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Planning a wedding is an incredible amount of work and as much as I appreciate a beautiful wedding, I completely see the allure of eloping.
Weddings are about much more than the couple getting married. But if your family and friends were ok with it... could you see yourself eloping instead of planning a traditional wedding?
I would. I wanted to, but DH wasn't willing. He said we needed a wedding for family and friends, and he was right -- but only for his side. My side would have been fine with us telling them we married after the fact. So, we compromised and had a super-small, super-fun wedding.
yes yes and YES!! i was just thinking to myself the other day - not enough attention is given to the benefits of eloping! the notion of being disowned if you elope is no longer valid - it kills a multi billion dollar industry but the stress of family etc that comes about when you're half way through planning - is it really worth it?
we eloped and are thrilled by the results! friends and family our age have been saying "wished we did that" or "wish we could" or "thats what we are going to do". the older ones are fine as we had a big family party last week and invited about 150 people over our house for a catered function with lots of staff so they are now happy that they got to sit, eat and nag with everyone in the family
his mother said "i never got to see my 1st son marry", but she was thrilled we had a big party so she got to save face with the rellies.
We're eloping and so far, so good. We're happy, but then again, we haven't told any family yet!
No way. I think I would cry if I had to elope. I love my friends and family so much. We are so so so excited to bless our family and friends by having a huge party to celebrate our new life together! We are expecting 250 to our wedding.
oh, and in addition to my above post. hubbys cousin is marrying an canadian girl next year and they are planning on eloping to Fiji, they told us that because its no longer a shock to the greek side of the family that they are going to do it with a party afterwards as well.
Definitely not. Although I was never the girl who always dreamed about her wedding, I love the idea of having all of my family/friends witness our marriage and celebrate with us. There are some days where I think "UGH F all of this" but in the end, I know I will be extremely happy with our decision to have a fairly big wedding. Plus, I'm a total attention whore lol.
Definitely wouldn't elope. I'm looking forward to a chance to have this time with all our family and friends. Our theory is that we're throwing a party for the people in our lives that got us to this point -- this place where we're able to be together and be good for each other. We want to feel and give all the love we can!
It's tempting... but I wouldn't trade the big wedding. Having all the people together in one place was really awesome. It wasn't even necessarily the wedding, but since so much of our family came from really far, a lot of people stayed anywhere from a week to a month in town, so we got to spend a lot of time with a lot of people we don't see for years! In that sense, the big wedding was worth it!
Yes! The wedding was beautiful. amazing, fun, emotional. All that good stuff. And I don't want to say I regret it, because I don't. BUT if at the outset I had known how much time, effort, tears, stress, MONEY it was all going to be. We would have eloped! No question.
When a friend gets engaged I always have to remind myself no to rain on her parade by saying "JUST ELOPE!"
There were definitely downsides to the wedding, but once I was surrounded by my friends and family as I made my vows... no. On the other hand, my sister has been informed that certain family members shouldn't know of her hypothetical engagement (she's not even dating now) until the invitations go out!
I wanted to, but fi wanted the huge party. he thinks weddings are to be celebrated with all of your friends and family. we comprimised with a small wedding, which is still too big for me. i'll just be happy when it's all over with!
There are days I would say yes, but then I stumble on the sweetest picture of a couple on their wedding day with all their family and friends, and I think nope. Plus when else will you have nearly everyone that loves you and your FI in one room again?
Even though I loved our wedding and everyone there, there was something really tempting about eloping. With all the stress from our families and expectations, there were definitely times where we joked about it. However, in the end, I'm glad we were with our families and friends. I knew my 91 year old grandma couldn't have attended a destination/elopment and it was priceless to have her there.
I've considered it. Both of our parents are divorced (mine 22 years ago and his 6 months ago). I don't want to have to tip-toe around on our wedding day to avoid awkward situations. Mr. C said no way though, they will have to deal with it.
Considering the amount of drama and emotions that come along with planning a wedding ... yes, I would just go and have a gorgeous beach weddng!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It would still be as big and beautiful ... just by the beach with my favorite people in the world .. minus the obligitory invites =(
Never! My fiance actually wanted to get married in Hawaii (which would essentially be eloping for us as almost no one would be able to come), but I couldn't give up on the idea of planning a wedding.
absolutely, but is it eloping with 20 of your closest friends and family or is that just a destination wedding? my family is ginormous so i would consider that eloping lol!!
I'm having an intimate wedding and it will be a destination wedding for our families NO MATTER WHERE we have it so that's kinda fun imho. Everybody is outta town!
I kinda like to think of it as a "scheduled elopement". It will feel like something fun and spontaneous, but it will be well planned and easy imho. No stress! For me this just isn't anything honestly but fun!
Maybe. I just really want my immediate family there though. We almost did "elope" with our parents in attendance but then decided we didn't want to leave anyone out.
I couldn't imagine it. My immediate family is such a part of my life, it would kill me for them not to be there. I know its a lot to plan such a big event, but when I get overwhelmed, I remind myself that it is just a party and that our wedding in the church is more important in the long run than any reception. My family will be at the church.
So I couldn't elope, but I could get married without the big formal reception. We just like to party!
We would have most definitely eloped if we weren't concerned for our parents' feelings. Mr. Mary Jane is the oldest and I'm an only child, so we thought it'd be too sad for our moms if we eloped.
Nope, as tough as the planning can be sometimes, I wouldn't miss getting all of our family and friends together for a big party! Everyone lives all over the country, so it is our one big chance to get everyone together in one place.
As much as I want certain people to be at my wedding, I think about eloping a lot. There's something very simple, personal and romantic about it.
Sometimes I consider it for practical reasons. My grandmother would be so angry though! My cousin had a destination wedding she couldn't attend and I think she is still upset. Eloping could be so quiet and romantic though...
I've sort of considered it, but I know it's because I'm stressed about the money, even though my mom has offered to pay for it.
We've definitely had some moments when we thought about it, but...I WANT TO WEAR THAT DRESS ;)
There ARE days that it's certainly tempting!!! But my last marriage was quick and attended only by immediate family and ONE friend on each side...I missed having everyone that I loved there - aunts, uncles, cousins, friends...I wouldn't trade it for the world!
I would definitely consider doing something small and intimate in Las Vegas...but here's where it gets tricky.
I'd want my best best best friends there: +6
My Mom would have to come or she'd kill me and if she came, my Dad and StepMom would have to, also: +3
I'm sure FI (whoever he be!) would have a MINIMUM of 10 family/friends he'd want to have there.
So, now an elopement turns into a very intimate destination wedding.
Still, dinner for 20ish is waaaaaaay less than a full wedding reception.
So, figure:
-spa day
-get ready
-ceremony
-dinner
-club hopping
Yep, very doable and VERY tempting!!!
Although this wedding plan stuff can get stressful at times, I don't think I could give up a "traditional" wedding and elope. LOL, it's funny because I'm not the girly gir type and like a PP said, I didn't grow up planning my dream wedding.
My folks eloped and my mom still can't talk about it. It makes me sad that she didn't have the best wedding experience.
Nope. I couldn't have done that. There was a time when we thought about having a very, very small wedding that was only immediate family and a couple of friends. There are some people in my life that I couldn't imagine having there after all they have done for me and that they mean to me. If it was just me and Mr. Swan, it would have been great but not the same.
I don't know which is worse...the arguements, mixed messages, clashes of opinions we are dealing with now....or the wrath of our families if we had eloped!
Ask me again tomorrow... haha. Eloping has the appeal of being easy and intimate but our families would never forgive us and in the end... family is what matters.
Yep! In fact, I begged...but he always dreamed of a big wedding with his friends and family...so I agreed. It always shocks people when we tell them this whole wedding was his idea...not mine.
NO way, no hay!
I might have has a different style wedding (smaller, or bigger with less features), but being surrounded by the love and laughter of our besties was something I'll never trade in for anything. We totally basked in it all night long and I wish we could relive it at least once a year!
Short answer: No.
Long answer: As I get older, it becomes increasingly obvious that some things are the way they are for a reason. Not drinking beyond your limit, abstaining sexually before marriage, having a wedding with family and friends around you...it's the sort of stuff that if you follow through with the advice, you won't have serious regrets, but if you don't, you probably will. A wedding is one experience I don't want to miss out on!
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