Post # 1
…would you want him to leave or would you want him to stay anyway?
p.s: i’m leaving out options such as “therapy” “working through it until he feels it again”, etc; because i’m talking about a situation where he actually truly fell out of love, no matter the reason. it happens.
Post # 3
@bebero: I would want him to leave, no question. Why on earth would I want to force him to stay with me if he didn’t love me? That’s just weird and controlling, and would make for an incredibly unhappy relationship, and likely end up in adultery anyway.
Post # 4
I think it totally depends on the situation.
Post # 5
@bebero: If one person is genuinely not in love with the other person – although I have a really hard time imagining having that little feeling left for my FH – then the parties should split. Most of the couples I know who have split still have a level of love and fondness for the other
Post # 6
@bebero: I would never want someone to stay if they didn’t love me. I realize it is till death do you part. But, forever is a long time to live with someone who doesn’t love you. In my eyes sometimes happily ever after is not forever. My fiance’ stayed with his ex for MANY MANY years and she never loved him. So I voted yes. Life would be miserable living a lie.
Post # 7
@bebero: If my DH and I fell out of love, and there was no chance in fixing it, I’d walk away. I deserve more and so does he. Coincidentally, my DH and I disagree on this only because of the idea of children being in the mix. He thinks even if we did fall out of love and we had children we should stay together for them. I don’t buy the whole “but what if you have kids and what kind of example does that set?” It sets the example that your parents respect each other and themselves enough to be happy in their lives so they can be better parents to you
Post # 8
@Westwood: in what situation would you want him to stay if he didn’t love you?
Post # 9
i’m glad my parents divorced, and it didn’t affect me at all.
Post # 10
If my SO looked me in the face and said “I don’t love you anymore, there is nothing that will change that,” then peace out girl scout. Pack your bags and get on. I think it almost comes off as desperate to want them to stay. I have too much self-respect and self-worth to take whatever meager scraps this person who no longer loves me throws my way. Nope! Life is too short. There are always other fish in the sea!
ETA: I’m not saying it wouldn’t hurt. I’m sure it would hurt like hell, but I will not beg someone to stay with me if they don’t want to.
Post # 11
I’d want him to stay, because I can’t really wrap my head around the idea that he’d fall out of love and stay that way.
Post # 12
@the_newlymintedmrs-s17: My ex and I divorced and I think we are showing our kids that our own personal happiness is worth something. He and I are GREAT friends now, we get along awesomely, we are far better parents apart than we ever were together.
Post # 13
Obviously we would try to work through things, and honestly, if a few years passed and nothing changed? Then yeah, we can go our separate ways. We both deserve to be with partners who are in love with us.
This is such a general statement though. It’s not black and white at all.
Post # 14
@lovelyMsValentine: i agree. except that i don’t think it’s almost desperate, i think it is absolutely desperate.
Post # 15
if he didnt love me that would mean i would be unhappy and i think we both deserve to be happy, so yes i would want him to leave.
I left my first husband because i fell out of love with him and wanted us to be able to live the rest of our lives happily even if that meant with other people. Now we have both moved on and are in better places 🙂
Post # 16
I’m pregnant, so I would DEFINITELY want him to stay!