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I'll wait... he's worth it. = )

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    sturpherz    March 21, 2012  

    Hello ladies! 

     I am 22 years old and have been with my BF for what seems like forever!  

    We are so ridiculous!! haha! He is my best friend, and I am his. Our friends make fun of us because we do everything together and love to just be in each others company. But we don’t mind… they’ll never understand.  Just writing this out makes me smile and feel all giddy.Smile

    I absolutely love it when people ask me how the two of us met! …

    I wanted to be a rebel on my 18th birthday, so thought I would get my belly button pierced. I remember walking into the shop terrified! And I remember trying to visualize the guy who I was going let stick a needle through my skin. I thought he would be tall and have tattoos from head to toe with a Mohawk and lots of piercings...  The only thing I got right was him being tall! The guy who walked out to greet me he was nothing like I imagined and when he smiled and asked if I was Stephanie, I couldn’t speak… I just babbled like the silly girl I was. And in that moment there was something inside me that screamed he’s the one!

     ( I posted a pic... you tell me... would you think he was a body piercer?)

     A year later, he and I moved in together and two years after that we bought a house together.

    Our wedding is pretty much planned, but as for the date… that’s up to him. And I hate thinking this, let alone writing it out… but I am pretty sure it’s not going to be anytime soon. = (  He is not the type to just go into debt for 10k+.  He wants’ be able to afford our wedding and then life after it. Good luck! With the economy the way it is now… affording life is nearly impossible.  But I will wait, because he is worth it. = )

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    Amaryllis    July 2, 2011  

    You two make a cute couple!

     
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    bridesmomma    June 19, 2010   Northern California

    I love your last line...."But I will wait, because he is worth it. = )"  Sums it all up in a nutshell! Smile

     

     
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    crayfish    September 11, 2010   Berkeley, CA

    Holy cow, do NOT go into theat kind of debt for a wedding! I think your BF is totally right in wanting to wait - you should definitely be financially established before you make the leap. I'm glad you two are so great about communicating! :-)

     
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    CupcakeLove       Melbourne, Australia

    awww what a cute post! I am in the same boat as you - we are waiting to be able to afford it. It gets tough because you sometimes get impatient, but it is so much better than going into debt. You want to be able to enjoy the day and not worry about paying it off for the years afterwards!

     
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    mrsv2be    September 22, 2010  

    So cute! Congrats on finding the one :)

     
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    MissTatas    August 6, 2011   Minneapolis, MN

    I looked up from my laptop to a picture of my piercer on my bulletin board with all of his tattoos and piercings (and half shaved head, not quite a mohawk) and giggled.

    You two are super adorable! (and I love your shirt...)

     
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    jingle96    May 28, 2010   DW in ARUBA/livin' in VA

    Welcome to the HIVE!!  Thanks for sharing your story, I love how you 2 met!  And he really doesn't look like your typical piercer!  We're here for you while you wait! 

     
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    bryanneb61    May 5, 2012   Columbus, Ohio

    What a cute story - and you guys look great together!  He definitely doesn't look like the stereotypical piercer.

    It's great that you guys communicate with each other so well.  :)  I feel the same way about my guy - he's totally worth the wait.

     
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    missguenst    October 16, 2010   Tampa, Florida

    If you have already made the commitment to purchase a home together and be paying on a mortgage , which = debt. Why not marriage. I say take advantage of the economy. I have found it ALL to work in my favor. The date should be mutually decided upon and not one sided. Money should not be the reason to keep from making it official. Outline your budget and start looking around and negotiating. The country club where I am going to be married at and have my reception, is FREE for instance. Among many other things....So it's a blessing. Depends on how ya look at it :)

     

     
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    picturemeurs    February 2012  

    You two are cute! But I agree with missquenst, you already have such a big commitment to each other, maybe you should at least sit down and see how best and soon you can afford it. If you wait til you can absolutely afford it, it may never actually happen.

     

     
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    2PeasinaPod       Philadelphia

    Welcome to the Hive! That was a really adorable and refreshing story! And I'm glad you are both on the same playing field with the money and the wedding. You guys make a really adorable couple!

     
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    LetsGoPens    October 13, 2012   Pittsburgh

    LaughingI think it is so cute how you are short and he is tall! My boyfriend is 6'3" I am 5'3" and I think it is so cute!

    You really seem to have your head on your shoulders about the waiting thing!

     
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    Adira    October 3, 2009   New England

    You guys are cute and it seems like you have a good view of the situation!  I am a little confused though - why would wedding = 10k+ debt?  I know that weddings can be expensive, but they don't have to be.  Do you think neither of your parents will help out?  Or if they won't, do you have any money at all saved up, even just $5k?

     
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    DreamingBee    October 2012  

    You guys are so cute! And I agree with the OP's that you can have a beautiful wedding for not much $ at all. Just a little creativity, a little research, a little bargaining, and a little help from your friends.

    I was a BM for one of my dear friends, we live in a major metro area where the average wedding is 30k-50k. She did hers for 4-5k. Really. We all helped out. She found a great venue about an hour's drive away.  One of her friends officiated.  Someone else did decorations. I did the flowers.  It was really nice and old fashioned, becuase her whole community came together to help.  We all knew she'd been engaged for so long, and really wanted to get married even though she barely had any $ to do so. She was sick of waiting until they could afford it, she'd been waiting 10 years! She also wanted a vineyeard wedding and we thought NO WAY we could do that for under 20k. And guess what, we made it happen.

    Anything is possible!

     
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    sturpherz    March 21, 2012  

     I would just like to say that you ladies are beyond amazing!  I am in awe at how much support and love I feel when reading all of your comments. =) All of you should be proud of your selves!!  

    I know that he is 100% right in wanting to wait until we can afford it. And that is why I am just going to sit back and wait… impatiently! haha =)

     But you ladies have given me inspiration and hope! You’re absolutely right, there is nothing saying that a wedding has to be expensive. There are so many DIY ideas’ that help cut unnecessary costs of a wedding but still keep yours and his day feel just as if not more special. And I think once I have an opportunity to show him that, it will help him feel less weary about the costs of getting married and maybe just maybe help him feel a little more compelled to ask THE question. = )

    So thank you!!  You guys are the best online girlfriends a girl can have!!

     
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    diva81esq    November 11, 2011   DMV, PG Cnty~Ceremony in NC

    Just checking in...I love your post and I think most of us understand exactly where you're coming from!!  You are a great looking couple...I wish you both the best!!

     
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    picturemeurs    February 2012  

    He reminds me a little of Leo from charmed. A younger version. Lol.

     
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    Scribbles    June 1, 2012   Auckland, New Zealand

    @sturpherz: Love your message! Feel the same about my boy, I love him so I'll wait.

     
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    sturpherz    March 21, 2012  

    @Picturemeurs -  I get alot of Jerry O'Connell, Josh Turner and Paul Walker but this is the first Leo from Charmed... I will have to stick that on the list! Tongue out hahaha!!

     

     

     
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    missjyc    September 18, 2010   macomb, michigan

    @sturpherz: so cute and totally admire your patience, before you know it, you will be engaged! :)

     

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