Post # 1
I have an online diary and have been in that community for 10 years. Recently one of my faves got married and had a horror story that makes me cringe. She had a cardbox at her reception that someone took by the end of the night. At first she thought one of the bridesmaids packed it away or her DOC took it to her parents. Nope. After 3 weeks of searching it was nowhere to be found. She followed up with guests to let them know that their cards were most likely stolen and they should contact their banks to stop the checks. Out of 250 people who gave cards, only 95 of them wrote out a check. The rest was cash or gift cards. The cash is gone. The gift cards are hard to report lost unless the giver made a copy of the info to call customer service. She is naturally devestated.
I know I have heard of this happening to some people. The gift card box turns up missing and the cash can’t be replaced. It makes me so nervous to think about.
I have given straight cash a few times, but I think now I will be writing out checks or sending the card straight to the house after the wedding if I must give cash.
Post # 3
Oh, wow! I’ve never heard of that happening! Do you think anyone will judge if I screw it to the floor ?
Post # 4
OMG that is awful! I cant believe the nerve of ppl sometimes. I usually give checks, though my FI is a cash person. Now this makes me nervous too. Sorry for your friend
Post # 5
@jo.lee: All jokes aside, I am screwing mine to the table.
Post # 6
Cards disappeared at my BIL’s wedding too,and that was 25 years ago when brides used bags to collect them. Some people just left them on the tables,tho,after forgetting to hand them directly. It really made them look at their friends differently,wondering who would stoop so low as to steal their wedding gifts?!
Walking off with the whole card box takes some guts!
Post # 7
Oh no, that is terrible! It is for this reason that I will be putting my gift/card table away from a door, so it is out of the way. My sister/MOH also offered to pick up the card box after dinner and lock it up, so it doesn’t get forgotten as the evening goes on. I like giving gift cards, but if I were to give cash, I am definitely going to write a check!
Post # 8
This is why Im glad we got married at a place where my wedding guests were the only people there!
Post # 9
oh my gosh horrible…. we hired a security guard for our wedding and our gift table will be tucked in a corner very close to him…. 🙁 still makes me nervous though!
Post # 10
Oh my goodness, I know this happens but seriously who is that low to steal from newlyweds, or anyone for that matter. I normally give cash because I thought it would be easier for the bride and groom but from now on I will be giving a check.
Note to self- make cardbox huge, so someone would notice if it was being stolen.
Post # 11
Wow.. who would do that!? How terrible =(
Post # 12
@Mrs.LetsGoPens: That’s what I thought to. I am def making it like 5 tiers and the cards will be safe at the bottom. And I will ask SO to find a way to screw it to the table. I’ve never been to a wedding where this has happened, but I read about it all the time.
Post # 13
I never would have suspected someone to do such a thing! That so awful and low!
Post # 14
@Miss Tattoo: I have an idea!!!!!! First I will warn everyone that I grew up watching my dad work with tools so that is how I know how to do this.
- While you are putting together your card box, purchase a small piece of wood and glue it to the inside of your box. If you purchased the box carefully take it apart and glue in the wood block.
- Purchase a “c-clamp_ and from the outside of the box attach it to the wood block.
- When you are at your venue attach the box to the table by tightening the screw.
if your venue has nice tables you could possibly glue some felt or that rubber stuff that you put in kitchen cabinets (I don’t know what it is called) to the inside of the clamp so it will not damage the table.
Here is a picture of the C clamp that you would need, and my lame excuse for a diagram that I just made in paint.
Post # 15
That’s terrible! I actually made my card box so that it opened. My dad collected the cards from it about 30 minutes into the reception and stored them away safely. By then, just about everyone had already put their card in it. I still kept it out for decoration though (and most guests had no idea that it was emptied).
Post # 16
wow that is awful! We placed ours far from the door – which was near the back door – for guest only. It was far away from where any public could come in. It did make me nervous but it was close enough to family I asked them to keep an eye on it. I thought about having someone put it away after everyone got there but never got around to it! That’s a good option: after you think everyone has been seated and had time to put their cards in – take it away and lock it in a car or something! If people still have cards they’ll find someone!