Post # 1
What would you do if you knew your SO wanted you to propose. Basically like the waiting bees but with the roles reversed. You knew he wanted YOU to pop the question (he’s told you more than once how awesome it’d be if you would, he’d be happy to be engaged, how long is too long to wait,etc) And you were sure he’d say Yes.
Would you do it? Would you wait for him to do it?
Post # 3
I did propose to my FI! It was awesome, but scary. It was the right decision for us, though.
Post # 4
If he wanted me to I would, the end result’s the same anyways!
Post # 5
If you did/would did you do a whole romantic speech/on knee type thing or more like “yo, let’s do this” ?
Also I know no one should care about what others think. That being said, do you think you would/did you get any backlash from it? like people thinking you pushed him into it/etc.
Post # 6
Err, if I wanted to be married and that was how it was going down I would.
and I don’t care what anyone else thinks so that would be a non issue for me.
Post # 7
Sure, if he had wanted me to. Why not? 🙂
Post # 8
If that were the case, we probably would have been married by now, haha.
Yes, I’d probably get down on one knee and make a romantic speech.
His friends might give him crap about it but I wouldn’t care 🙂
Post # 9
I think it’s lovely for those who did it and I’m glad it they are happy with it, but I wouldn’t do it. IMO, the proposal is the guy’s time to shine. Its a time where he shows you, in whatever way that will mean the most, that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you and actually proposes THE question. Speaking only for myself, I would feel like I missed out on a very special moment if I was the one that had to propose.
Post # 10
heck yes I would. but I would never do it if I didnt know he wanted me to. I mean, I think its awesome when a girl asks the guy but i couldnt do it
Post # 11
Absolutely! I’m not super attached to traditional gender roles, so it wouldn’t bother me in the slightest.
Post # 12
Sure! I think it would have been fun.
Post # 13
@PixelMePretty: I think it’s a bit ridiculous. He’d never expect me to propose.
I want an engagement ring so how would that work if I proposed? I think like most guys, first he’d laugh, and then he’d ask if I were serious.
We’re picking the ring together so I’m not exactly going to be surprised when he proposes. In our relationship it’s more like we’re agreeing on getting married and buying the ring. No surprise involved.
Post # 14
I mean, I guess I would if I HAD to in order to be engaged… but it would have crushed me :
I really really really wanted HIM to propose. I had dreams about it. It was a dream for me for forever… I would’ve been heartbroken to have missed out on that.
Post # 15
@PixelMePretty: Lol I love “YO lets Do this!”
I dunno you think maybe Friends paved the way for this to be okay? If FI had asked me to propose to him I would have totally done it the way Monica did it to Chandler. An ex coworker told us her story of how she proposed to her husband it was a different situation because he had gotten on one knee before with a promise ring and she was so scared, he was turned off by the experience so she knew next time she would have to do it.
If I didn’t know the whole story I would be bummed by just hearing her proposal story, I think she gave him a ring thing was weird too. Their whole story was untraditional and so against everything I am used to being okay with lol. That doesn’t make it wrong its just so foreign to me. But in the end they are just as married as I am so who cares really what others think. If it works for them fine but it wouldn’t have worked for me.
I didn’t bother FI to propose to me and I wouldn’t have proposed to him either. We sat down and had a conversation about it and agreed that we would like to be married. I think most girls would be bummed by that story too but that’s just what worked for us. He did get down on one knee with a ring not speech or anything. I call that moment “the presentation of the ring.”
Post # 16
I got down on one knee to propose to my FI. I also proposed to him with a pendant. Some people thought it was weird, but too bad. It’s what works for us. If you have a more traditional proposal that works for you, great! As long as both people are committing to each other, I don’t think it really matters.