Post # 1
We got engaged a couple months ago. We are excited to be getting married, but we have no money saved up for a wedding (it wasn’t something we were thinking about, and then my fiance got laid off right after we got engaged). Part of me wants to just go to the courthouse ASAP, and part of me would be sad to miss out on the wedding festivities.
What would you do in my place?
Post # 3
You can always do the courthouse and then down thr line throw the big huge wedding. It depends on if you want to wait or not.
Post # 4
If I couldn’t afford a wedding, I would get married at the courthouse and then have family and friends over to my house for a potluck or BBQ to celebrate 🙂
Post # 5
Similiar situation, I just got laid off but is still having my wedding, I have an amount in my head that I would like to pay for the whole thing and is working towards. My plan is for FI to put back $100 out of each check a week and for me to just put up all of my unemployment checks.
Post # 6
forgot to mention that I was already saving before I got laid off. So we have a good lil bit saved up already.
Post # 7
Don’t miss out on the wedding festivities if you don’t want – they do not have to be expensive!
Personally in that situation I’d get married at a public park, national wilderness, my/relatives’/friends’ house, or other cheap or free venue. Depending on budget I’d either get normal party food like burgers or pizza, chips/salsa, and supermarket trays, or I’d ask a few close friends/family to help me make potluck dishes. If I wanted dancing I’d do an mp3 playlist.
Casual and low-budget weddings can be the MOST fun kind. Don’t feel like you have to spend much money to entertain friends and family for your wedding.
Post # 8
A small wedding can be cheap. Just invite your immediate families, grandparents, and perhaps one or two of your very best friends. They’re the only people who really care about your wedding anyway. With a small guest list like that you can then get a private room at a restauarant, or even entertain them at home.
To me the marriage is more important than the wedding. I could never wait years just to save for the wedding. And (again in my opinion) no one day is worth saving for years for.
Post # 9
I would probably do some kind of a compromise. Like a (local) destination wedding/elopement at a pretty place and include family and close friends if you can afford that or else just the two of you. The two of you could still have a great celebratory dinner and even get a photographer if you wanted.
Post # 10
Courthouse, no big. Probably have a renewal or something like that when we could afford it. Honestly I kind of wanted to do that anyway, it was FH who wanted the big wedding. I’m glad we’re doing it (uh… most of the time anyway…) and I’d be upset if what we’re planning got cancelled, after all the work and time I’ve put in, but I wanted a low key, low-cost elopement from the start. I don’t regret giving on it so far, it’s been fun, it’s just that what it’s become is never what I would have planned if I had had a groom that didn’t want a big to do.
Post # 11
Wait, like we have been. This will be my first wedding and yes I want to be that princess in the dress, and I just can’t concive having a court house wedding. We talked about it once, and I started bawling my eyes out like a two year old over the thought of it. Yes I know its just a ceramony and a party, but that ceramony means the world to me, and the memmories and pictures I will have from it. (we already plan to have a very low key reception.) The FI compleatly understands why I want to wait, (he has been married before) and thankfully fully supports my decision and has never pushed me for it even tho others have.
I mean, truthfully, for us at least we live has husband and wife anyways just not on paper. So a marriage will only change things in that stand point so I see no reason not to wait to have the day we want.
Post # 12
A courthouse marriage is a wedding.
Get married at the courthouse and have a celebration in a park or at a restaurant or a community hall.
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC
Well i vote wait but im biased as Ive been waiting 2 years. I knew if I rushed it id really regret not doing it, expecially as im moving countries. Its been hard but now im coming to the end of it im beyond excited for this summer, I get to have what I want – me and the majority of my UK family in SC with his family from OK celebrating and having fun together before I move.
Post # 14
If we had to, we’d do a courthouse wedding followed a restaurant dinner with our nearest and dearest to celebrate.
And when we can afford it, we can have an extravagant vow renewal if we’re so inclined.
Post # 15
@AxolotlFan: I’m sorry to hear that your FI got laid off 🙁 I hope he finds work soon. I’m in this situation atm also. Because I am still looking for a full time job we have chosen to get married in 2015 once we have both saved enough money. We were originally planning for it to be next year, but we know it most likely isn’t possible. I know it will be worth it in the end.
Post # 16
We couldn’t *quite* afford our wedding, so yes, we put some of it on credit. My parents did pay for just over half, and then we payed for probably a bit over another quarter and charged the rest (The wedding is a ‘budget’ one by most standards so we ended up charging around 3k including my ring). We have a plan to pay it off over the next year and I definitely don’t regret it even a little bit. I’m getting my dream wedding and my dream ring! Plus, I just turned 30, we’ve been engaged or 18 months already, and I just couldn’t fathom waiting any longer! I know I could’ve scaled back my expectations to have a wedding I could technically afford, but I don’t think that would have made *me* happy. Do what’s right for you.