(Closed) If you knew you were going to lose your SO…

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Ugh, can’t even think about it. It’s the invincibility of youth. You NEVER EVER think that something bad is going to happen to your SO.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Yes, I totally would. You have to live for the moment. We could all die on Monday, does that mean that nobody will get married this weekend? Not at all! I would go for it.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Yes. I’d want him to be happy. Unless I hadn’t been planning to marry him all along – but after 3 years I wanted to marry FI (it would have been unfair to be together without such an expectation at that point).

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

what a sad story.

i would say YES YES YES, i would cherish the rest of the time we had together, and try everything to make him as happy as possible.

 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

This is my situation (not cancer though – a different terminal illness).  We are getting married October 30th and I can’t wait.  We’ll cross that medical bridge when we get there and we’ll lay out all the options.  We’re living for now – not what will/could happen in the future because we honestly don’t know what advances could happen in the next few years and we don’t know what will go on with transplant lists either.  

My point is, I’ve found the man I’m meant to be with and regardless of how long we have together, I’d rather have a year or two with him and be widowed in my twenties, than have never known him.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yes I would, without a doubt. 

 

Post # 9
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Helper bee

im in that situation right now, id marry him in a heartbeat either way, i hope and pray he can pull through this and prove everyone wrong like he did before and we get our forever togther<3

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would marry him. Absolutely.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would probably want to marry him sooner! I would cherish everyday and help him meet all his life goals!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would…if I knew I wanted to marry him.

I think if they were BF and girlfriend but she didn’t really see them getting married ever – then it’s not fair to him for her to accept just because he’s terminal.

I think that caller made a good point about “Would you marry him regardless of the fact that he has a year to live?” Otherwise it’s all just an illusion.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

A very good friend was diagnosed with cancer – he never smoked and was very healthy  up to that point.  He and his then GF got engaged and planned for the future like it was going to last forever – that was the only way they saw for them.  I was blessed to be able to go to their wedding ceremony last summer.  It was on a Sunday.  We were at his funeral the following weekend.

Life is fragile and precious – I think you have to follow your heart otherwise the regrets will consume you.  If I were in that girl’s position I would joyfully marry the person I love…

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh God, that’s a horrible thought.  But yes, I would marry him if we were in that situation.  Not for me though, for him.  I love him dearly, if he were ill and wanted a wedding/marriage, then that is what I’d give him. 

To the ladies going through this- I wish your loved ones well, and happiness to you all 🙂

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I would marry him. If he were dying and I knew I loved him so much I would marry him either way.. I wouldn’t think twice. 🙂

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