- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
I’m feeling nebby/curious.
I know that it’s typical for the parents of the bride (and sometimes groom) to pay for at least part of their childrens’ weddings, and I recently saw some posts about parents contributing up to $50K, which totally blows my mind.
I don’t know ANYONE who spent that much on their wedding – period, let alone anyone whose parents could just offer that kind of cash.
But I also live in a modest, affordable part of the country where the average wedding probably only costs $20K or so (with around 200 guests).
So my question is ….. if your parents dropped that much cash to help with your wedding, what do they do for a living? Did they have a trust fund/long term savings specifically set up for this?
Personally, my parents are contributing about $7K for food, alcohol, and little extras that might pop up (postage, decor, etc).
I never in a million years expected this because while my dad has an average paying job, my mom is on disability because she is a dialysis patient, and her monthly income is crap. With her medication and medical bills, they struggle.
But right around the time I got engaged, they refinanced their home and this also enabled them to contribute to the wedding.
I feel kind of guilty, but they’ve assured me that’s it’s 100% fine so ….. yeah.
But again, even the “better off” friends/family I know, their parents MAYBE give $10K.
So….. where does anything more than that come from?????