Post # 1
I was wondering if you could help me figure out how the pre or post wedding events work in terms of timing of invitations and letting people know
for those who had a rehearsal dinner or a post wedding brunch, did you do invites? when did you decide to send them out? were they the same time as the wedding invitations? Especially if this was a destination wedding, the rehearsal and or brunch would be in the same area
I’m not having a rehearsal dinner as there isn’t much to rehearse, but I did invite a couple of friends that live in town to go to dinner with us (friends/parents/family) the night before the wedding and I plan to go to breakfast at a local restaurant after the wedding
these events will not be hosted by anyone, just more like a casual dinner to catch up at a restaurant we all like for the night before the wedding
depending on the interest level of the post wedding brunch at a different restaurant, we plan on hosting the brunch after
thoughts about how I should let people know about the brunch?
Post # 3
We’re having a casual rehearsal dinner BBQ at my parents so we’re not sending invitations. Plus, every bridal party member is receiving their own timeline specific to their role in the wedding…..it has all the rehearsal dinner info on it.
At the last wedding we were at, the couple had a brunch planned but didn’t let any of us know about it until we were all half-drunk at the reception so none of us went…..we slept in and had the continental breakfast at the hotel.
I definitely think a heads-up about what you have planned is a good idea, but I don’t think you need invites
Post # 5
@roguehnp2005: for my brunch, my mom/dad, wedding party know about it but none of the other guests do and i did send out a detailed timeline as well to my wedding party about all my events
i mainly wanted to pay for a brunch with only family and my wedding party but my guests might be offended if they weren’t invited to the brunch? if everyone from the wedding came to the brunch then i would not be able to pay for everyone so it would just be you come you pay for yourself type of deal
Post # 6
@elliptical2013: No – we did word of mouth. It worked out perfectly
Post # 7
@elliptical2013: The wedding that had the brunch for us was just parents and bridal party. I think the reason they used word of mouth and individually told each bridal party member was so the guests wouldn’t know. They had it at the bride’s parent’s house. The guests didn’t even realize it and I’m sure they won’t even care. I guess if they catch wind and want to go, just let them know its on their own dime.
Just another example: for this same wedding, the groom and groomsmen had a brunch before the wedding. FI was a groomsman and I was invited, but paid for my own meal. I had no problem with that. 🙂
Post # 8
My inlaws hosted the rehearsal dinner and they sent invites to the bridal party. My mom hosted a brunch the day after the wedding, but she did it through word of mouth, no invites. She invited the bridal party, Groom’s parents, and any girlfriends/boyfriends of the bridal party.
Post # 9
@elliptical2013: We are doing a casual rehearsal dinner (inviting all out of towners, which equals about 90% of the guest list) and sending invitations for that. I got the design off etsy and ordered them from Vistaprint.
For the day after brunch, we are just doing drop in coffee and bagels at a little pastry and wine shop, so we’ll just be doing word of mouth 🙂
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
We did evites for both. For the brunch, I can’t remember exactly how we worded it, but we listed the price range for brunch entrees/cost of unlimited mimosas, to advise that it was on the guests’ dime.
Post # 11
We used word of mouth for the day after brunch. Since it was my bday, we paid.
Post # 12
@elliptical2013: we had a morning after brunch at my parents house for those that stayed in town through the night. We just included a little “invite”, (which was more like a note letting people know about the brunch) with their Hotel key when they checked in. The person working the desk just added it to the check-in information.
Post # 13
DH hosted our RD, and I sent invitations to all those being invited to that. We did not have a post-wedding brunch.
I would not issue invitations to any type of NON-hosted event, but, rather, would have your close family and friends casually mention by word of mouth something along the lines of “bride and groom plan to have breakfast at such-and-such a restaurant, at such-and-such a time the next day, and some of us plan to meet up with them and have breakfast there also, in case you and so-and-so have any interest in connecting with us to help see them off …”
Post # 14
We did an evite for the rehearsal dinner, and included information about a pre-rehearsal dinner cocktail party (for out of town guests) and a post wedding brunch (at the hotel) in our invites.
Post # 15
we did a pre wedding coktail and then we did a post wedding brunch I added litte tickets for the people that I invited to the extra activities. The coktail was a card like pocker because it was a casino night and then fot brunch just a little ticket thing.
Post # 16
we sent RD invitations about 3 weeks before the wedding.
for brunch the day after, we put the information in the hotel guest bags and the people who were not staying at the hotel that we wanted to come were told by word of mouth.