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I've actually had this happen twice only. Once by a friend/coworker and I flat out lied.
Often by another annoying co-worker who is sort of my superior. He loves to joke about me being pregnant, talk about inappropriate! I will retort right back, yeah, I'm 5 months pregnant with twins.
I would just say, "Don't worry. We'll tell you when it happens."
I was majorly surprised with this pregnancy that nobody asked me if I was pregnant because I started showing almost immediately. Turns out, a lot of people noticed my belly but didn't want to say anything just in case I wasn't pregnant. So, I guess I'm lucky in that a lot of people kept their thoughts to themselves until I officially announced it.
I think it would depend on who was asking.
A close friend or family member - I would probably tell them the truth but then tell them that we are keeping it hush-hush until X time so please don't tell anyone else yet.
A random co-worker or something - I'd probably go the route of a non-answer like Mrs. Spring's "Don't worry. We'll tell you when it happens."
DH had this exact situation yesterday - his friend asked if we were getting ready to start a family, and DH said "Not really, we're waiting for things to settle down a bit first". He thought it was going to be really funny next week when he then gets to tell this same friend that we are pregnant.
I've had a couple people comment on my virgin Bloody Mary's, but I just tell them I'm the DD. No one has had the guts to flat out ask yet.
I would just say you'll know when we tell you or something along those lines.
To me that falls into the 'not your business, don't ask' pot of questions.
I've heard too many horror stories of women being asked and they aren't pregnant. If I'm not close with the woman, nless she's literally giving birth in front of me, I don't mention it.
I think I am going to say something like Mrs. Spring suggested.
But I will probably have a huge stupid grin on my face that will give it away.
I had a friend tell lots of people it will happen when it happens, until she was 13 weeks.
Friends and really clost fmaily, she waited till she had a dr appointment and heard the heart beat.
@panterapeach: Tehehehehe. :) I can totally picture you doing this!
Just say no without entertaining a discussion. Hopefully by the time you do become pregnant people will know not to ask you. At that time, just lie too.
My friends figured it out the day after I found out because I wasn't drinking at a bachelorette. I was pretending to sip but they noticed I wasn't finishing anything. I eventually had to pull one friend aside and tell her that yes I was and she needed to stop asking. I didn't want to steal the bride's night and I wasn't ready to announce it. I will never ask another woman if she is pregnant before she announces it.
"Why? Do I look fat?" It dodges the question without lying, and hopefully will make the rude person realize how rude they are.
I would just say "We are working on it" it isn't really a lie, and doesn't give anything away ... We literally were working on it, it was just a "baby under manufacturing process".
"If I was pregnant, I'd tell people when I was comfortable doing so."
I haven't announced my pregnancy yet outside of my in-laws and best friend, so I'm prepared. I'm not planning on telling anyone else until January.
I have straight out lied. I've been asked 3 times and every time I say, "I wish". Then people leave it alone.
@guitargirl: I love this one :)
So my FI actually asked a good friend when she ordered non-alcoholic drinks out at the party celebrate someone's birthday (hers maybe?). Actually, he teased, he didn't ask - we all thought they weren't going to have kids. Anyhow, that was the night she was planning on announcing, only her hubby wasn't there at the bar yet so she lied to my FI...then 15-20 minutes later announced when we went to sit at our table and she had to take off her jacket. Then...we joked about how it'd be twins (her hubby is one, and my FI's toast at their wedding was "may you have twins"). Turned out, yes it was twins (they were suspicious at that point but hadn't fully confirmed it so announced that part 2 weeks late).
@guitargirl: I really like that response!!
I'm hoping people will be tactful enough not to say anything, but considering the fact that I've already been asked when DH and I have only expressed our desire to NOT have a family and I haven't gained any weight, I just know I won't be able to go 13 weeks without being asked.
@Mrs. Spring: The same thing happened with Wombat. People noticed, but didn't say anything. If they had, I would've lied and said "no."
I just laugh it off as if to say they are totally ridiculous for thinking so and then change the subject. But most people have been asking me when I plan to get pregnant rather than if I already am.
I lied.
It was the day before my 12 week apt, and I didn't want to tell people until I saw the heartbeat. My dentist knew I just miscarried so he assumed I was TTC (big reason why I didn't want to tell people yet) then I saw him at a public event, he pointed to my belly which apparently was already bigger, I shook my head no. We had a normal conversation, I walked away, and then I ran out crying b/c I was fat. My poor hubby had to chase after me. And my poor dentist was so confused when a few months later I came in refusing x-rays because I was pregnant after I just told him I wasn't.
But usually people wouldn't ask if I was preggo, it would be "are you planning on kids soon." and to that I would just say that we wanted to have some time to be married first.
I can't lie. I'd say "Possibly, but it's not confirmed. Not getting my hopes up yet." My sister-in-law's first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage before they could detect a heartbeat.
I'm not pregnant, but I would probably straight-up lie.
I have had three friends within the past year announce their pregnancies and then end up miscarrying. I think I would be too afraid to tell everyone until I was pretty far along just for that reason alone; it may sound silly, but that's just how I feel.
I've just lied. Mostly the questions come from patients (I'm a physical therapist). Many of them know I'm fairly newly married so the natural question is usually "are you planning on having kids?" Or some people just ask "do you have kids?" To the first question I usually say "yes, sometime soon" to the second I just say "not yet" I'm 11 weeks pregnant now and most of my close friends and all of our families know. I've told other acquaintances along the way, and feel comfortable telling most people at this point in time. I am just waiting to tell my boss, because she's not the most family supportive person, and so I can't say anything about it while at work.
I suck at lying. I normally freeze up and it's obvious. My Mom asked me if I was pregnant (on the phone) and I said something like ... maybe. If you're nice, maybe you can be a grandma one day. Lol, something sad like that!
My friend just left a comment on my FB randomly asking if I'm pregnant yet (she knew we were TTC) and it took me a few days to respond because I don't want to lie but I don't want to announce anything yet. I ended up throwing the question back at her and asking if she's expecting. Sigh. I want to tell people already!
@moderndaisy:I usually lie.
But when the woman who schedules my requested days off asked when I said I had another doctor's appointment I lied differently and said "I don't know yet" and she said OK, I won't ask again, and she smiled. It is actually really helpful because it means I don't have trouble scheduling my appointments anymore. Also, I know she won't tell because she is *very* superstitious and doesn't want anyone to know about anyone's pregnancy before 3 months.
I like what Mrs. Spring said that what I would say unless it was a close friend or family member and then I would just tell them.
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What response do you give to people who ask if you are pregnant before you've 'announced' it? Do you flat-out lie and say no? Or is there some kind of non-answer that could ever satisfy such a rude question?
Has anyone had this happen? If so, what response did you give?
*I am not pregnant and not TTC, but this is something I think about a lot lately. Even though my weight has not changed, I have already been asked several times since the wedding if I am pregnant by different people: friends, family, coworkers, etc. I know if DH and I decide to get pregnant I will definitely not want anyone knowing until week 13, but based on the fact that I've been asked already when I'm not pregnant, I know this will come up*