If your sibling didn't go to your wedding…

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Hostess
22135 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2011

Wow honey, I’m so sorry to hear this. My only sibling is my big brother, and I’d have been heartbroken if he didn’t attend my wedding. 🙁 Hugs!!!

Do your parents have anything to say about her choice?

Post # 4
Member
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@gingerkitten:  My stepsister is unable to attend my wedding because she has classes/exams for her BSN the week of the wedding.  We’re both disappointed but I would never ask or expect her to skip out on her education for my wedding.  She did surprise me by attending my shower though (she lives in another state so she drove in that weekend.)  

Post # 5
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1888 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@gingerkitten:  I’m so sorry – I would be very sad also. I hope she changes her mind.

Will you have a laptop or an iPad nearby with a wifi connection? If so, you could Skype her in for the getting ready part too, not just the actual ceremony, and that way you can chitchat with her and she can watch you in your dress.   

Post # 6
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1036 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@gingerkitten:  Oh i am so sorry. I could not have done it without my sister by my side. SHe was my MOH too. 🙁

Maybe yours will come around… 

My husbands sister could not come to our wedding, which he was sad about, but they lived in a different country and could not afford the journey with their 2 very young kids. We understood and missed them but werent offended. 

Post # 9
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1036 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@gingerkitten:  Yeah…she will probably regret it. Mosty, because she wont be in any of your pictures. I will send good toughts your way and cross my fingers for you!

Post # 10
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1981 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

A good friend of mine got married a couple years ago and a LOT of her siblings couldn’t make it. In fact, only one brother came and she has 5 siblings! Some had good excuses (sister was super pregnant on the other side of the country and unable to fly) And some had bad excuses (her step-sister wasn’t allowed to fly in with her dad bc bride’s step mom is afraid of planes and she didn’t want to lose her husband and daughter at the same time in a plane crash- wtf?!). I know it’s hard for your sister not to be there, but it seems like she is having a really rough time right now. Hopefully she will make it! 

Post # 11
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375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I know from experience that this sucks. I have 8 siblings still living and not one of them came to NZ for our wedding. DH’s sister came from the UK for it, but no one, apart from my parents, could bother to make the trip. I am really close to a few of my siblings and we were all really close growing up, so to have our wedding without them was hard to accept at first. But it’s been 8 months since the wedding and the only thing that really mattered in the end was that I married DH. That was it. I hope your sister comes around, but in the end, your wedding day will be wonderful and you’ll have lots of good memories to share down the road. What helped for me was getting a video done of the wedding so we could share that online with all my family and friends from the US who couldn’t make it. Maybe look into having a video made of it. We had considered the Skype set-up for family, but quickly scrapped that idea as it was too much to figure out.

Post # 12
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5199 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m so sorry to hear this.  I’d be devestated.

But I think your FI has the right idea.  If there is nothing you can do to help here be there, I think you just need to surround yourself with other loved ones and remember that the day is about the two of you.

Post # 13
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173 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@gingerkitten:  It’s super sh!tty. My FI has 3 sibs, 1 sister and 2 brothers. His older brother is the best man and his sister will be singing and doing a reading at our wedding. His younger brother is a groomsman and should be MCing. He just got an acting role and due to the performange schedule, he won’t be attending the rehersal dinner and may only attend the ceremony. His parents and sibs are really underwhelmed/mad and FI is hurt. I’m angry FOR my FI.

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