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If you live together with your SO... who moved into whose house?

posted 2 years ago in Home
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  • poll: Who moved into whose house?
    I moved into my SO's place : (47 votes)
    26 %
    My SO moved into my place : (35 votes)
    20 %
    We both moved into someone elses' place (e.g. family's house, friend's place, etc.) : (4 votes)
    2 %
    We picked it out together : (89 votes)
    50 %
    Other! (please explain) : (4 votes)
    2 %
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    mrbee    March 5, 2005   New York City, New York

    Bee and I got our last two places together... before that, she moved into my place!

    I think the happiness level went up dramatically after we chose a place together.  I guess it felt more like "our" place rather than "my place with a dresser for your stuff".

    How about you?

     
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    Lillindy    September 2008   Bay Area, CA

    I know what you mean, I moved into where he was staying last time, but now that we moved into our house together it still feels more "us."  Our only challenge now is trying to decorate for "us" instead of for just me or just him. 

     
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    weaverm26    May 26, 2012   Philadelphia, PA

    I bought the condo and he moved in! I am a total control freak as I'm sure you all can tell!

     
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    crebre80    November 20, 2010   Baton Rouge, LA

    We picked a new place out together!   However like Lillindy we are having decor issues! He wants everything masculine with blues and I want it a tad more feminine. I think that the chocolate and blue color combo is a lifesaver though!! Although I wanted red for my living room Undecided

     
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    He will be moving in with me.  Actually he's fine with most of the decor.  I want him to feel at home, so I've repeatedly asked if he wants things repainted, rearranged, changed in any way.  Some things are changing, but not as much as I was expecting.  

     
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    ZoeKat    July 2010  

    We have always been on neutral territory and I think that's what helped us transition so smoothly. We picked out our apartment together, then our condo, and (hopefully) soon our house.

     
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    MissGoodie    July 24, 2010   Coquitlam

    I moved into his place but we just bought a new place together which we will be moving to in December. I can't wait to have a place that is ours rather than just his that I happen to be living in!!

     
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    lilyfaith    June 23, 2012   Lakeview, Chicago

    Originally FI moved into my old apt... then we (along with my roommate from the first place and her boyfriend) found a nicer apt together. 

     
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    mouse    September 11, 2009   Austin, TX

    When we first moved in together, we waited until his lease on his apartment was up and we rented a house together.  I had to sublease my apartment for a couple months. 

     
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    Stassney    March 11, 2012   Austin, Tx

    My fiance and I were in an LDR. I was 18 when we met, and my parents were having a very hard time with the thought of me moving 700 miles to be with "this stranger." So after much convincing and proding he came to visit me here in Austin, and loooooved it. The next week he moved into my parents' house with me. I think my dad did some private begging to the tune of "Please don't take my daughter away. If you promise not to, you can live with us rent free."

    We have since gotten our own place together away from the parentals, and finally with the added bonus of being able to sleep in the same room.

     
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    scissors    June 19, 2010   Atlanta, Ga

    He moved in with me, and then a year later we got a new apartment. :)

     
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    mascara      

    After being in an LDR for a couple years after college, Mr. M quit his job in MI and moved to IL.  When I picked out my apartment I knew he'd be moving over here eventually so I found one big enough for both of us to live in.  It took awhile to get him over here (a little over a year) but now I think we feel like it's "our" place, for now at least.  We will definitely be moving soon, after the wedding our stuff is sort of exploding in our apt.

     
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    CarrieAnne    March 13, 2010   Wine Country

    We lived in a dorm, bleh, and then when we moved to a new city for grad school, picked out an apartment together.

     
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    grace8367    September 6, 2009   Chicago

    He moved in with me and we're renting his out.  Now we want to sell them both and get a house but will probably wait a year so we don't lose money. 

     
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    eloping    May 23, 2010  

    hubby already owned his place so i moved in with him

     

     
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    joey    August 1, 2009   Seattle

    We moved into a new apartment together because we were moving to Seattle from DC and Brooklyn.

     
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    BrooklynBride10    October 9, 2010   nyc

    We went apartment hunting together. :)

     
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    LeahNHeath    July 17, 2010   Tulsa, OK

    He moved in with me because I've been out of school for 4 years and have a job at a TV station here. He just graduated from law school and is patiently looking for a job.. Come On Economy! Wink

     
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    RecessionistaBride    January 28, 2012  

    I'll be moving into his place next summer :)

    If we lived in the same country, I'd get him to move in with me. I have a condo- it's less maintenance & its perfect for just the 2 of us. He has a house with a massive yard and he's on a busy street. I feel more secure in my condo!

     
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    mssushi    March 2009   Hershey, PA / Kaneohe, HI

    Alright so I marked two; "My SO moved into my place" and "We picked it out together".

    I had actually moved into his mom's house with him for a little bit while I was house hunting. At the time, I wasn't sure that Mr. Sushi would be moving in with me. Actually to be honest, I really wasn't sure where our relationship was going. So while he helped me look for a house, I was looking for a house for a "single" (ie. not married), young girl. He helped me pick out a place and then moved in with me. :o) Us moving in together was the best thing for our relationship. Although now I'm regretting not finding a place a little larger for a family. We'll have to start house hunting all over again soon. :o)

     
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    FlipFlopBride       Virginia

    I moved in with FI. He already owned the house. Even now, two years later, I have trouble feeling like it's "ours". He already had a vision of how it would be decorated, and I'm still trying to talk him out of having a neon Corona clock in the living room!

     
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    elephant    April 2011  

    FI moved into my place for about a month and then we moved into a new place together.  I'm really glad that we moved into a place together, which gave me the excuse to buy more things... it made it feel more like "our" place then "my" place with some of his stuff in it.

     
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    ScarletJwl    September 24, 2011   Northern Virginia/Vermont

    We got an apartment together straight out of college, so it really is our place.  In college he lived in my dorm room, but I am not sure that counts... 

    It was really fun and comforting to take the big step together.  We had a really good time painting the walls together and putting together a glider for our porch together.  I love living with him; we have so much fun!!  And it has always been our place so it is filled with items that represent us individually as well as us as a couple.

     
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    cheerful    September 2009 - eloped  

    Well, technically I moved in with him, but we'd picked the place together and I moved in so shortly after him that we decorated it together and made it 'ours.'

     
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    IA_Snowflake    August 29, 2009   Missouri Valley, IA

    I know what you mean about the whole it's his place with my stuff in it.  I moved into my husband's house when we got engaged.  I still own my house and he still owns a second house too (long story).  But we live together in the house he built when he was married to his ex.  Although I really want to make it my own, I still have trouble, especially since the walls are still painted the way she did them and etc.  Oh well.  Someday, I want a place we build together, but that probably won;t happen for like 10 to 15 years.

     
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    krissybee    October 15, 2011   :: chicago IL ::

    before we moved in together I lived with my parents and he lived with friends at another apartment. It was fun creating our first "home" together. (small apartment that is quite "dorm-ish", but home nonetheless ) Laughing

     
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    krissycake    November 21, 2009   orlando,fl

    I'll be moving over into FI's house!

     
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    honeybun    June 5, 2010   VA

    We got together while I was in an apt. at college, and he was staying with his mom. We then moved to a new city and got an apt. together. Then we broke up, I moved out and into a new apt. We got back together, and he moved into my apt. with me. Earlier this year, we bought our first house! You follow? LOL

     
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    Jessie516    May 16, 2009   Ann Arbor, MI

    We picked out our apartment together.  I kinda like it that we've been able to choose everything together and really make it OURS.  I can't wait until we can buy a house together!

     
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    frozen yogurt    April, 2010  

    We picked out a place together.  We were both moving to a new city together, and rented a house.  I think it would have been hard to move in to each other's home just because I wouldn't feel like I had a place for my stuff.  Prior to moving in together, he had one tiny drawer at my house for his stuff. :)

     
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    Miss Sapphire    December 2009   Seattle

    I bought a house, he moved in.

     
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    stephbolt    April 30, 2010   Philadelphia, PA/Frederick, MD

    I was renting and FI owned his place so I moved in there.

    I had a lot of apprehension about it because it was very much a bachelor pad, so I told him I wanted to be sure we had room for both of our stuff, and we would both have to get rid of some things.  We were honest about what stuff we really wanted/needed to keep, and made probably a dozen trips to goodwill over the month before we completed the move.  I'm very happy with how things turned out.

    My sister and her bf just bought a house together, and I'm very envious that she got to go through the househunting process with him and start from scratch with decorating.  Luckily my FI and I are talking about buying a new place by the end of 2011 so I will get to go through it soon enough, and that hope will hopefully be our long term family home.

     
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    cobalt    4/10/10  

    He moved in with me.  I was renting my own place at a steal (seriously, she should charge twice as much as she is charging, crazy old lady) and he was still living with the parents to save money..  So it made sense to live together in my place. I believe he's put his mark on it enough to make it feel like us.. haha

    But we hope to buy a house together ASAP.

     

     
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    guineapig    May 2010   Baltimore/Stevensville, MD

    I was in the same situation a few folks have already mentioned - I was renting, and FI owned his house, so I of course moved into his house!  There were a few issues about furniture and decorating because we have completely different styles (I like classic/detailed wood stuff, he likes clean modern lines... yikes!) but it helped us figure out what was most important to us! And he let me paint some of the walls so it felt more like I lived there too - it was actually really important to him that I not just feel like I was staying in 'his house' with my stuff.  Now he even appreciates some of the stuff I brought with me, agreeing that it does look 'kinda nice' (as he put it)!

    I actually think that choosing a house together whenever we next move will be a pretty big hurdle because we have such different tastes, but at least we took a step towards that with combining our furniture already!  I like to think of it as a good warmup ;)

     
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    vintage2010    April 10, 2010  

    Well he moved into my house this week!  Yippie!  Mine was bigger so that's why we chose it over his house.  Plus his home is in a location that homes are selling within 3 months of listing.  We sold his in the first week!  So we made the right choice to sell his first.  Ultimately we want to finish remodeling mine and put it on the market and find something we both love!

     
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    jrswiggy    9/18/2010   Ohio

    We were both renting and I was five hours away....so I relocated and we picked out a townhouse to rent for a year and then we just bought a house in March:) It's been fun making decisions together and making everything ours:)

     
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    Future Mrs. Walker    January 2, 2010   Huntsville AL

    I rented out my Condo and moved back in with my Mom in Sept. That's interesting after living alone for 10 yrs....anyway, we've slowly started moving some of my things into his place, and once the big day gets here I'll be all moved in at "our" home. :)

     
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    quiche    May 2, 2009   Chicago

    I first moved into Mr. Q's loft, then we bought a condo together a year or so later!

     
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    Sage    June 26, 2010   PA

    I moved into the house he'd lived in for several years. I got a job in the area and was moving back from a long way away. It would be ideal for us to find a place together, but we get a killer deal on this place since the landlord is a family friend. We won't move until we buy, but believe me, I understand the sentiment of wanting to find a shared space!

     
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    goodart    June 5, 2010   Tn

    FH will move into my house after we get married.  We still don't know what to do with his place sell or rent it out and fix it up a little before trying to sell. 

     

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