(Closed) If you don’t get along with SIL….will she be godmother to your child?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Isn’t the point to pick someone you trust most to guide your future children? If you can’t stand them, why would they be the ones you pick?

We don’t have this issue because we are athests, but if we weren’t, we would go with people we loved and adored – that we knew would fulfill the duty.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

I think who ever you have in your life that is actually mature in scripture and could help your child grow in knowledge and help keep them encouraged in their faith is who should be the godparents… not someone who gets it b/c of family “title”

If you wish to actually have “god parents”

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

We are very close with one of my SILs, but not the other.  The one we’re close with is our daughter’s godmother, the other one isn’t.  We didn’t ask any of my sisters to be godmothers, either. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

No. I’ll only have BIL’s from my FI’s side but I wouldn’t pick them for godfathers. They’re much younger, for one. If I were to have a child this year I’d most likely choose my best friend. We have 4-5 years before TTC so things may change.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would never trust my SIL with my child. She can’t even remember to feed her cat (she had one that the family gave away because she never took care of it she didn’t notice for three months and she once had a bird that she covered for the night and didn’t remember to take the cover off for a month). She may be older than me but she is completely irresponsible.  I will pick someone I trust with my child, someone I know would love and support them as much as I would.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

No, I would not and I am not choosing my SIL. I plan on only chosing someone who I would trust to take care of my child, and a person who I would go to for Godly advice. She is not neither. lol 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

@Treasure43 I think sticking to the criteria of the “job description” and the people that will best fit that is what should be deciding factor… Family can get over themselves (in my book) b/c it’s not about them it’s about the child.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Fortunately I get on well with FSIL,but I still wouldnt ask her to be godmother to my child. I see it as she will be their Aunt so she already has a role to play in my childs life,and if I had kids,one of my closest friends would be a godparent.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

NEGATIVE! She has a child and doesn’t take adequate care of her. I have a sister so my sister will be godmother. If I have 1 or 10 children. (I’d probably ask a cousin or friend if I had that many, but I’m just making a point) She is not trustworthy.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I don’t have IL issues, and the hubs and I are our youngest nephew’s godparents. Even though we don’t necessarily believe in God, his sister knew that we would be able to steer him in the right direction, and leave our own beliefs to ourselves.  Its an awesome responsibility, but one I think I can handle

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

But, to answer your question, if we didn’t get along, I woudl not ask anyone to be godparents, no matter if they are related to us or not

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

One SIL I don’t like… not happening!

The another SIL I LOVE but she’s not the most responsible person… so probably not.

My third SIL may or may not have her own kids, but I know she and my brother would take extremely good care of our kids if something were ever to happen to us. But it wouldn’t be just because they’re my brother and SIL. It’s because they’re best suited for the job.

We won’t be utilizing the name “godparents” as we are not religous, but when we have a family, I want to specify on a legal document (our will? Not sure if it belongs there) who will be responsible for our kids.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

If it’s my child, I would NOT be concerned with hurting feelings or causing drama. My (non-existant for now) child deserves the best, and I wouldn’t give him/her a godparents out of convenience.

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