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When I give birth (if God blesses my DH & I with a child), I would want my DH and my momma in the room with me..no one else!
My midwife said I could have whoever I wanted there with me (until it got too crowded of course) but I chose to only have my husband with me (FI then).
My mom, BFF, and DH (of course) were there. Some of the nursing students asked if they could watch, and my midwife had a medical student. I swear there were like 15 people in the room. (It seemed like 1000!) It was kind of fun though, everyone was screaming and cheering for us and really supporting me ( my epi didn't work, and I was mentally unprepared for the pain) I really liked having everyone there. Every time DD's head peeked further and further out, the cheers would get louder and it really helped me do my thang. I only pushed for 20 minutes. =)
During the labor but not delivery portion I'm planning on it definitely being DH and probably my mom and sister as the only people allowed in the room with me. During the actual delivery portion the plan right now is for it to be just DH and myself (along with the medical team, obviously) but we'll see if that changes!
we plan to have a natural birth and aside from any medical staff i want it to be just my husband. i think its an intimate thing and should just be between the two of us
So... this sounds weird everytime I tell it but DH, my mom, my dad and my sister were all in the room. It never felt weird because we were all together during labor, hanging out and they were so supportive. Then when it came time to push, my parents backed off and didn't see any details (huge room and they were in the corner seating area). Lol my poor sister held my leg while I pushed and DH was holding both of my hands while I squeezed them as tight as I could. I realize this was different. But it worked.
At the time it was like nothing mattered except have the support I needed. Originally I only wanted DH in there for the delivery. Somehow everything happened fast. I had a friend tell me that her parents were in the delivery room (this was when I was pregnant) and I thought "ew."
Next child, it will definitely just be DH. He had no idea what to do the first time, but I think he's got it now.
I would want my DH and my mom there. Maybe my best friend? Probably not.
My DH and only my DH. I would be mortified if anyone else I knew was in there seeing me like that.
My husband has a tendency to pass out when he sees just a little bit of blood. I want him to be there but I don't want him to see anything.
I am totally freaked out by all of the process. I couldn't imagine having 50 people staring down there. I know it's not a problem, but I would always be concerned about what they are thinking/looking at. I really only want my DH but I may have my mom if she only stays by my head lol.
I am going to have DH and our doula in the room with me. Also, my sister might be there too. I think I'm ok with that, and it sounds like she actually wants to see what birth is all about. (I think if I were in her shoes I wouldn't want to be in the delivery room b/c seeing all of the pain would freak me out. She doesn't have kids of her own yet.)
DH and I have actually discussed this. I told him he BETTER be in the delivery room with me. He says he will stand at the head of the bed... he does NOT want to be "all up in the mix", lol!
I definitely want my DH and my mom to be in the room for sure. I would also allow my MIL and/or my sister if they wanted to be there.
I would also allow any nursing or med students who wanted to observe to be in there with the medical team.
My husband stood by my head the entire time. Somebody asked if I wanted a mirror and I was like HELLZ NOOO! I'm pretty sure I pooped, but I didn't want to see it so I could pretend it didn't happen.
I'd have my husband in there with me. But he'd stay up by my head/holding my hand the whole time.
Considering I'm going for completely natural (vaginal + unmedicated) I'm thinking it will be just my midwife & DH here (at home)... I'd like my mom here BUT I know that DS will be VERY distracting in labor so I'm thinking I might have her take him.
Maybe I'll get my bestie to take him and have my momma here... or maybe the other way around... idk. lol
I do want DS here when the lil bean is born though.. and we've talking about DH "catching" it!
I had a natural birth at home and my labor kept slowing down every time the midwife came near me (even though I really liked her and had no reason to stress). So my doula suggested my husband and I labor quietly alone in the bedroom, and the midwife and doula only came in to check on me every 15 minutes. This helped a lot! So in my experience, fewer people in the room allows for a faster labor. My labor was 21 hours so anything to speed it up is appreciated!
When I gave birth, most of the time it was just my husband. My BIL/SIL did show up about an hour or so before I went into labor. But anytime the nures/doctor needed to check things everyone left except my husband.
I wish you could pick more than one - I would want my FI and my mother or aunt
I'm not having kids anytime real soon, but I have thought about this. I'd for sure want my husband there, and I've even thought about one of my two BFF's - but I think that would cause issues if I had my friend there and not my mom, and I'm pretty certain I couldn't have my mom there. I love her, but she gets very emotional and is all into feelings and everything, and I can have a very irritable reaction to that when I'm under some kind of stress or exertion (such as, I imagine, delivering a baby). I think I'd do a lot better in that situation with my friends, who are incredibly supportive but a little more straight-shooting and levelheaded and not overly gushy. (I imagine myself in this scenario as a lot like Miranda in Sex and the City, who threatened to kill any nurse who came over and did the "Breathe! You're doing sooooo good!" cheerleading thing.)
Our plan is for just DH, my Mom has no interest in being in the room (She says having done it 3 times herself was more than enough LOL), which is good, because I think I like the idea of it just being us, and the medical team in there. I would also allow nursing students/medical students/residents etc in there, because I was a nursing student who needed the esperience once as well!
I think half my family will be there as well as my MIL. When I did this 13 years ago I had my mom, aunt, and grandmother in there with me as well as several nurses and a NICU team. So I don't see why it should be any different this time...lol. And i did opt for the mirror last time and even got to touch his head when he crowned....that was pretty awesome!
FI only, though I would consider my Mom. Most likely, just FI though.
For the record though, they would both need to be near MY head. Neither of them, FI included, would be watching that come out. I know it's "beautiful" but to me it just is way too personal. The people who have this in their job description can go ahead, but not FI. Or mom if she was in there.
Oh, and students would be cool as well. I considered that part of the "job description" rant. Having been a student in a hospital, I wouldn't be able to say no.
There is a rule at my birth center that you can choose three people, before it gets a little too crowded, and they want a strong support system. For my sister, she had her husband, our mom and me. For me I would be comfortable with that as well, just my hubby, momma and my sister. NO ONE ELSE. lol
I think when the time comes I will have DH and my mom. I have said only DH for so long but knowing my mom she will want to be in there. We are very close and she had 3 all natural vaginal (no meds) births so I think she could be a big help.
I am still not sure about this. I know I want DH & a doula. I'm not sure if I want my mom, but I know she wants to be there. Three people plus doctors and nurses just seems like a lot!
My sons dad was there with me all the way. I could not say that he was very helpful. I felt like slapping him all the time because he was a tad too sensitive during that moment to cope with me during delivery. But it turned out ok.
You said "naturally" but I wonder if you mean "vaginally." I had both a natural and a vaginal delivery. Besides my midwife and the nurses, I only had my husband in the room. I guess if I had the means to afford a doula, I would have her in there as well, but definitely not any additional family or friends. That's just my personal preference.
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Who would be allowed in the room with you aside from the medical team? Only your partner? Immediate family? Entire family? Anyone who wants to come see?