can come up with something better)?? Or would people be offended?
Post # 3
I’d probably be offended if I saw that sign. Personally, I always take into consideration the people behind me, and when it comes to dessert, I can’t eat that much anyway, especially after a huge meal.
We’re having mini cupcakes and we were thinking of having 2-3 flavours available, but our pastry chef advised that if we’re going to do that, we should have about double of what we would have if we only had 1 flavour. Why? Because people might want to try each flavour and take one of each. If you’re worried about people taking too much, see if you can double some of the recipes, or take some of the options away and make more of each.
Post # 4
Do you have control over the dishes? If you get small enough dessert plates people won’t be able to pig out :). I agree that I wouldn’t do the sign, though.
Post # 5
I’m pretty sure adults can gauge their own portions lol
Post # 6
Don’t do the sign. Do not.
Post # 7
@KatyElle: my tummy disagrees lol. i over eat often.
I would probably try some of everything lol…I would make sure you have plenty of everything for everyone. DO NOT DO THE SIGN.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t worry too much about there not being enough desserts as long as you guys make proper portions for all your guests. I mean if you have 75 guests and you only make enough for 25 then there’s a problem.
If there’s food/meal beforehand most people will not eat that much dessert.
We had a 3 tier cake and ice cream sundae bar and there was SO much cake left over for 140 guests.
And def NO on the sign.
Post # 9
@mwitter80: Oh I hear you. I love me some dessert nom nom nom.
But unless Augustus Gloop is the first person in line, I agree no sign.
Post # 10
Unfortunately portion control isn’t for everyone and if you have kids going first, they might be pokey/probing things…Hmmm I wish there was better wording for that. Or can you have someone Serve if you are doing a “buffet” type line for the Dessert? That would be one way to control whats going out!
Post # 11
Another vote for no sign. But if you are worried about portions you should have someone serving it versus people serving themselves to have more control.
You should also be prepared that people will take multiple pieces, and plan the numbers accordingly.
Post # 12
@KatyElle: best reference ever LOL
Post # 13
No sign – people barely have room for dessert at the end of a large meal anyway
Post # 14
Definitely NO SIGN!
If you have dessert plates, you will be fine. I don’t think people will go insane by the time it is dessert time, my wedding planner said that half the people who attend wedding usually don’t even eat dessert- just my 2 cents.
Post # 15
Yea, I don’t think you should put a sign. I’m always aware when I go first, to take a little… and then come back for more. However, you should probably do more ice cream because it compliments everything. I would want to have both the cake (or whatever) and ice cream 🙂
Post # 16
I think people absolutely will want to try everything. I wouldn’t put a sign up but I would dole the items out. Don’t have everything out from the start. Have the bms and relatives make multiples of the same thing. Put out half of the cakes, pies, etc. at the start then about half way through put out the rest. And/or pre portion everything in small portions so that your desserts will last in case guests want to sample everything.
I had cupcakes at my wedding. I specifically had only one type of cupcake because I knew guests would want to sample every flavor available is there was a variety, just because – and I was terrified of running out.