Post # 1
Im now in the part of the wedding plans where im close enough to pick a wedding party and ive been thinking about this for almost a year- 2 year engagment is almost to long if you ask me, but i needed the time for personal reasons.
anyway, I plan on asking my long time friend (male).
1. will you be in my wedding? 2. Will you be confertable standing on my side?
I would really like my one friend (female) to be my MOH,but my (male) friend to be very involded in the wedding also.
With that being said if (male)friend is on my side, to even things out my FI sister would stand on his side. Who asks her(his sister) if shes ok with standing on his side?
Or should I just say never mind to the whole thing and have (male)friend stand on the guys side and call it a day…
IF we have one guy and one girl on each side how does that work with photos….??? ALL the girls side in this shot or all the girls in the wedding in this shot, or both?? is that to much?? IDEAS HELP!! I want to ask him in 2 weeks…
ALSO, forgot to ask this- if his sister stands on his side would she still wear the same dress as the other girls in the wedding?? I wasnt going to ask my (male)friend to do anything special besides stand on my side, suit and all to match the other guys.
Post # 3
My FI is asking his sister to be his Best Woman instead of Best Man. She’ll stand on his side and be wearing a black dress to match the guys’ black suits. They’re all getting a box with a bottle of Jack, a cigar, a cigar cutter thing, and other manly additions to ask them to be grooms people.
He should ask all the people that will stand next to him at the wedding, including his sister. You can have it work however you want with photos. It’s all personal preference, you (with input from your photographer) can come up with what you think looks best. Personally, I’d want to keep it the way I had it in the wedding — bridal party and grooms people.
Post # 4
Heads up! The apostrophe key on your keyboard is broken.
Post # 5
@AndysCraftsNmore: i am having 3 females and 1 male (my brother) on my side, FI is have 5 males on his side.
don’t worry about unevenness or gender balancing, just do what you want.
if your FI wants to ask his sister, he can. but if he doesn’t, then he shouldn’t.
Post # 6
We picked our bridal attendants without much regard to gender or even numbers. So My husband ended up with 4 guys on his side (2 brothers and 2 frat brothers). I ended up with 3 girls (all close friends) and 2 guys (my brother and a close friend) on my side. It wasn’t a problem in the slightest. We called my side the “Bridal Attendants” and joking called my brother and guy friend the “bridesguys”. My husband and his guys walked around the side to the front of the ceremony at the begingin. I had my 2 guys and 2 of my girls walk in pairs and then my MOH walked by herself down the aisle. Pictures weren’t a problem. We did some pictures with just the girls and some with my girls and guys. And some with the whole wedding party. It was perfect. I got some questioning looks from some people when we told them this was how we were doing it, but nobody had a problem with it. Honestly, it’s the only way that makes sense to me. Why would my brother and my friend stand on my husband’s side? The bachelor/bachelorette parties were a bit of a conundrum but I just left that up to my guys. My brother decided not to join either (which was fine) and my guy friend had planned to have dinner with us girls and then go join up with the guys later (in the end he didn’t make it to either due to work restirctions, but that was also fine).
So I’d have your friend on your side. His sister on his side. You ask your guy. He asks his sister. But I would also talk to your FSIL and let her know how excited you are that she’s going to be a part of the wedding party. And invite her to the bachelorette and showers.
Post # 7
@AndysCraftsNmore: It’s easier than you’re making it!
Your honor attendants go on your side, gender doesn’t matter.
His honor attendants stand on his side, gender doesn’t matter.
Post # 8
agree with PP’s, it doenst have to be as tricky as your making it – your guy goes on your side, his girl goes on his side. outfits are totally up to you. Your guy could wear same thing as FI’s guys, Fi’s girl could wear same thing as your girls, OR his sister could wear a dress that is similar to his guys outfits, and your guy could wear something similar to your girls.
If we were doing that, here’s what I’d do:
My bridesmaids are wearing aqua dresses, my guy would wear a suit/tux with a aqua shirt and black tie. FI’s guys are wearing grey or black tuxes/suits with white shirts and aqua ties, his girl would wear a black or grey dress, OR a dress with a black skirt, white top (so it look like a tux almost) and an aqua necklace.
Hope that helps!
ETA – and you both ask whoever is standing on your side 🙂