Post # 1
Do not and I repeat DO NOT add people to your bridal party if they are not close to you to begin with in hopes of getting closer/building a stronger bond throughout the wedding process. I have witnessed this first hand and yes, it was with “family” so arguably you could say it was the “right thing to do” as family is family. However, still if they are not happy about your upcoming nuptials or jealous and resentful of their own relationships there’s nothing that can help that. No matter how nice or accommodating you are to them.
If I could go back in time I would do it all again differently as I know there are people in my life who would have really wanted to have a larger role in the day.
Just wanted to put it out there and get this off my chest as Fiance is tired of listening to me b*t** about this all the time.
Thanks for listening.
Post # 3
Sorry you have to deal with that. I never even considered having someone I wasn’t close with in my bridal party.
Post # 4
Im sorry you are going through this I know it must be hard.
Post # 5
I’m sorry!! This is exactly the reason my sisters will not be in my wedding! People think I’m crazy but we just aren’t close! And a wedding isn’t going to change that.
Post # 6
Thanks for the support ladies, its good to know I’m not the only one dealing with crap like this.
Post # 7
TG20 – I hear ya! Same situation, I was trying to make everyone else happy but myself, and it backfired. I think it drove us further a part than closer.
October is SO CLOSE! 2.5 months until the wedding planning, and bridal party *fun* is over. Good luck on the final few months!
Post # 8
At each of my weddings, we’ve had only two attendants. The first one, it was a maid of honor (my sister) and a best man (the groom’s college roommate). At the second one, it was a maid of honor and a dude of honor (my two children). By keeping the numbers down, and only asking those with whom we had a lifelong connection, we avoided a lot of drama!
Post # 9
This is so true my Fiance daughters neither came to my shower yesterday and my Maid/Matron of Honor didn’t even get me a card.
Post # 10
This is why we are only having a Best Man and an Maid/Matron of Honor, no groomsmen or BM’s. It would be forcing the issue…I wouldn’t be able to find anyone else close enough to me in order to have a larger bridal party, and I wouldn’t risk it just to make a better relationship with someone. OP…this was an interesting point I dont know if a lot of us had thought of before, since I am sure there are some ladies that put people in their parties for this reason and then it creates a lot of trouble.