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Sooo Iggie Mentioned this in the waiting list thread, so it's definitely stalker post worthy!!! I'll bring the popcorn in the next post ;)
i just wanted to say good night. tomorrow i'll be an engaged lady! (my boyfriend spilled the beans, i have no idea how he's going to do it or when, but i know it's tomorrow!)
@91011: have you been here during the stalker threads? a group of us come on with good e-ring vibes and put all of our good energy here and direct it to th girl... sometimes they get engaged, sometimes not, but either way if they are bombed or ecstatic when they get back, they definitely know that we are thinking of them and they aren't alone...
Hope it happens! Well since he said it basically would you think it would!
I'll bring the drinks...
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awwwh yay! LOL, is it totally lame that I stalk the Waiting boards to see how many waiting bees have graduated?
@myrag: i guess we are lame together because i stalk ALL THE TIME!! lol!!!
lol..more names to cross of the list! YAY! im here waiting as well :)
oh Crebre, you goof, you're gonna scare off newbees with thread names like that!
Where's the chocolate? Anybody got any chocolate to share?
@DD: trust if they're waiting like me they'll be thrilled to see their name beside the word stalker :D because they'll know that we're rooting for them!!
@DD: lol i believe other boards have stalker titles like when people are waiting for wedding pictures, folks to get back and do recaps, etc... i think it's a fairly familiar term in the wedding board world...
an unrelated aside i wonder why a lot of wedding related terms have negative connotations in other aspects for example wedding porn, wedding stalkers, bridezilla, monster in law... etc... hmmmm....
this is so weird to me. The whole waiting to be asked obsession. Is this the "norm"? I have been here a few months and hate that you can not simply neg or plus a post that you agree or don't agree with.
Instead I had to make a new handle to come ask. I saw a post earlier of a girl who sent her BF a ring picture. And others planning stuff without even being engaged. That is so weird to me. Am I the only one?? I hope nothing is said, simply because people can't be anonymus here.
I find it odd all the girls obsessions with being asked, to the point that they harrass their poor boyfriends and join wedding sites.
@engagedandnormal:i am not sure if it is the norm or not, i think that most of us in the waiting section are planners and tend to have a lot of things in our lives planned already. i'm sorry that you didn't feel like you could post under your regular handle, i don't think that anyone would have bitten your head off, or at least i wouldn't have...
i definitely sent my BF a picture, lol many pictures. i also secretly "plan" on what i'm going to do etc. i'm 29 years old lol... of course i know exactly what i'd like/ i have had time to think. i don't know if my boyfriend has been harrassed by me... i honestly find it foreign if someone has no idea that it's coming, as in you've never ever spoken about marriage? ever.. that's very foreign to me. or you haven't picked out the ring that you're going to wear... M doesn't want me to pick out the ring because he says it's his thing, I've sent him rings as guidance and I don't think it's weird, i think it's normal.
And I join wedding sites because well i love weddings to be honest with you. i think i'll always be around on a site because it's just who i am. i love giving people ideas, sharing them, and helping others out.
Im pretty sure that most of the boyfriends do not get harassed if they give us hints or start talking about it..in my case, he will not give me enough time to plan like i want to..and believe me i am a planner..i cannot decide something quickly.. and he's ok with it, he even gives me his input on it. Now, back to the topic on the thread..
Sending Iggies some good vibes!!! :)
@ELLIE: M told me he wants a two week engagement!! lol, really?! now that takes some planning!!!
i cannot wait to see iggie's e-story.
@crebre80: what?! that's nuts!!!! The boy said all i am getting is the most 6 months..gah..
A friend of mine that got married this past June was engaged one year and she was going nuts going over stuff!
@ellie: yeah.. he's crazy... that's when i really started freaking out but we have since discussed other things so i'm just waiting on the proposal so that we can start officially planning everything and if all goes according to our discussion (which it may or may not) i'll have a lot longer than 2 weeks.. i wanted a shorter engagement so i wouldn't try to do too much, but we'll see. let's just say he's the king of inconsistencies and consistently gives me admittedly contradictory information to keep me guessing. lol gotta love him though for making this special for me...
@crebre80: HAHA! Dont you just love how they keep us guessing?! I will probably pass out when he does it though...haha.
I too am waiting on the proposal to officially go to the church and do some more in depth planning. So far i have the main gist of what i want it to look like but you know how these things can change and you are right, the longer you are engaged the more stuff you might be tempted to do..at least it happened like that for my friend.
Anywhoo i need to get off and go wax my eyebrows, as i am looking like groucho marxx (is that how u spell it?)..Night!
@engagedandnormal - I think Crebre hit the nail on the head, a lot of us who are 'waiting' are just planners working on getting our ducks in a row ahead of time. The great thing about the community here at WeddingBee is that we're welcoming to all types - engaged individuals, dating individuals, single individuals (yes, there are some out there!), married individuals... we don't discriminate!
For me, at least, pre-planning is a necessity if I want to have any semblence of a nice wedding without my head exploding from stress, because my circumstances dictate that I'll have exactly 6 1/2 days in the city where my wedding is being planned (nope, not a destination wedding!) to book all my vendors - possibly before the proposal even! Preplanning is essential, especially with the way the economy has been lately. I know I'm not the only one trying to use my time wisely while waiting - that's what brings a lot of individuals to WeddingBee!
I wish I had come on here b4 I got engaged because I learn so much on here and I missed out on E-pics because I had never heard of them and I prob would have picked a slightly different E-ring after seeing all the fab ones on here.
I can't wait to see your name get crossed off the list!! I hope it happens for you today!!! This is like a soap opera...you can't wait to hear what happens!! Please keep us posted ASAP!! Have a great day iggies!!
@engagedandnormal:I am certainly a planner of things. And I never thought bought marriage til my bf and I hit the 1yr and 6month mark to be exact. When I was in middle school, i planned for high school and classes, when I was in high school I dreamed of what colleges I would apply to before graduating, and now in college I have everything planned as to what law schools I want to go to etc. I am veryyyyy organized to the T, and the thing about marriage etc. is that people don't start talking to you and giving you life info. until you're in the middle of it freaking out and stressing over every little thing. For college, no one pointed out to me that hey I should take 18 credits a semester otherwise I would be seriously struggling to get out...or that financial aid sucks in the sense that it doesn't cover everything, and people won't help you along..Being on this website for me, distracts me and gives me a little tranquility with all of the economic craziness, and craziness with entering a new phase in my life with grad school etc. So pre-planning is great and my bf enjoys me talking about rings...do I do it to the point where I drive him nuts def not!!! And even if I don't get married to my current bf, I know now how much work a wedding is...how exciting it can be...and that life is always going to be crazy so you need to plan ahead
thanks all for your good wishes! i thought i'd say a little more about how i know that it's supposed to be today...
last night i found out that my boyfriend had purchased a new computer for himself, but he didn't think i knew (i stumbled upon it in the basement while getting christmas stuff out). so i joked with him about whether there was anything he needed to tell me and he said no, so i said, "no? you haven't bought yourself anything lately?" and then he figured out that i knew about the computer. so he said that he was going to wait to bring it out until after we got engaged (you know, a one for you, one for me present... we all do this! i know i sure do!). i told him that it was silly to wait until after then to bring it out. anyway, somehow we got to talking about when he would ask me and he said that it would be tomorrow, but he was tight-lipped about how it was going to happen (which is fine with me!). so hopefully, you ladies will have some good news to hear from me tonight!
@engagedandnormal - (i'm not sure if you're going to come back to read this but) had my engagement happened last year (or even this year) i probably would feel the same way that you do about it being a little strange to plan or get obsessed with getting engaged/married. that being said, after being with someone for over 5.5 years and moving away from my family (who are now moving even further from me) 4 years ago to be with my boyfriend, there's a huge part of me that wants to know that i have someone who is family out here with me. while i understand this is not a huge deal to some people, it means a lot to me, especially since i have been with my boyfriend for such a significant amount of time. my boyfriend has told me since august that he's wanted to marry me, but wanted to surprise me and i think time just got away from him. for the last month i have talked with him about the possibility of get married next summer, which is ideal due to the fact that he'll be graduating with his PhD the following year and very busy writing his dissertation. he's cool with that, and have started talking to my mom about it. so, i think until you know everyone's back story, it's way harsh to judge people just because they are excited about getting married and may "send their boyfriend a picture of a ring" or "plan stuff without being engaged". most (i know this isn't true for all) girls who are thinking about these things have probably had an open conversation with their boyfriends about getting married and aren't just planning this on a whim, there's probably a reason for them doing these things.
Good luck to Iggie!! I'd bring some confetti poppers, but I don't want to jinx it!
Re: the waiting, non-engaged girls...
I am a planner, but I was always worried I would jinx myself if I started in on the engagement discussions. I always tried to keep it out of my head. But, FI and I talked about rings and getting married almost 15 months before he proposed. (Just think how high my bee status would be if I joined then!)
But I think that for some waiting girls, this is a great place to get out all those thoughts and hopes without coming across as nutso to your friends, BF, etc. Like I could have talked about getting married for 15 months on here, but if I talked engagement for 15 months with my friends or BF? Well, I might not have many friends or be engaged now.
My concern is that for the girls that have been waiting for a long time, be sure that you are in love with the man you want to marry and not in love with the idea of a wedding. Otherwise, that first year of marriage will be a real eye-opener.
@engagedandnormal it's hard to know every detail of someone's relationship through a post here and there I am now married but started on WB before we were officially engaged (but definitely after we had both agreed "this is it" in a commitment type way)
I also sometimes worry about the ladies on here for various reasons, but more because I wish them well. I do hope it is the right man for them and that he will pop the question soon!
For us, our official engagement was only 6 months, and I already had a crazy busy schedule w/ working full time in a stressful job + a weekend masters, so I started planning early. As long as you are in step w/ your FFI, I see no harm. But, if the guy is giving you 'back off signals', I agree that you have to back off sometimes.
I know asking my guy to take me to the jeweler didn't go well.....However, then we ended up going, but the ring was still a surprise. That was the right mix for us!
to add to the commentary on engagedandnormal- I think most of us here are at the point in our relationships where we have talked with our BF about getting married. Maybe thats not YOUR norm, but its not right for you to come on here and judge us just because we are excited about one of the biggest moments in our lives!
We aren't hurting anyone and there is no reason to worry for us either, we are a group of women who are very supportive of each other and I love the bee! Even if we were "in love with the thought of getting married", its not like we can MAKE our boyfriends propose. I just think that negativity should be kept off of positive, uplifting posts 
I second that motion, but everyone is entitled to their opinion. The most important thing is that we do keep positive vibes going in a time when things aren't that great in the world!
Iggies - soooooo exciting - I wish you all the best for today and hope it is everything you have ever dreamed!!!!!!!!! And I can't wait to hear the good news later/tomorrow!!!!!!
@engagedandnormal - even your name is insulting. What is an engagement to you? Anengagement to me is a commitment - not necessarily a ring or a proposal. Most of the girls that are in "waiting" have this commitment but society associates a proposal and a ring with the engagement (there is a bee on the boards who is engaged without a ring/proposal and people don't treat as real). So these bee's are just waiting for it to be official so that they can tell the world and have everyone be happy for them!
When I joined I was a waiting bee as well. My FI told me we would be engaged by a certain time and it didn't happen and as it got close to the proposal time I was itching for the ring; however, at the same time FI and I both started planning the wedding together. We booked the reception venue and the photographer before we were "officially" engaged! But at the same time I wouldn't tell anyone except my really close friends and family because I know people would be looking at my hand for a ring.
Everybody's situation is different and at the same time every proposal is different. I don't think girls should sit around and never talk about marriage and just wait for their boy to propose. Women have to take control of their own lives and marriage should be discussed and decided on as a couple NOT just the man.
@iggie-- eeeeeee can't wait to hear your story when you come back!!!
@crebre-- you are awesome and hilarious. I love your stalking threads :)
@engagedand"normal" -- I second what a lot of other people have said. First of all, this whole "I'm normal you're not" attitude is rude. Everyone has their own normal and as long as they're not hurting you... please let them be. I was one of those girls who was here and waiting... over 1000 posts before I got engaged. I was excited to start my married life with the man I love! There should be more unbridled happiness and excitement in the world.
I HOPE IT HAPPENS!!!!!!!!!!!! Ohh and heres the chocolate!!!
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