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Do you plan on getting your DS's boy parts snippy snippy? (Are you going to circumsize your son?)
nope, luckily my husband and I are in full agreement on this one.
Ugh. I think it is unnecessary, and I understand the ethical arguments against it, but I think, as a woman, it is more asthetically pleasing, and I don't want to impact his future sex life negatively. Sooo...I don't know. FI is, but FBILs are not. I might just need to get their honest perspectives on it.
Yes, we'll do it before we leave the hospital. We've done the research on why it's not medically necessary and the possible complications of doing/not doing it. I feel pretty good about our decision to circumcize.
AHAHAH floppy!
The Mister and I are really in agreement on this one. Definitely at the hospital before we leave.
No, we both consider it genital mutilation, and there is significant evidence that it is unnecessary.
I don't know since I'm not pregnant yet, it will probably be another year before we try. My FH is not circumised so he believes that a baby boy should not be circed. I on the other hand I'm not sure. I will say that my baby nephew's boy part looked like raw meat after the procedure was done in the hospital.
i understand the ethical arguments, but I feel like a little boy would want to look like their father. At least around here, it's very common, and i wouldn't want to cause future stress or heartache. I know that someday the person may be upset that it was done, but i think that the chances of that are SO much tinier than the hurt feelings about having body parts different than his family and peers.
I voted not sure since it's not really something I've researched (and I wont be researching it until I actually get pregnant and it's confirmed that we're having a boy lol). My husband is, and I think my brothers are. I know there isn't much of a medical reason, but I wouldn't want him to feel self consious about it or anything. I think in this case, my husband's opinion would have a little more weight to it than mine since I can't really relate so I think he'll kind of get the final decision with this.
No - it is medically unnecessary and if you teach your little boy how to clean it he will be fine. And it actually impacts his sex life negatively, less feeling for him. As a woman I have had both (sorry if TMI) and it is actually much more enjoyable for the woman sexually as well (less friction).
Here is a paper arguing against. It is an opinion based article and so it is biased one way but you can see the references used that are factual and if you search neonatal circumcision on google scholar you will get a lot more scholarly articles on the subject. http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/589332?src=mp&spon=42&uac=127693EN
I will. I agree with Melissabegins. I think that by not doing it, you are kind of setting up your child for a difficult time from young age to a grown man. I don't think the ethical arguments outweigh that.
I hope not, but FI isn't sure (not that we're even TTC). I definitely prefer it aesthetically, but *my* aesthetic preferences are the last thing that should come into play! Given that it's medically unnecessary, painful, and can possibly result in real damage (very small chance, but still), I will be pushing for no. And it can be done later in life, if he ever wants to make that choice for himself.
I've had several friends and boyfriends who were left in tact when their fathers were circ'ed, and they turned out just fine and had absolutely no "I don't look like my daddy" issues. I thought my husband would want to get our son circ'ed because he is, but he is adamently against it. When I brought up this issue he was like "when is my son going to be looking at my penis anyway?" My philosophy is if ain't broke, don't fix it.
Why do people think an uncircumcised man will have confidence issues? I dated a man who had significant scarring from his circumcision, which I think damaged his confidence much more than a natural piece of skin could.
It's not the norm in my family or my husband's (at least in our generation, thanks to our hippy parents 
). So no. I don't think it's necessary.
@amanda - my DH has a friend that elected to get it done as an adult and it was very painful.. he was definitely not happy with it before the circ, and I think it probably still has effects on him now, despite the operation. That's just our frame of reference, though - i know there are millions of happy uncirc'ed guys out there. But for this kind of decision, I would put my two cents in, but let my DH's personal opinion have more weight.
There is NO WAY I'm getting my son circumcised. I personally see this as genital mutilation. Boys who are circumcised are stripped of lots of nerves. Cleanliness isn't an issue in our time of showers every day.
We (my hubs and I) haven't discussed this yet but we will make sure we are in agreeance before the baby is taken from the hospital. Most of the men I know are circed except my dad (wish I didn't know about that). So this is another topic to discuss in detail.
Yes, we would have it done, probably before we left the hospital. I left the decision up to my husband, because he is. However, I do want to point out that I'm not just going with whatever he says. I know the reasons, and I agree. It's not a religious decision either.
@Amanda: Just my experience (no offense to anyone) is that as kids/teenagers, you always hear it's "gross," "dirty," "weird," etc. I've personally never been with an uncircumcized guy, but I just wouldn't want my son to have to go through any teasing in the locker room or awkwardness with girls. FI feels very strongly about it as well.
Anyway, no offense to anyone, this has just been my experience.
FWIW, my husband went to an all boy's school and was never, ever teased.
And now that I think about it, all of my serious boyfriends, including DH, were uncirc'd. And I've never given it a second thought until now. Kind of weird that those are my stats, though, huh?
The rate of uncirc'd boys is growing, too, so I imagine by the time my hypothetical son has to worry about what girls think, it won't be a big deal at all.
Absolutely, positively not. It is medically unnecessary and my family views it as genital mutiliation...much like female genital mutilation. (This isn't meant to be controversial, this is simply our view.) FTR, no one in my family is circ'd and, knock on wood, no one has every had ANY issues both emotionally or physically growing up or at present time.
In fact, my friend's baby nephew had surgery last week to fix a circ gone way wrong - we're talking skin adhesions and everything. Little Elijah is only a few months old and has been to many doctors in an attempt to prevent further scarring and nerve damage. Mind you, I do work in the medical field and I know that there are risks with everything, so I'm not trying to make a blanket assumption that this WILL happen every time. I'm simply stating that it hits close to home for us.
For those who are undecided, I suggest (and I mean this in a totally non-offensive manner) spending equal amounts of time researching both options, including proper cleaning techniques for intact penises and foreskin retraction no-nos. I'm a huge advocate of everyone making decisions for themselves - I'm big on respecting personal opinions. I'm also a huge advocate for researching (if at all possible) before making such big decisions. Just because it "feels" like the "norm" doesn't mean it's the best choice for you, ya know?
That's my .02.
@futuremrsmartin - i tried your link and its asking for a password. any other good links you would suggest?
i am wholly uneducated about the whole debate and though we are not trying for a while, it is a topic i'd like to learn more about.
No. There's no need to cut of piece of your body. esp THAT part!! I wouldn't take out my baby's appendix when it's born "in case" it gives problems.
No, and I find it sad that people are terrified of their child being teased so they will do the procedure. How hard is it to explain why their penis looks different? My FI is un-circumcised, and he was never teased about that - body hair, yes, but not about his penis. I think it's important to keep open communication with your children, and I don't think something as serious as genital mutilation should be an option simply because you're scared that your child will be teased. All children are teased about something...just my two cents.
I feel like it has become too common place for little boys to get circumcised (when the doctor pushes you to have it done, keep in mind, he/she will get paid even more for this procedure), and that because it is so common, it's hard to think of doing anything different. I know in the south (where I'm from) it's rare to be uncircumcised, but that doesn't stop my research and stance on abosutely saying no to having my son uneccessarily snipped.
DH said that his mom didn't want to alter him at such a young age, so he doesn't want to do it for our son.
For sanity reasons, I can see why I would want to do it. I don't know. I can see DH's point, though.
I don't understand the teasing argument either....How will the other teasing boys get to see each other's penises???
No, we both feel it is unnessisary and, honestly, barbaric. I have seen videos of little boys getting circumsised and it is very painful to see a baby scream like that. I really don't care when my son's penis looks like, it's his.
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