if you had a rehearsal dinner or post wedding brunch… did you do invites?

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
266 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We’re having a casual rehearsal dinner BBQ at my parents so we’re not sending invitations.  Plus, every bridal party member is receiving their own timeline specific to their role in the wedding…..it has all the rehearsal dinner info on it. 

At the last wedding we were at, the couple had a brunch planned but didn’t let any of us know about it until we were all half-drunk at the reception so none of us went…..we slept in and had the continental breakfast at the hotel.

I definitely think a heads-up about what you have planned is a good idea, but I don’t think you need invites

Post # 4
9525 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Post # 7
266 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@elliptical2013:  The wedding that had the brunch for us was just parents and bridal party.  I think the reason they used word of mouth and individually told each bridal party member was so the guests wouldn’t know.  They had it at the bride’s parent’s house.  The guests didn’t even realize it and I’m sure they won’t even care.  I guess if they catch wind and want to go, just let them know its on their own dime.

Just another example: for this same wedding, the groom and groomsmen had a brunch before the wedding.  FI was a groomsman and I was invited, but paid for my own meal.  I had no problem with that. 🙂

Post # 8
132 posts
Blushing bee

My inlaws hosted the rehearsal dinner and they sent invites to the bridal party. My mom hosted a brunch the day after the wedding, but she did it through word of mouth, no invites. She invited the bridal party, Groom’s parents, and any girlfriends/boyfriends of the bridal party.

Post # 9
194 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@elliptical2013:  We are doing a casual rehearsal dinner (inviting all out of towners, which equals about 90% of the guest list) and sending invitations for that. I got the design off etsy and ordered them from Vistaprint.

For the day after brunch, we are just doing drop in coffee and bagels at a little pastry and wine shop, so we’ll just be doing word of mouth 🙂

Post # 10
4163 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

We did evites for both. For the brunch, I can’t remember exactly how we worded it, but we listed the price range for brunch entrees/cost of unlimited mimosas, to advise that it was on the guests’ dime.

Post # 11
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We used word of mouth for the day after brunch. Since it was my bday, we paid.

Post # 12
1106 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@elliptical2013:  we had a morning after brunch at my parents house for those that stayed in town through the night. We just included a little “invite”, (which was more like a note letting people know about the brunch) with their Hotel key when they checked in. The person working the desk just added it to the check-in information.

Post # 13
10877 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

DH hosted our RD, and I sent invitations to all those being invited to that. We did not have a post-wedding brunch.

I would not issue invitations to any type of NON-hosted event, but, rather, would have your close family and friends casually mention by word of mouth something along the lines of “bride and groom plan to have breakfast at such-and-such a restaurant, at such-and-such a time the next day, and some of us plan to meet up with them and have breakfast there also, in case you and so-and-so have any interest in connecting with us to help see them off …”

Post # 14
286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

We did an evite for the rehearsal dinner, and included information about a pre-rehearsal dinner cocktail party (for out of town guests) and a post wedding brunch (at the hotel) in our invites.

Post # 15
893 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

we did a pre wedding coktail and then we did a post wedding brunch I added litte tickets for the people that I invited to the extra activities. The coktail was a card like pocker because it was a casino night and then fot brunch just a little ticket thing.

Post # 16
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

we sent RD invitations about 3 weeks before the wedding.

for brunch the day after, we put the information in the hotel guest bags and the people who were not staying at the hotel that we wanted to come were told by word of mouth.


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