If you wear same dress like other brides how you can be unique after all?

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
4698 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Whiteway:  There’s approximately 82858397483 factors that go into a wedding. The venue and surroundings and colors and decor can make a dress look totally different, just like seeing two different colors next to the same one can trick your eye into thinking there’s an extra color.

Even if you ONLY consider stuff on your person… Just YOU wearing the dress makes it special to you, since no one else has your body, or your face, or your style exactly. Then there’s your shoes, accessories, hair, makeup, bouquet… all could be incredibly different and very “you.” 

There is something to be said for the phrase “there’s nothing new under the sun.” Not all brides even want to be unique — some don’t pay attention to what others are doing/not doing at all, and some follow trends and traditions deliberately. And some things are popular for a reason, because they’re efficient, or they’re helpful, or they’re easy to understand, or they’re beautifully designed.

It’s like we say on tvtropes (a website about cliches in media) – tropes are not bad. Tropes are just tools you can use or not use. 

Of course, if you really want to be a special snowflake (I say it with love, I’m totally guilty of this) you can get a little bolder – venture outside the white/ivory/champagne/etc. spectrum and you instantly have a fresh look nobody’s copying.

Buy a prom or quinceanera dress, or have something custom made. Go dramatic and glam with your makeup and jewelry. Wear an elven tiara or cascading hair ribbons instead of a veil, make your bouquet out of heirloom brooches. If you value being different, the best way to accomplish that is to take a different path from the beginning (instead of following the same path to Kleinfeld’s etc. and looking for something unique there.)

Post # 4
8388 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

some don’t pay attention to what others are doing/not doing at all

@Bebealways:  +1, this exactly

Post # 5
480 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My dress is quite a popular one this year. I’ve seen other people on here withit and it was the dress picked out on an episode of don’t tell the bride.  However as far as I’m aware it isn’t the dress any of my married guests wore and I like it so it doesn’t rmatter.  Plys as said in an earlier post, there are so many factors that go into the wedding that they will all be different.

I’m just going for stuff I like rather than worrying about whether it’s different enough – a lot of my inspiration came from google images so by deiniftion, stuff that has already been done.

It’s an interesting topic because it is a subject my Mum seems concerned with and I have had to tell her several times that I don’t care if other people do it.  For example I’m using empty jars and bottles for my center pieces at the moment, which is very common at the moment and she thinks I should do something different, but I like it so, so what?  She was also not keen on me getting a strapless dress for the same reason.  With this I ended up not going strapless but because I found a dress I liked with straps rather than because I was trying to be different.

It’s your day, does it really matter if it’s not completely unique?

Post # 7
4827 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

Every wedding is different, remember most people outside the Bee don’t follow wedding blogs or give a shit about current wedding dress trends. Don’t worry about being unique; worry about feeling comortable and pretty!

Post # 10
3787 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Given average income levels, I think it’s safe to say that most girls have one of probably (tops) a few thousand dresses that are not “custom” outside of being ordered to her measurements. Just because I have the same dress as another girl doesn’t mean that we’re going to wear it the same way. Hair, makeup, shoes, jewelry, etc are all physical choices of the bride herself but the whole event is really about her and her FI’s own personal taste and how they imagine their wedding. I think worrying about whether you’ll be unique if someone out there has the same dress as you do is a bit of a narrow concern. ; )

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