if your fiance bought his ring without you, how would you feel?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Would you be upset if your fiance bought his wedding band without you?
    yes : (15 votes)
    28 %
    no : (20 votes)
    37 %
    I don't care either way : (18 votes)
    33 %
    other (Explain) : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    1893 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

    I would be fine with it. It’s his ring so as long as he likes it and wants to wear it, I’m good.

    Post # 3
    Member
    3625 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Totalkaos1983:  I may be strange– my FIL doesn’t wear a ring and I had no say in DH’s ring, but I wouldn’t care. It was the same thing with my rings– while DH bought them, I picked them out with no input from him.

     

    However,  if it matters to you. Call him and explain that this is onetthing that you were really looking forward to doing together and ask him to wait.

    Post # 4
    Member
    743 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse

    He’s the one who has to wear it.  So long as he likes it, great…why does it matter if I was there to pick it out?

    Post # 5
    Member
    5285 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

    Perfectly fine with me; it’s his ring.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1680 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    My DH (then FI) bought his ring without me. Didn’t bother me in the least. He likes it and wears it, so no harm done!

    Post # 8
    Member
    335 posts
    Helper bee

    I’d be ok with it. He’s the one that has to wear it and if he found something he liked and was in the budget we were ok with then definitely he can get it.

    Post # 9
    Member
    1248 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2008 - Toronto, ON

    When we were getting married my dad before he retired made jewellery displays for a living, so he had connections to wholesalers. My engagement ring and wedding band is platinum and my DH also wanted platinum. The day my dad and my DH went wedding ring shopping and bought the wedding band, it was a spur of the moment kind of thing and I had to work! I was a little mad at first because I wanted to help pick out the ring but we talked about wedding bands beforehand so the ring was similar to what we both liked!

    Post # 10
    Member
    4043 posts
    Honey bee

    Totalkaos1983:  Honestly, I probably wouldn’t have cared. We spent a total of 2 hours picking out his ring. The only reason it took that long was because we priced shopped (visited a few stores within a 5 mile radius) to make sure we got the best deal. DH bought a white gold band with a subtle design. He picked something he liked within the budget we agreed on beforehand. I liked going with him (and I picked out my band at the same time), but it wasn’t necessary.

    Post # 11
    Member
    1737 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN

    Totalkaos1983:  I dont really care either way. I picked mine out and it is his ring. So whatever makes him happy. But I know he will not, so I am not too worried.

    Post # 12
    Member
    8604 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Hey atleast hes wanting to wear a ring now!..I wouldn’t get mad at him or he may change his mind. Its his ring so atleast this way you know he will like it. 

    Post # 13
    Member
    3619 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2009

    It is a bit weird. Like my DH would never go buy himself jewelry to start with, but I would not care.  Clearly he would really love something to buy it on the stpot, and who I am to say no to that.

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