(Closed) If you picked out the ring together, what did he like and what did he say no to?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
1122 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@musician32992:  Hahaha! I got the whole “I have to buy you two? Thats not fair!” thing too! Cracks me up! I pretty much can get whatever I want. I picked out my ering, and I have mentioned resetting it a few times, and he normally says no, but I am always glad he says that later, but as far as wedding rings go I can get whatever I want. He says, its your finger, get what you like. Sometimes I wished he was more picky so that I could narrow down the choices! It took me forever to find anything I really liked! haha.

Post # 4
1362 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

He hated pear cuts and I loved them and marquise so we went with marquise. He wanted white gold and for some reason loved bezel set which I do not!!

Eventually he was just to fed up with the decision making so he gave me a budget and let me pick lol!!! I gave him two options and he picked one and thats what we went with lol

Post # 5
7462 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

He didn’t like any rings that had filigree that was in the shape of hearts, but neither did I. We both found it cheesy. We were really on the same page about ring styles, so he didn’t have to really say no to anything.

Post # 6
4663 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

He didn’t like halos or hearts.

He really like rounds, princess or cushions.

He wanted platinum as well.

Post # 7
685 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I got to pick mine out, but he hated halos, colored stones, and he was even pickier about the center stone than I was, haha.  If he had his way, I would probably have a princess cut solitaire with a simple band, but a solitaire just wasn’t what I wanted.

The one I ultimately chose looked huge online, so he was skeptical when we went to go check it out in person, but once I tried it on we both agreed it was the one 😀

Post # 8
2971 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

he didn’t say no to anything. i think originally he was more drawn to 3-stone bands and he was a little bit disappointed that i had something else in mind, but he never said no to anything. he wanted me to have exactly what i wanted (as long as it was within his budget).

Post # 9
24 posts
  • Wedding: January 2012

He didnt say no to anything but he hated some of the more busy rings with a whole lot of bling- he called them gaudy. And he insisted on platinum only.

Post # 10
1849 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

He really liked asymmetrical rings (actually he likes many asymmetrical things in general, it’s a little weird…) and I needed total symmety on my own finger, so that plan had to go. But he didn’t say no to me on anything. For a split second I considered a cushion cut but he said he liked round better, so that’s about it. He considered saying no to moissanite, but I convinced him otherwise. 

Post # 11
19 posts
  • Wedding: August 2008

we did it a little different. (but we have always done everything the non traditional way)

he picked out the wedding band and surprised me at the alter.

i picked out and  negotiated “our” diamond and setting.  he gave me complete autonomy.  he used to say “when you are having a bad day, I want you to look at the rock and smile”



Post # 12
8696 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

He said no to any stones with color : (

Post # 13
4354 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

My Darling Husband did not say no to anything.  He wanted me to have what I wanted.  Had I left it to him, he would have picked something very art deco.  Which would have been fine in retrospect, but at the time, I wanted what I wanted, lol.

Post # 14
1762 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

My SO said NO to heart shape stones and moissy not fan of it and white gold.

Post # 15
924 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

He hated:

canary diamonds

anything that wasn’t a white stone (I looked at morganite, pink sapphires, canary diamonds)



He loved:


princess cut

moissanite (jewelry store had some and he loved that it looked like a diamond without the high price because he did not want a colored center stone like I did)


We ended up with:




and we’re both happy 🙂

Post # 16
6360 posts
Bee Keeper

I’m fortunate that we have a lot in common in terms of taste.

He did not want white metal, halos, anything artificial, or anything gaudy. He wanted a feature white diamond. I was in total agreement with him with all of these! We were also both very picky about quality specifications of the diamond. Neither of us wanted to pretend we didn’t see that hint of yellow from the side or weird little squiggle by the girdle.

However, he also did not want colored gemstones, e.g. rubies, even as accent stones. He felt they were not apporopriately “marriage/weddingy” enough. I disagree with him… I think natural colored gemstones can totally be “weddingy”! But he did not prefer it and I didn’t deeply want it, so I aquiesced immediately. I was just surprised when I first picked up a ring with rubies in it and he made a face saying “Oh please, no rubies! No colored stones! Not for this ring, it’s a ring to symbolize our marriage!”

And you know what’s funny? colored gemstones are so un-“weddingy” are they? Well, I’m working on his man-gagement ring now, with his feedback of course, and it will have a colored natural gemstone feature stone!! He is in complete agreement with this! lol!

He sees it as different because he won’t be wearing it on his left hand the rest of his life (he’ll replace it with the wedding band once we’re married), but, c’mon now, an engagement ring is an engagement ring, whether for man or woman. Obviously, colored gemstones can indeed be plenty “weddingy”!

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