Post # 1
If you could go back in time when you were first dating your FI, what advice would you give yourself?
I just asked Mrs. Bee what I should tell my past self, and she said: "Propose sooner!"
Haha… good one. But I bet most ladies would say that to their past selves.
I don’t think I’d give myself any advice about the relationship – that might jinx things. I think most of all, I would tell myself to buy a CZ stone with the same platinum setting I eventually bought… so that I could have proposed sooner. I could have always upgraded the stone later, and nobody would have known. 🙂 And I would still have proposed with the same ring, so it’d still be special.
What about you – what advice would you give your past self when you guys were first dating?
Post # 3
KEEP THE PAST TO THE PAST.
i wouldve told myself: dont talk about ex-bfs, past relationships, sexcapades, breakups & makeups, etc etc. what happened happened. theres no good that can come out of putting imagery in the mans mind or give him ammo for future fights. then again im not engaged so what do i know!
Post # 4
Hahaha this may be TMI but I would tell myself that the ahem *Twister* is really good so work hard to keep it that way!! I mean…you know, as time goes on you don’t play Twister as much or as um…adventurously, so try to keep things hot 🙂
Post # 5
I don’t understand. What do you mean by Twister?
Post # 6
I would let myself know that first weekend we spent together, that this is going to be the one and not just a fling … and let him stay for breakfast instead of faking that I had to work to get him to go home (LOL)
Post # 7
we need to definitely travel more.
<address>Oh and I’d tell my past self this "Do NOT let him talk about engagement until he’s ready to ENGAGE!! " Meaning he’s not to speak of marriage, wedding, or anything until he has the rock on my hand.</address><address></address><address>I am still talking to my present tense self about this btw.</address>
Post # 8
Don’t lie about your age!
lol he’s 12 years older than me, so to get him to date me.. I told him I was 3 years older. I didn’t tell him until after our 1st anniversary… luckily we worked past it & he kept me around. After many, many, many Chuck E Cheese jokes & "you’re a baby" comments.
Post # 9
@mrbee, See Mrs. Cheese. She might have a better explanation 🙂
Post # 10
@EAQ219 – Sorry sorry… I was just messing with you. 🙂
Post # 11
I would tell myself to SAVE SAVE SAVE and to not do a few things that we did! lol
Post # 12
I agree. I would’ve pushed both of us to save more before the ring was on my finger.
I also would’ve told me to trust myself and trust my decisions.He never doubted me, but i second guessed many decisions I made.
Post # 13
Don’t get pregnant a month after you get married, which was 6 months after we really started dating. It’s worked out, but boy was it hard! 🙂
Post # 14
I’d tell myself to trust him more deeply. Not with practical, everyday things, but with my heart. He’s never once let me down… but there were so many times I was afraid he would.
Wow. For the future: appreciate him more.
Post # 15
Don’t move in with him until you both have decent jobs. Moving in with him beforehand just put us in a tight spot and debt. (I guess it made us stronger in the end, but I still wish I’d waited)
Try not to "save" him too much. Helping him with school and bills a little too often in the very beginning put me in the position to "mother" him too much. And that’s a hard habit to break! I feel like I’m still in college with all the studying that I do with him.
Appreciate his quirks, don’t resent them.
Maybe it’s because I’m young, but I have soooo much advice for my past self. 🙂
Post # 16
I should have let him meet my family sooner. My brothers were always SO hard on anyone I’d dated in the past, and I was araid they’d scare him away. Turns out the 3 of them are like the 3 stooges now, and I Love It!