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I got my ears pierced when I was 3 months old and have never had problems, but my SIL tried to pierce my niece's ears at 4 years old and she kept getting them infected. Do you plan to pierce your DD's ears? If so, what age? If not, why not?
In my opinion, and I think I am probably the minority, the child should decide if they want their ears pierced. Once she comes to me and say "mommy, can I have pierced ears" then yes I will definitely allow it.
My mom didn't get my ears pierced until I was old enough to ask. I asked at about 4 years old so she made a whole day out of it for me-- it was great! I would do the same with my daughter. I don't think its an issue of being "too young" but of delaying it until its a choice she can make (probably one of the first choices regarding her own body) and kind of instills in her that sense of control over herself and her choices.
I'll let my children (male or female) get peirced if they choose, but I won't do it before they are able to choose for themself :)
I personally don't like the look of pierced ears on an infant/toddler, and I agree with Corgi, that the choice should be up to the child. I don't really see a reason for pierced ears in a young child...it's not like they're going to be wearing crazy dangly earrings or hoops or anything, just plain studs. I had to wait until I was 10, and I'll probably wait til a similar age if I have a child who wants pierced ears.
I definitely think I shouldn't go punching holes in my daughter's body without her permission. We'll let her do it when she asks.
I'll probably wait until they're about 3 years old to see if my little girl wants it, I got my ears pierced at 6 months! I was a bald baby with big ole earrings droopin' down!!
I always thought it was kind of weird to see little baby girls with pierced ears.... to me, it's on the same level as those little girls you see on tv with the hair extensions and spray tans competing in beauty pagents- just too much, too soon. Let little girls be little girls, you know?
I had to wait until I turned 12, which was just fine by me.
I didn't have my ears pierced until I entered 6th grade, and I made the choice. I will definitely not be piercing my child's ears without her consent.
Definitely when she's a baby! My sister and I both got ours done that way, as infants. It's much much easier to take care of them when they are not old enough to pick at them, get them dirty, etc. And they'll never remember that it hurt! (this coming from someone that's gotten several additional piercings, and tattoos, throughout my lifetime LoL)
Plus, it's beyond cute IMO.
I would also wait until they are older & ask for them! I don't like earrings on little babies at all.
No way for me. I think I had to wait until I was 10 and would definitely wait until my daughter was old enough to ask for herself. Personally, I can't stand baby jewelry. I don't know why, it's totally irrational but I really don't like it. I'm not a huge fan of man jewelry other than a wedding ring and a watch either. But, oddly enough, I have no problem loving jewelry for myself ;)
I was 13 when I had mine done and wanted them done for YEARS. Dad kept saying no, i wasn't old enough.
As a baby? Nah. But when they're older and want them, i don't see the harm. But we'll be having a talk about infection and keeping them clean.
For me, my parents (read: my dad) decided how old I was before i was allowed to do lots of things--earrings, shorts, makeup (including gloss at 16!!!), hair cuts, TAMPONS (yes, wtf ladies), etc. It was TOO controlling and when I turned 18, i got my navel pierced, cut my hair off, and now i have a few sets of earrings. I didn't do anything crazy or permanent, but at the same time, there are certain things that a kid can decide for themselves as part of becoming their own person. If my daughter is 8 and wants a bob, we'll get her hair cut. Not, "no you can't get a hair cut without my permission because you'd do something stupid" like i was told.
We're going to get my DD's done when she is 3 months old. If she doesn't like them when she's older she can just let them close up.
I don't plan on making her wear earrings every day of her life. I only wore earrings three days a year (Easter, Christmas, and my birthday) until I hit puberty. Then I wore them everyday (for the boys, eyeroll!) I agree that some baby jewelry is silly (necklaces just seem like nooses to me) but with earrings, they are so much easier to clean and maintain when they are babies. Once they're toddlers they'll be touching them all the time and catching them on silly things like barbie hair.
Sapphire, I want to get my daughter's earc pierced about the same time. I think it's cute.
I say not as a baby, but it's because everyone in my family has metal allergies. I'd like to wait to see if the baby has the same allergies before piercing her ears. Maybe after she's 5 or 6 we would consider it...
I would never do it as a baby... I agree with others, when they are old enough to ask for it, I'll consider it. Just my opinion but I think pierced ears look odd on an infant or small child. In my mind it is something you do when you are growing up.
My ears weren't pierced until I was 12/13... I would probably allow it around 8/9/10 if she wanted it.
@mightysapphire, her earring holes might never close up. I had a second hole put in when I was about 15 and about 4 years ago, I decided I didn't like it, so I took the earrings out and haven't worn any in my second hole since. The holes are still there. It might be different for a child, but don't count on them disappearing just because there aren't any earrings in them. I really regret my decision to have a second hole put in--I hate the look of it now :(
If I ever have a daughter I think I'll just wait until she's old enough to want them herself.
Not until she is old enough to ask, at least, and probably not until she is 6-8.
My parents didn't pierce mine until I was old enough to ask and I wouldn't pierce a child's ears before they knew what it was.
I really don't know. It's something I've thought about. I can't think of any girls I personally know who HAVEN'T wanted their ears pierced (I know that doesn't mean they don't exist) and I know it would be easier to have it done as a baby in terms of cleaning and such, but then what IF she doesn't want it? I just don't know! Mine were done when I was 4 and I can't remember a whole lot about it other than it hurt and I hated my mom touching them after it was done, but I didn't get an infection or anything. I have a cousin who had hers done as a baby and it's cute. She seems to like it now (she's not quite 3 yet), but I really don't know!
I got my ears pierced when I was 5 for my birthday because that's what I wanted!
I will wait until my daughter is old enough to make the decision herself!
I think mine were pierced pretty young, but I don't know whether I asked or my mom and dad just wanted them done for me. I think it'd be fun to wait til they asked, though. That way they can FEEL the pain, haha. Maybe it'd prevent them from wanting extra holes and tattoos until they were 18 and out of my hair. :)
As a baby, no, but when she's old enough and if she asks, I'd allow it. I got my ears pierced for my 13th birthday, because it's what I wanted. Before then, I didn't even like the idea, so it was nice to have the choice.
If she wants it, at age 10 . . . as a rite of passage. She'll be old enough to ask and take care of it herself.
My daughter asked her father if she could get her ears pierced when she was four, and he said okay. He begged me to say yes bc it was something he asked her for specifically. She decided after a few months she didn't like the way they felt when she was sleeping or the way her hair got tangled in them, so she took them out and hasn't wanted them since. When she wants them again, she will have to be old enough to take care of the herself.
I wanted my ears pierced DESPERATELY as a child. My parents made us wait until we were ten and then made a big day out of it. That was cool.
Oh, I didn't go until I was in my 30s (b/c then b/f, now FI gave me diamond studs). When I was there, a 5 year old was getting hers done. Her mom was getting a second hole to put the girl at ease. After the first earring, the girl could not stop screaming and didn't want the second one. And, she had asked to have it done (not parents' idea). Her dad was furious--espeically since he still had to pay!
I definitely think it should be a choice, and because taking good care of your ears and keeping track of small earrings can be a biggish responsibility, we'll probably wait until 9–12.
I agree with those who say not until she asks. Then we can make a "girl's day" out of it!
Mine were pierced when I was 2 months or something like that. I choose not to pierce my daughter's ears until she requests them. She can make that decision on her own. I do like the idea of making a day out of it. That would be exciting for her and me.
I got my ears pierced when I was a third grader as a reward. I quit sucking my thumb and my reward was pierced ears. I will let my daughter get her ears pierced, but I won't do it when she's a baby, I want her to be able to take care of the piercings herself, like I had to do.
i asked for pierced ears at age ten. my mom took me out to get them done, and then my dad was furious when he found out. guess she didn't clear it with him first! So I'd definitely wait til the kid asked for them, and only if they were mature enough to really realize what they are asking for.
I'll wait til she asks for it herself and give it to her as a reward. I think I got my ears pierced when I was 6 or 7 because I asked for it, and I was able to clean and care for them myself. I remember wanting it so badly that I didn't even feel any pain! I think as soon as she wants it and is clearly a responsible enough person to care for them herself then I'm all for it!
Only after she asks. I asked for them at five, my mom tells me I was not happy with them, and once they were healed, I only wore earrings when I had to, up until I was 17 or so. My mom had two sets, I wanted two sets, but even though I'd asked for them regularly, I didn't get the second set until I was 20.
I would worry that she'd be angry with me if I had them done when she wasn't old enough to ask, because what if she doesn't like earrings? Sure, she doesn't have to wear them, but if she's anything like me, that hole isn't going anywhere.
I had my ears pierced when I was 2; I think it had to do with the fact that I had hardly any hair on my head and my parents wanted me to look more girly. Haha.
I voted yes, though.
I was 13 when I got mine pierced, and my daughter is 5 and still doesn't have hers pierced. Probably a few years from now, when she asks (she hasn't really yet) and is ready to take care of them herself, I'll be fine with it.
There is no "I will let her decide for herself" option so I didn't vote.
I really wanted to pierce Madison's ears when she was itty bitty because, well, that's when mine were pierced and I've never had an issue. However, once I separated my thoughts from my personal experience and entertained the thought that -- gee, Madison is NOT me, maybe we should let HER decide -- DH and I were able to hold off on running out to the nearest piercing parlor.
To this day, my dad harasses me about buying his granddaughter a pair of gold studs, and we're often questioned by our (largely Hispanic) family about our choice to delay piercing. I'm not pulling a culture card here but in all honesty, it's pretty typical for us to pierce girls' ears at a young age.
We simply tell everyone we are waiting for her to ask to have her ears pierced herself. Who am I to put holes in her ears if she may not truly want them? One of my closest friends has pierced ears (they were pierced when she was an infant) and when she was old enough to express that she disliked earrings, she never wore another pair. She simply doesn't like them. Knowing my daughter, she'll probably want them, but again...it'll be on her terms.
I think it's funny how things are differnt in different places
I am from Seattle and am totally against getting babies ears peirced. I don't see a lot of babies in Seattle with earrings
BUT when I moved to Boise, Idaho for 2 years ...I swear that almost every baby girl had her ears pierced. It's funny how something that be really rare in one city/state and then TOTALLY common somewhere else
It made me cringe everytime I saw it...but everyone in Idaho just thought that I was the weird one haha
Basically...as baby is not a doll. I just don't think it's right
I didn't get mine pierced till I was like 7 and I asked my Mom to do it. Sometimes ppl do it when their baby is like 1 day old, but I'd be afraid that their ear grows and the hole ends up not in the right place anymore. Plus it's one more thing u have to worry about...."oh no, she pulled out her earring"..."it's bleeding"....."oh no the back is gone"...too much trouble to put them into a squirming baby's ears if u ask me.
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