Post # 1
My hubby and I are going to get tested soon to see if we can both have kids together. We have to wait 12 months due to an insurance waiting period, so we decided while we wait we might as well see if we can even have children. I’m just thinking of the what ifs. Hubby mentioned adopting first, but if I was still able to have children I think I would want to. If hubby was super against it after talking more I would do what we both would agree on.
Post # 3
We never actually discussed this so this is my gut feelings.
If DH was sterile, I think I would want to try some kind of sperm injection/sperm donor before adoption. I know there are a ton of great kids who need homes and I’d have no problem with adoption if it came to that.
That said, I’ve always wanted to have biological children. If DH and I couldn’t conceive together, a baby conceived using donor sperm would still have genes from me (just not DH). I’d at least want to try that as an option before adopting.
Post # 4
My situation is different b/c I already have a daughter and FI has two sons. I think we would just be happy with the kids that we have.
If neither of us had kids, I would probably go for the sperm injection before adoption.
Post # 5
We have talked about this. If we can’t have our own natural children, including with help from a doctor, we’ll adopt. My husband is very against me having a sperm donor, and frankly, I am just not comfortable with the idea of it being only my biological child. I’d rather us both be in the same position of being non-biological parents, versus just one of us.
Post # 6
Our problem is reversed. I’m the one that has a medical condition that will make conceiving a child hard, most likely impossible. We have talked about it and we will adopt. We are still going to have fun trying tho!!
Post # 7
We’ve talked about it before. For me, if my husband was sterile, I would want to adopt. For my husband, if I was unable to have biological children, he would want to try IVF or hire a surrogate. It’s super important for my husband to have a biological child if at all possible; it’s not nearly as big of an issue for me.
Post # 8
@ejs4y8: Ditto everything you said.
I really really really want biological children and would love to experience pregnancy, etc. But it would just make me uncomfortable if we weren’t both in the same position as parents.
Post # 9
@Mrs SPring, oh i forgot about surrogacy. We’re very open to that as an option.
Post # 10
Would absolutely adopt. I’m just a believer that if we can’t do it naturally, it just isn’t meant to be. I don’t think either one of us feels like we must have biological children; although that would be the ideal situation.
Post # 11
We would be THRILLED to have biological children, however, if we can’t do it naturally (through good ol sex 😉 we would absolutely adopt.
Post # 12
I picked sperm injection. I would like the child to be biologically related to atleast one of us. I also don’t think I would want to advertise to the child or anyone else that he is not a biological child of his father. (Unless there is a law dictating this somewhere.) I especially wouldn’t discuss this with my family or friends either, for fear that they will ‘casually’ mention this to my child later on in life and all hell will break lose. Frankly, our fertility (or lack thereof it) is nobody else’s business. Only the involved parties need to know anything. (Us, doctors, and possibly the child if s/he absolutely must.)
Post # 13
Ideally I’d like to adopt but the cost I think might be prohibitive. I don’t love the idea of a sperm donor but if that was the only way… well… that’d be the way!
Post # 14
We would adopt. I would not want the child to be my biological child and not his. So, we would definitely adopt.
Post # 15
We’ve discussed this and have decided that we would adopt. I have the utmost respect for couples who go through treatments for infertility, but it’s not something we would choose. So, in the case that we weren’t able to get pregnant the old fashioned way, we would adopt.
Post # 16
We have discussed it. If we can’t do it on our own, we will wait and travel and have a blast, and then adopt at a later age (40ish).