Post # 1
by joining a gym, and you noticed they changed their eating habits and working out more, but after a month you didn’t see a change in them would you TELL them that??
Yeah, it’s happened to me today. Someone told me that today.I joined a fitness challenge and mistakenly mentioned it to people. There are about 4 more days left. Lost 10 lbs, some inches. I got a “Do you notice a difference?” I said yeah, some inches and mentioned the I’ve also been wearing the same clothes. The person said “Oh because I couldn’t tell.” Not in a nasty way, but in a polite but still saying the unecessary.
If it were ME I would’ve said “wow well good job for sticking it out” or mentioned something else if I personally didn’t see the changes.
Maybe I’m ultra sensitive?
Post # 3
No, you’re not ultra-sensitive. That person is an ass-fedora.
Post # 4
I would NEVER EVER EVER say that to anyone.
What an ass!!
Post # 5
Well that was rude of them!
It’s only been a month. It takes like 8-12 weeks for most other people to be able to notice changes. If YOU notice a change, it’s obviously working.
Post # 6
What a DOUCHE!
I can’t believe someone said that to you!
That is just mean.
This may sound nuts – but I honestly believe there are personalities that sabatoge the progress of others. This person seems to fit the bill to a T.
Congrats on making a lifestyle change! And 10 pounds and inches is a BIG DEAL!!!!
Ugh – I’m so mad at your co-worker right now!
Post # 7
@LadyLuna711: I’ve learned that when it comes to weight loss and fitness, some people just dont always say the right things. I notice it the most with girls who are jealous actually, so maybe she was a little envious? I lost 40 pounds and am probably 10lbs away from being overweight and she had the nerve to tell me I looked sick and needed to eat more. To be considered underweight I would need to lose 30 more lbs and even my doctor was proud of me. And she tells me I dont look healthy and the photographer wont be able to see me because I’m too thin. But, she is 50lbs overweight right now and trying to lose it so I just let it go, shes probably jealous.
Post # 8
@missrobots: lol i love your choice of words! ass-fedora. haha
Post # 9
Yeah you guys can check out my previous posts about my co-workers lol.
I dunno. She can be really really sweet and she’s very introverted and comes off meek but would say weird things to me, like I mentioned some stuff I do outside of work and she would say “wow you have a real life, unlike me”. Then one day I just asked her how she was and she goes “eh just life. not like yours since you actually DO stuff and have a life.”
We are both african american and don’t chemically process our hair. I like to wear my hair in different styles and she wears it the same since ive known her. I got compliments from a lot of people on my hair and she goes “you do a lot of stuff with your hair, wow.” but in a like negative “you have a lot of time on your hands” way.
She’s also told me I look tired or sick and asks me if im ok (I would never tell someone that)
I told DH that she sounds like she’s “hating” on me but I really hate to think that seeing as how she’s normally really generous and kind (on the outside I guess).
She does seem really bitter and negative at times, she still lives at home and she’s older (40ish) and apparently “has no life” so I’m thinking that that’s where it comes from? It just sucks because we can get along fine. Maybe she’s just not good socially?
Post # 10
@sheepandbear: she actually is slender and looks great for her age…maybe she just likes to cut me down passively because she’s not happy with herself?
Post # 12
@missrobots: “ass fedora” is my favorite thing I’ve ever read.
and yeah… STFU coworker! Who says that?
Post # 13
It’s like an ass-hat, but extra douchey!
Post # 14
No, I would not have said “I didn’t notice.” The polite thing to say, whether you notice a difference or not, is “Congrats!” or something along those lines.
On that note, congrats on your weight loss. She probably just lacks tact.
Post # 15
@LadyLuna711: reading your update – she most certainly sounds like she’s an unbalanced person. I know someone like that – everything that comes out of her mouth is negative. It became kind of a game to me. I think some people are just like that. I feel sad for them. Hang in there and steer clear of the crazy!
Post # 16
nope, never in a million years would i say that.