Post # 1
I am not currently trying, but we will be starting to in about 2-3 months. I’ve never had a regular period and one doctor I went to said I have PCOS. Since we really started thinking about trying I’m terrified if we do get a BFP, I don’t want to tell anyone till we’re further along. I am just terrified of MC and all the sadness that would come with it.
So, If you did choose to wait, how long?
Thanks everyone and sending lots of baby dust your way!
Post # 3
Ok, TOTAL sidebar/threadjack for a moment…but, I’m new to the TTC boards, and I don’t have the FOGGIEST idea what any of the abbreviations mean lol, so please forgive me if I’m responding to the total wrong idea. That being said, I am getting the jist above that you’re afraid to tell anyone as soon as you get a positive prego test? Most of my friends only told a few super close family/friends at first, and then made it more public when they hit the end of the first trimester when they thought that it was safe! My husband and I just started trying last month though, and i can already tell how hard it’s going to be to keep my mouth shut when I get a positive! 🙂
Post # 4
I’m going to wait. My mother miscarried 3 times and a friend of mine miscarried last year at 18 weeks…she was very visibly pregnant and it was very devastating for her to have to deal with it, but also know that everyone else knew as well…
I think waiting until the 2nd trimester is my game plan…
Post # 5
I would tell Darling Husband right away and probably our parents too (or at least my mom – there is no way I could not tell her).
I won’t tell the whole world immeadiately, but in the event we do miscarriage, having our parents in the loop so that we can have their support would be beneficial.
Post # 6
@MissBMarie1428: This should help! http://wiki.weddingbee.com/Abbreviations
I’m going to wait until after the 1st trimester. MCs run in my family so I want to be somewhat sure of the baby’s health.
Post # 7
A lot of people wait until they hit the second trimester, when the risk of MC decreases significantly. I told my parents and immediate family (siblings) right away because I knew if I had an MC, I’d really need the support from them.
Post # 8
@MissBMarie1428: LOL thanks for the reply, yeah I had to revise my post because I started rambling and everything just mushed together 🙂
PCOS is Polycystic ovary syndrome and sucks.. BFP is Big Fat Positive
PCOS also seems to have a higher rate for loss 🙁
Post # 9
@Miss Orchard: That is so sad 🙁 I’m sorry to hear that!
@Mrs.KMM: Oh yes, I think telling my SO will be the greatest moment, we both have wanted children for a long time 🙂
@Mrs.DBee: Thanks for the abbreviation help 🙂 I’m new on some of them too! Thank you for giving me your thoughts!!
Post # 10
I told everyone right away, but my family is super fertile and out of all the generations, I’ve never heard of anyone having a miscarriage. I think everyone I know knew before I was six weeks, haha.
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia
Since we’ll be doing IVF, our parents will know – so I’d tell them of course. But everyone else would have to wait.
Post # 12
I miscarried my first pregnancy, and the only people I had told (besides DH) were my mother and my BFF SIL…the two people who’s support I would want if I did miscarry. With our second pregnancy, I told them, then DH’s family (parents and siblings) at 7.5 wks, my dad and stepmom at 8wks, and no one else until 13wks.
Post # 13
@Mrs. Bear Cheese Pie: hehe well that’s awesome! I wish you the best!! I don’t think anyone in my close family had any porblems but idk if they had any issues with fertility and I’m just a super worry wart 🙂
Post # 14
@jaguar: I understand on that, I wish you the best with your procedure and hope everything sticks!!
I will do whatever it takes to have a baby, but boy oh boy I don’t like needles and I feel for other women who have to go through so much. I truly wish you the best 🙂
Post # 15
@Mrs Sarah McK: 🙁 I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m very happy about your second bundle!
Yeah seems like majority is around second trimester 🙂 Sounds like a good plan 🙂
Post # 16
Obviously Darling Husband would know pretty much as soon as I do (or soon after) but I think the only other person I’d tell is my mom. If something were to happen, I’d want her support. I wouldn’t tell my IL’s right away since my Mother-In-Law is incapable of keeping a secret.