Post # 1
If anyone gives me advice on here on how to speed up the coming of my engagement, I will take the challenge no matter how extreme.
Shoot away, Bees!
Oh crap, I’m so scared of what some people will say.
Post # 3
@missjuli: heck if anyone has the tips. I’ll take em too haha
Post # 4
We’re going to need details about your relationship to answer. What is your relationship status? How long have you been together? How old are both of you?
Answer those for a start and we can get the ball rolling, lol.
Post # 6
get off wedding forums so you don’t have WEDDING FEVER in yo face!
seriously though talking to engaged and married ladies all day long on a wedding related form is pretty much not going to help you enjoy your relationship as is until he thinks the time is right.
Post # 7
@flowersandfaerydust: Challenge accepted! Roasted chicken is probably the last dish I’d ever make. Maybe that’s the thing!
@Sunfire: I’m 25, he’s 28 turning 29 in December. Our 2 year anniversary is September this year. We’ve been talking about getting married since we started dating. He’s an engineer with a very steady job. He changed jobs last June, Moved to a 1-bedroom apt lastJuly (and renewed his lease till next July) bought a new (2nd) car in Sept, and his younger (he’s the oldest of 3) got married in October.
For the above reasons, I expected a proposal around Christmas. He said he was seriously considering it but put off ring shopping till the last minute and decided he wanted something more expensive than what he had set aside for me.
I’ve since introduced him to Moissanite and he loves the idea. Now he says he doesn’t know what size or setting to get me. He take a very long time to make decisions and take actions.
I’ve been pretty open about all the wedding research I’ve done. We visited a venue back in January. I attended a bridal show and went dress shopping with a friend too!
We don’t live together but I stay at his place a lot; have a drawer, side of the closet and his kitchen is basically my kitchen. I don’t ever cook at home (I rent a room from a married couple).
Lately I’ve been staying at his place less and less. I’ve started to migrate my shoes back home by coming to his place barefoot and wearing the shoes from his place by to my place! LOL!
Post # 8
@vmec: Okay…but it’ll be tough to check this thread if I accept the challenge…
Post # 9
@missjuli: Ok, great and thanks for the details. It really sounds as though you’re on the right track, to tell you the truth. I love the engagement chicken idea, couldn’t hurt. 😉
Seriously, keep talking with him about it, without pressuring but sharing your feelings. If he’s open to moissanite that’s awesome! Pick out a couple of designs you like and email pics to him so he has a concrete idea of what you like and price ranges.
A proposal might be coming sooner than you think.
Edit: Why have you been staying at his place less and less? Be careful about playing games – playing hard to get might backfire. My Fiance told me if any woman ever played games with him in the past he dropped her like a hot rock. Be cautious. It’s ok to live your own life but you don’t want to send the wrong message that you’re having second thoughts, because that may give him second thoughts, too. Enjoy the relationship you have and be open with him about how you’re feeling and why getting engaged and married is important to you.
Post # 10
@vmec: I second that!
@missjuli: He has to do it in his own way ……on his own time! You can’t “expect” an engagement or demand one just because you want one. If you feel that strongly about marrying him versus just getting a “proposal” and “ring” and changing your relationship status from “in a relationship” to “engaged” then why don’t you propose to him?! If not, then let off it and it will come in due time….when he is ready.
Post # 11
@Sunfire: It is sort of a game, just to see if he notices But some side benefits are I get better sleep because I have a better bed! Plus I get to talk to my roommate Tracy when I come home…it’s good for women to talk to eachother. Also, I’ve already talked to him about why it’s important for us to get married and showed him pics of the rings I like.
Okay I’ve accepted the following challenges!
- Engagement Chicken
- Stay off wedding forums
- Let it be and relax (to paraphrase)
Post # 12
No offense, but you’re fairly young, haven’t even been dating two years, have been talking about marriage from the beginning, and he’s been looking at rings. Things seem to be moving right along–why are you in such a big hurry? If you love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him, a few extra months before the proposal are not a big deal in the grand scheme of things. Don’t pressure him. Enjoy his company, do new things together, be extra sweet and attentive to him, and just let things take their course. Trust me, in a couple of years’ time when you’re married and are watching your friends being pressured into proposals/spaz out over unforthcoming rings, you will pat yourself on the back for being so chill. And your husband will have one more reason to consider himself exceptionally lucky.
Post # 13
@mrssrm: +1. Great advice!
Post # 14
@mrssrm: +2 I really think the “you will pat yourself on the back for being so chill. And your husband will have one more reason to consider himself exceptionally lucky.” is the best bit of advice.
Huge motivational quote for this bee! Gonna write it in my journal lol 🙂
Post # 15
@Sunfire: , @raye9289:
Aww, thanks ladies! Sunfire, that means a lot coming from you–I always love your take on things!
Post # 16
All the PP’s pretty much said it all, but that’s my advice too. Embrace your inner zen and give him all the reasons in the world to want to propose! I see so many waiting bee’s getting depressed and moping and making their un-happiness obvious to their SO, but most men don’t know how to deal with that. It turns them off and makes them worry about the future. But if you just pretend you’re already engaged, so to speak, and show him you love him and let your actions speak that you want to be with him forever, it’ll happen before you know it! Of course, it’s easier said than done, but marriage (not to mention planning a wedding) takes patience and understanding, so consider this practice for what’s to come!