Post # 1
I know it’s an odd question but let me explain:
A coworker was talking to me about family issues and I said, “You can’t choose your family the way you can pick your friends, roommates, or boyfriend.” And then that got me thinking – when you have a baby, it’s like gambling and you have to accept whatever comes out and you can’t decide to separate from them and still remain “friends” like you can with a stranger. And even though my dad loves me to death and would never trade me….if I wasn’t his daughter, let’s just say I wouldn’t be his first pick of personalities to live with because I’m too disorganized and slovenly for his ocd military standards.
So….would you still live with your kids if they weren’t your kids? Do you think your parents would have still lived with you?
Post # 2
harleyq: My daughter is 17…..need I say more?
Post # 3
Bridey77: Haha!! Exactly!
I have 3 teenagers. I like to eat. The teenagers eat all my food. And the girl steals my clothes. So, no. I love them, but no.
Post # 4
- Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN
harleyq: I DEFINITELY would not live with my 10 year old, we are too much alike. I would not live with the 8 year old, she is too clingy and I would not live with the 14 year old because he talks too much (unfortunately, he gets it naturally)…..LOL! Fun post!
Post # 5
harleyq: my siblings are all loud and attention-seeking, but I defied middle child syndrome by always being quiet and generally agreeable. I think my parents would choose to live with me, but likely not with my siblings! They were ecstatic to drop everyone off at university besides me.
The downside is that my siblings can do whatever they want, while my parents hover and need to discuss all of my life choices. The first time I defied them, I was in my very late teens, and they were downright shocked that I broke their rules.
Post # 6
Bridey77: That made me laugh. Too funny!!
I would still live with my daughter if I wasn’t related to her. She is a pretty neat kid, full of creative ideas and funny stories. She’s a hoot to be around. With that said … She is 10. Once she hits her teenage years, I will probably have to revisit my answer.
As for my parents … I honestly don’t know. I think my dad would still choose to live with me if I hadn’t been his daughter. We are a lot alike and get along really well, overall. My mom, though, probably wouldn’t have.
Post # 7
I dont have kids. I guess i would like to live with my bro even if he wasnt, he’s funny.
With my parents… i dont know, i love them but then again who wants to have a 60 and 68 y/o roomies?
Post # 8
I think it is too early to tell. I would likely choose to live with my DS14. We are very alike, except he has a better sense of humour than I do! My two other children are younger, and I cannot yet tell what sort of adults they will be. But let me clarify that I don’t think adult children SHOULD live with their parents; I would consider myself a failure as a parent if I had a child out of college who was unwilling or unable to live independently. My kids may (hopefully) be great people, but I just don’t think it’s healthy not to move on at some point. But I’m assuming the question is hypothetical.
As for my parents, I probably could have lived with my dad because we were very much alike and enjoyed many of the same things. I get along great with my mum, but I think that is because we do not live together. She is still a little bit overbearing if I tell her too much of what’s going on. She will always view herself as and be my mum, and never move past trying to manage or fix everything we don’t see eye to eye on.
Post # 9
harleyq: Not a parent, but a coworker recently said (in regards to sending his kids to college):
“I pay a lot of money to keep you away from home”
Post # 10
My mom begged me to not move out so I think she would live with me. Lol.
Post # 11
playdohpants: haha I could see my parents saying that when I was younger. My boys are young (11months & 2) so it’s hard to say. But I can say my mom and I do a lot better with a lot of distance between us and I would happily have my dad live with us if the time ever comes that he needs that
Post # 12
I was a pretty easy kid and I’m a pretty easy going adult. My parents wanted me to live at home during College, so I think they wanted me to stay. My parents couldn’t wait until my older brother went to College and their relationship got so much better after he wasn’t living with them any more.
As for me, DD is only 2 months old and I love living with her haha. Maybe I will think differently when she is a teen.
Post # 13
My son is too young, but I think my mom would choose to live with me. She says I am the funniest person she’s ever known, and we have always gotten along and do stuff together.
Post # 14
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Well the idea of Teen LK leaving for college in 2 short years depresses the hell outta me, so I’m pretty darn attached. But he’s still a teenage boy, and I don’t know why anyone would choose to live with one that they did not love in a parental-connection type of way (note, that would include older siblings, uncles, grandparents, etc. who take in a child they love to do right my them).
Post # 15
My older daughter is hard to live with- we love eachother very much but our personalities just clash. I find my younger daughter easier to live with, but then again, she isn’t going through puberty like the older one is either.
My next door neighbors are about 60 and their 2 adult sons live with them. They all have jobs, but seem to have no intention of moving out- like ever. But the whole family really seems to like eachother and seems really happy.